Is it normal ex-bf and i sext each other, though he has a gf?

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Me and my ex boyfriend (long distance) broke up a couple of months ago due to me thinking the distance was too much of an issue. We still loved eachother and kept going as great friends, also sexting eachother and whatnot.

He then told me he got a rebound girl, he likes her but not nearly as much as me but he still wants a relationship with her. But he didn't want to stop my and his planning of having sex when meeting again (if he's single), and he still wants to sext me and talk lovingly (also send nudes). I told him this was wrong, basically cheating in my opinion, but he just sees it as entertainment even though he'd never tell his current gf.

I'm kindof angry at him since it feels like he uses me for sexual entertainment as his girlfriend isn't ready for all that, and yes I'm completely jealous over her but I can't shake the feeling of what I'm doing is wrong. I've told him this but he wants to keep going. And I'm also worried that if we stop, he'll lose his feelings for me?

Is it cheating, should I stop?

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    10 years ago | pl

    normal? no. he's trying to eat his cake and keep it on the plate too.

    Forget about what he SAYS to you - look at what he DOES. That will show where his heart really lies...

    and it sounds like he loves his cock more than either of you.

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      With all due respect...I'd have to argue that it is normal.

      It seems like one of the drawbacks of this site is the confusion between right/wrong, and normal/abnormal.

      It's absolutely normal for boys to use girls and for girls to submit...and vise-versa. It's wrong, but it's normal.

      The distinction seems so lost on so many here that a post saying "no! it's not normal to cheat on your spouse!" will reach the top of the page from so many thumbs up, but the fact is that 65% of people in committed relationships privately admit to infidelity.

      It's normal. It's wrong...but it's still normal.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        How can something be wrong and normal at the same time?

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        • [Old Memory]
          10 years ago

          At the risk of falling prey to sarcasm...

          The definition of "normal:"
          "the usual, average, or typical state or condition."

          The definition of "wrong:"
          "incorrect or untrue." or..."unjust, dishonest, or immoral."

          I actually thought that I gave a pretty good example of how someone could be both.

          From my comment:
          "the fact is that 65% of people in committed relationships privately admit to infidelity."

          ...or maybe you were making a statement about the degeneration of morals in society.

          ...or maybe I'm just overthinking your response.

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          • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
            10 years ago

            it all depends on what you consider normal i guess.

            although technically that fact is questionable anyway - it's hard to claim 'facts' from surveys the same way you might claim "carrots are high in vitamin A" as a fact.

            The former is hard to prove while the latter can easily be verified.

            but at any rate I suspect this isn't a healthy relationship for the OP to be in

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            • [Old Memory]
              10 years ago

              Point well taken.

              For the record...my source was from "Psychology" magazine, and confirmed by the information taught when I studied psychology...just to clarify that it didn't come from "The Enquirer" haha. I'd share the link, but that was from the early 90s. You're welcome to research it yourself if interested. Most studies like it seem consistent.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Yes it's cheating and you should stop! He's just leading you on and using you. Cut ties with him and move on with your life.

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  • driedroses
    10 years ago

    Honestly, why would you want to be with someone like that? Imagine yourself in the other girl's position. He's using both of you, and it's wrong. Move on with your life and don't look back!

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    Yeah, he's using both you and the other girl.

    He already has lost his feelings for you, so just stop.

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  • ccjigsaw
    10 years ago

    I only had to read the title to tell you no. Not okay.

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  • Eas1206
    10 years ago

    I've always gone by "it doesn't matter where you work up your appetite as long as you eat at home".

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  • screwthestandard
    10 years ago

    I did the same thing with my ex when I was 16 and he had a girlfriend because I wanted him back so badly. Yes it is cheating and its wrong. You're playing with fire.

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  • linchpin
    10 years ago

    Don't do thet

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