Is it normal boyfriend from 4 years ago wants to hang when he has a girlfriend?

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I am a senior in college. My boyfriend/best friend from high school stayed in our hometown, while I went to school in another state. We lost touch over the years. He has had a girlfriend for the past couple of years, and according to facebook pictures, they look extremely happy. I have a boyfriend too.

Heres the thing: when I go back home he contacts me and want to see me. When I hung out with him in the past (3 years ago), he told me he really loved me and wanted to get back together. I told him no, but I can tell he still wants too.

Now that he has a girlfriend, I am uncomfortable hanging out with him one on one. If he would invite me to be with both him AND his girlfriend, I would go in a flash. I would love to meet her, and spend time with him. I really miss him.

What should I do? I don't want to lose him as a friend. And it is uncomfortable to talk about old feelings after all this time, especially when he has a girlfriend. Help!!!

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Based on 21 votes (12 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    If hes not comfortable just being friends then perhaps hes not worth it.

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  • Holzman_67
    9 years ago

    wants to hang? or wants to bang?

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    • Unimportant
      9 years ago

      Wants to hang. Himself.

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      • Holzman_67
        9 years ago

        Too soon, too soon.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I can never understand what's so weird about these situations. I hangout with my ex girlfriends all the time.

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    • CoraCook
      9 years ago

      You're not the norm, you know that!

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        9 years ago

        It is hard to hang out with ex's. Especially if they have a new boyfriend/girlfriend. That is what this post is all about.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          Thanks Cora

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        It's still logical to stay friends with someone you obviously got along enough with to have a relationship, unless there was a good reason for the breakup.

        With my past girlfriends, we got along great but broke up because we weren't able to maintain that kind of relationship. Some people can be great friends but cannot get along while living together which was what things came down to.

        I can understand having a problem with someone who fucked the other person over but many breakups happen for reasons other than that.

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        • CoraCook
          9 years ago

          That's why I say you're not the norm. Most breakups come from irreconcilable differences (I think), which generally doesn't allow both parties to leave the relationship resentment-free. You are an exception to the rule. Good for you! :)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      ........

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  • Parky_Parker
    9 years ago

    From what you wrote, your current boyfriend deserves better than you. If you were committed, you wouldn't have this problem. By asking this question, it shows that you are willing to throw away your relationship in order to hang out with your ex even though you know your ex's intentions. Put yourself in your boyfriend's shoes for sec.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Sounds like a bunch of bullshit and oncoming drama is headed your way.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    How would YOUR boy friend feel about your spending time with this guy, with or without his girlfriend in tow?

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  • Couman
    9 years ago

    So just tell him what you told us.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I am afraid to. It is too much after all these years.

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