Iin: bf puts no effort into relationship but will with other women?

My boyfriend of two years spends all free time watching TV and sleeping. (It didn't use to be this way). A few months ago I brought up that couples need to do things occasionally together to keep the relationship from growing stale. He counters that he's exhausted from work and I let him be and get involved in my own things to the point where we barely speak anymore. He gives no sign he's interested in me unless it's booty time or we're talking about HIM. I am sick of watching Pawn Stars. Not even a thank you when I cook and hand him a plate in front of the TV. Though he says "I love you," (with no action to support this claim, except that he pays the house note so I should be grateful for that--and I am, but it's his way of shutting me off), It got to the point where I just go into another room to be away from the noise of his TV shows. This week, he's towing a woman's car from work who broke down in a "boo hoo" that she couldn't afford repairs and he's fixing her car. Though I understand helping someone out, I feel incredibly hurt that he'll work hours on her car, but only sleep/watch TV with me. I feel completely taken for granted.
I decided to be honest -- when he phoned, I told him I was really hurt that he would spend hours and hours fixing another woman's car when he will not get off the couch when with me. He called me CRAZY that I would think that and DON'T COME OVER THEN and hung up on me. I am beginning to believe he suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder and whatever, if he really cared about me, to express that I felt hurt should be addressed, not hung up on.
I suppose all the red flags are there and really I know the answer, but ... thoughts?

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  • pixie_dust

    You are being a door mat! Wake up, sister!!!! if u continue to stay with him, not only will u continue to b miserable, youre wasting time u could b using to meet someone that deserves u & b happy! The time with this sorry schmuck has run its course.. BELIEVE ME!! Now, focus on YOU. start working out (will help ur self esteem which u need to move on) and/or do things to benefit you. A good self esteem is the sexiest thing & u will have ur pick of men b4 no time. This guy is a loser, let him stay with that bitch he's fixing her car, he obviously cares more about her. Let him have her & go find your happiness!

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  • ccjigsaw

    Hold out on sex! Make it very clear that you wont do things like cook him dinner, have sex ,or hear about his day until he proves he can do the same for you! He has 3 days to prove to you that he can do the same things for you that you do for him. And don't let that money thing hang over your head. Just be selfish for 3 days and see what happens. The warning penalty for him not straightening up is that you'll leave him.. or some kind of ultimatum like "Honey, I'm giving you 3 days to prove to me that you can be a caring boyfriend, you better straighten up before it's too late." It wouldn't kill the guy to bring you home flowers, or take you out on a date... even make you dinner for once. You just have to remind him that you're not a permanent thing in his life if you don't want to be. The biggest poison in a relationship is thinking that no matter what you do your partner won't leave you. Remind him that you are a confident woman who can live without him if you want to! he can decide from there if he's going to appreciate you more or not. If the answers not... well, you're better off without him

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  • ThousandPoundsOfGanja

    You know he's your boyfriend, not your husband right? Leave that bum ass, go live with a friend for a little while or your parents, you deserve much better...

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  • Shotput'speanut

    You could try to do them same to him, not sure how.
    Also, you could find something you really enjoy doing weather he is apart of it or not.
    If your relationship is over, then at lest you'll have whatever it is you've chosen, to help get you though.
    Sorry, it sounds like your hurting on the inside, there is no easy answer
    Hope everything works out o.k. for you :)

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  • TheInfamousStranger

    Burn his clothes, slash his tires than slash her tires, break his tv than leave his bitch ass.

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  • Terence_the_viking

    you know a bra to the face is good motivation?

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