Is it normal fiance's odd behaviour

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I met him a year ago and he proposed to me after three weeks of knowing eachother. He gave me a teddy bear and wine on our first date. What the problem is, is that i i'm not allowed to use facebook or talk to the opposite sex. When we go shopping together, he will suspect me for flirting with other guys. We can't go to clubs or bar neither because of his jelousy. I asked him if we could go bowling together and he immediately said no cause there are men there. Fast pace forward, is that he stalks me. We don't live together but after an drunk argument, i sometimes decide to leave. What he then does, is driving by my house and checks up on me. I know this isn't normal but i want to hear others thoughts on this.

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  • VirgilManly
    7 years ago | pl

    The good news is he doesn't chain you to the furnace.
    The bad news is that if you marry him nothing will change.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      It's a tough decision seeing as i don't have any friends.

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      • Ellenna
        7 years ago

        No family either? He's a control freak, so unless you want to live like this for the rest of your life get out now.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          7 years ago

          No not in the city i live. They have all moved and some i don't have contact with.

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          • Ellenna
            7 years ago

            Not knowing what resources are available where you live, I don't know what to suggest next, except to say that there is help & support for you out there somewhere and I hope you find it soon. It won't come knocking on your door though - you need to go looking for it. Good luck!

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      • MR.mr
        7 years ago

        I promise you won't ever get any friends if you stay with him, he will drive any would be friends away.

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  • Ratman2
    7 years ago

    Wait until you are married and he starts slapping you around. And that will be just a warm up to the other "fun" things he'll do to you. Four words: GET OF THIS!

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    • Ratman2
      7 years ago

      Sorry, a typo. But it bears repeating. Four words: GET OUT OF THIS!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      He has already laid hands on me, not hitting me but pushed me so forth.

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      • Ellenna
        7 years ago

        If you stay with him it'll get much worse than pushing, I guarantee it. This relationship has so many red flags you'd have to be crazy to stay.

        Please, find a crisis hotline, preferably one run by and for women, and get some support to leave this situation

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    You found yourself an abusive man who thinks he owns you. End the relationship as soon as possible, it'll get worse the longer you stay.

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    Bad situation. Run.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    Dump him, and take out a restraining order! Do it now, sweetheart... do it right now!

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  • MR.mr
    7 years ago

    Look I'm the first to sympathize with an overly jealous boyfriend, I'm always over protective and I think a little jealousy is even healthy
    .. BUT ..
    There is a difference between being jealous and protective and whatever the hell it is you are describing.
    He won't let you go to the freaking bowling alley, are you serious?
    Look, if he's this controlling already, I promise it will only get worse. You won't have any friends, because he will chase them away. I watched my mother chase away all of my fathers friends because she didn't like them. If he is as controlling as you say, I promise not only will the same thing happen to you but worse.

    These are clear signs, leave him IT WILL ONLY GET WORSE!
    Please don't let this continue any longer.
    Things will GET WORSE NOT BETTER!

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  • Tempest-au
    7 years ago

    Don't walk away from this relationship, run. And don't look back. This is typical controlling behaviours from a person who WILL get much worse as time progresses. God forbid you get married to this piece of shit, because then he will presume he completely owns you and will start using you as a punching bag too.

    Get a restraining order, move to a different state, do whatever you have to do, but get away from this freak before it gets much much worse, and it will.

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  • Digsbie
    7 years ago

    RUN !!!

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