Is it normal being this upset with racism?

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I am a 24 year black man, I was born in Haiti but my parents were poor and gave me to adoption services, and when I was 3 years old I was adopted by a white American family. I was their first "child", and after me the couple had 3 biological children - two boys and one girl. Their youngest daughter, who is legally my sister, had her 10th birthday last weekend. She celebrated with a few friends and also because we live in Florida my parents decided to take us all to Disney World. I am a college graduate with a fulltime job but I was home that weekend so I chose to go with my family.

For the most part, we stuck together during the time we were there. But later that day, my younger sister wanted to go on a Spiderman ride and my parents and brothers were tired, so I decided to go with her because children are not allowed to ride by themselves. While we were standing in line, I could feel some people giving us funny looks and a white elderly couple was basically staring directly at us. I didn't want to do it, but my younger sister wanted to hold my hand because it was crowded and she was a little scared (and also excited) about going on the ride. That seemed to make things worse however. They didn't say it to my face, but I heard some white teenagers right behind me talking and using words like "ni**ger" and "pedo". That made me really upset and I wanted to turn around and say that she was my sister, but I didn't want to make a scene so I stayed quiet.

I am not so-called gangsta and I am respectful and responsible, but experiencing these kinds of reactions makes me very upset. I know there are good white people, such as my family who I love a lot and who respect me as an individual regardless of the color of my skin, but this isn't the first time that something like this has happened. And each time I am stunned at how ignorant people can be.

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charli.m

7 years ago

Some people are cunts. You have every right to feel upset for being treated so awfully for no reason.

Sadly, many on this site are racist cunts and you're likely to get a lot of shit on this.

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- LittleGirlRapedAndSodomised#Q9
  
  7 years ago
  
  https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scientific_racism
  
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  - charli.m
    
    7 years ago
    
    Do you not understand the meaning of pseudoscience? Is that really what you're going to use to defend yourself?
    
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    - LittleGirlRapedAndSodomised#Q9
      
      7 years ago
      
      That's what Wikipedia says. Metapedia.org is down right now because of Race Deniers DDOS probably so well just get straight to the point...
      
      http://library.flawlesslogic.com/
      
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        7 years ago
        
        I don't click your links, I know it's pseudoscience because I have a brain.
        
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dynamohumm

7 years ago

What charli m said is correct. Racism is abhorrent but I am afraid it is everywhere in the world, I am sorry to say. Also she (charli) is right, there are a few (well one to about 5) people on this site with many user names who are complete racist cunts, so please ignore them, they are disgusting trolls.

Good luck for you in the future, hopefully you will meet more people like your parents and friends.

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wigz

7 years ago

Hold her hand and fuck what anybody thinks. It'll mean the world to her, trust me, from a former little girl whose brother let her down big time.

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  How did your brother let you down?
  
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masterbaiter

7 years ago

I know there are good white people. Hmm... That kinda feels like a poor word choice if you're talking about racism itself. But yeah, racism is terrible and everyone has the right to be very angry about it. Like skin color and origin have anything to do with their cliche stereotypes.

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[Old Memory]

7 years ago

Not normal. By 24 you should be used to it. I'm half Japanese, and by my early teens, I had already grown accustomed to the racist remarks. I'm 19 now, and I feel absolutely nothing towards them anymore. Eventually you accept that this is the unique way of suffering fate has chosen for you. When for the majority of your school years everyone addresses you as chink, when your whole identity revolves around you being the "asian kid", and when women want nothing to do with you, racism tends to not affect you anymore, just like how you grow resistance to higher caliber bullets by frequently shooting yourself with lower caliber bullets. Maybe you grew up in an area with a dense black population, where racism is less apparent, so you never grew a tolerance towards it.

Most of the people in this thread are going to ejaculate their load of cutesy "racism is bad" remarks. Honestly, what does that accomplish? Fucking nothing, that's what. You can call racism bad all you want, and it's not going to change anything. Repeating the same politically correct phrases over and over again never solved anything. Maybe it will work on a child, but eventually people are going to come to their own conclusions of what each race is like based on their own experience, and minorities will eventually take in reality for what it is, and thereafter your politically correct phrases will have no use on them. The steps that need to be taken to end these issues are very obvious and simple. However, when someone actually wants to discuss what needs to be done to solve the issue of racial discrimination, these same politically correct people will label you a racist for acknowledging that saying cutesy politically correct phrases isn't accomplishing anything, and that actual measures need to be taken.

PC people use the tactic of deluding minorities into believing they stand an equal chance in this nation. I showed a picture of myself to a user on this site, and just as I expected, she made up a bunch of lies about how she's dated Asian men, how she thinks Asian men are handsome, how her white friends dated asian men, etcetera. Funny how the things PC people tell us are all the complete opposite of what we've had to put up with. Why do they do this? I still don't know. Maybe they feel like it's the morally correct thing to do. Maybe they get a warm and fuzzy feeling inside when they spread this propaganda. These are the same types of women who would politely tell me to fuck off if I approached them in real life.

The problem isn't going to solve itself. Mixing the races and creating more diversity, and hence an even more divided people, certainly isn't going to solve it. Even in 1000 years, after tremendous amounts of interbreeding, there will still be multiple races, as mate selection follows patterns. It isn't just a random shuffling of genes. On top of that, pure blooded foreigners will continue to immigrate into mixed populations, so even pure blood will not be eliminated through mass interbreeding.

Call me "racist", whatever, but I'd rather be a "racist" who cares about the welfare of the human race, than some self righteous politically correct person who only fuels the problem.

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Thorolf

7 years ago

Agreed. Racism is stupid.

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angellduvall

7 years ago

The day we become desensitized to all sorts of hate, esp racism, we will all be dickheads like the first person who commented under this thread. One of his main issues is that a lot of women don't desire to date East Asian men as far as he's seen. That's not racism. There's a difference between not being sexually attracted to certain people and being racist. I'm not going to tell a "PC" lie here, I'm not physically attracted to East Asian men. I have no idea why. I'm attracted to white, black, South Asian, mixed, etc. but not sexually attracted to East Asian men. If an EA man is cute, I have no problem saying so but I've never had a crush or wanted to be with one. There's nothing behind it like hate of any kind. The funny part is that I'm attracted to EA women. No problem fantasizing about them whatsoever.

Some people obviously aren't clear on what racism is at times, and too many people call EVERYTHING racism when it's not.

As for the OP, if you don't learn to stand up to racism now, you never will. As another person of color, in a way you were at a disadvantage growing up in a white household. There are things you don't understand because you weren't exposed to it, but that's not your fault. However, you probably have a lot of identity issues to deal with--some you may recognize, some you don't. But obviously they're there if you posed this question. Not trying to be mean, just an observation.

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  ----"I have no idea why. I'm attracted to white, black, South Asian, mixed, etc. but not sexually attracted to East Asian men."
  "I have no idea why"
  Just because you're too stupid to introspect and understand the reasons for your own thoughts does not mean they're not racist. Outright refusing to date a race under any circumstances is BY DEFINITION RACISM, and racism is normal.
  
  One of the primary contributors to sexual attraction is the media people consume, and Asian males have been systematically underrepresented and misrepresented by hollywood. Lack of sexual attraction is CREATED by racism, like how many white men don't want to reproduce with black women because of their statistically lower IQ. Racism majorly affects attraction, and therefore attraction is fundamentally racist. Stop bullshitting yourself, fucktard.
  
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  - angellduvall
    
    7 years ago
    
    I've already replied to u twice and my responses keep getting deleted. No idea why.
    
    The bottom line is you're a jerk and a racist yourself. You threw out that whole comment about black women & white men just bc u know my race--well done. But that whole IQ thing has so many holes in it, especially since there r so many white men that have married black women and have kids with them.
    
    I can tell you're intelligent from your posts, but that'spart of your problem: you're 19 and u think u know everything in life just because of a few things you've experienced. The truth is, u dont. Newsflash: other kids have gone through being called "the white kid", " the black kid", "the Indian kid" bc they were the minority where they lived or went to school. You're not the only one, and not everyone who has experienced that turns out to be hostile and black-hearted like you.
    
    There is a difference between PREFERENCE and RACISM, and u don't seem to get that. I know how entertainment depicts East Asians, but that's not a sole determining factor for me and a lot of others. EA men aren't the only men that I'm not attracted to, but they were the 1st that came to mind bc u mentioned it. Everybody isn't going to be sexually attracted to everyone. Simple. Stop trying to make something an issue of racism when it isn't.
    
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    - [Old Memory]
      
      7 years ago
      
      Long comments on this site have to go through a spam check by the admins before they're posted. You can bypass it by posting a shorter comment then editing in the longer one. I think it only affects new users.
      
      Look, the way you wrote about East Asian men did sound insanely racist. It's one thing to say you prefer a certain race, but you didn't just say that, you had to emphasize your extreme dislike for East Asian men by saying you're attracted to EVERY RACE EXCEPT EA men. Some people strictly date within their own race to preserve their racial bloodline, and that's ok, but when you say you're attracted to EVERY RACE EXCEPT 1 race, you do come across as racist.
      
      You said you're not physically attracted to East Asian men. You didn't just say you find most East Asian men physically unattractive, the way you phrased it was that you categorically could not find an East Asian man physically attractive. It's true that on average, East Asians are skinnier and a bit shorter than the other races, and I understand that those are traits women aren't typically attracted to, but that's just an average, and there are some outlier EA men who are both tall and muscular, so to make such a general statement as "I'm not physically attracted to East Asian men", you do sound like you have racist intent.
      
      The tone I get from your posts is that you have a definite stance on East Asian men, and that is not a preference. An example of preference would be if 2 men of different races, who have an equal amount of mentally and physically admirable qualities perceived by a woman, are in a contest to win the woman's affection, and the woman chooses 1 man over another because of his race. That would be an example of preference. Even though a preference is crafted by external stimuli, and racism is one of the primary external stimuli, I still could not fault a woman for making that choice, as it's totally innocent in nature. Your post was the complete opposite of that though. You didn't soften your statement by saying you could make an exception if you met an East Asian man with exceptional qualities, you said you outright are not physically attracted to any of them, and then went on to list a bunch of the stereotypes you've created about us East Asian men.
      
      I've experienced women like you in the past. Along with being half Japanese, I'm also a quarter British and a quarter Italian, so it's not always instantly apparent I'm asian under certain lighting. I've had situations in the past where women have approached me, and once they got a closer look at my face, asked me if I was asian. Once I give them my answer, I notice an instant change in the tone of the conversation, where they try to wrap it up as quickly as possible. American women have an extreme prejudice towards Asian men. Even if a girl were to somewhat like me, she would be afraid her friends would judge her for dating an Asian guy. Even asian women have been turned against their own race. Latino women, for some reason, are the only ethnic group to commonly show an open mind to Asian men. All the other races are outright opposed to it.
      
      It's true East Asian men often have frail bodies that turn women off, but you'd think that being the highest income earners, having the lowest rate of crime, and the highest average IQ, of all the ethnic groups, would more than make up for that deficit. Statistically, Asian Americans are the most civilized, productive citizens in the country. Yet, Asian men are still the least desirable race/gender combination, along with black women. (no, I'm not attacking you personally, just stating a fact). This is what leads me to the conclusion that racism is what fuels this unwanted status of Asian men. When we have so many positive qualities that are looked over, the only conclusion I can come to is that Asian men are the victims of extreme oppression. We are the numerically smallest minority out of all the ethnic groups, and therefore we get the least fair treatment in all spheres of society. We get hardly any political or entertainment representation whatsoever in this country because we're so few in numbers. The only American show I can think of off the top of my head that has given a fair treatment to an Asian male is the Walking dead. For the most part, representation of Asian men has been reduced to degrading caricatures, like the asian guy in the Hangover.
      
      For the record, you don't sound stupid to me, just unrealistic and dishonest with yourself. I replied to you in a hostile way because that's the treatment you gave me.
      
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      7 years ago
      
      I really hope this 1 doesn't get deleted bc I'm seriously tired of this kid and this thread...
      
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  - angellduvall
    
    7 years ago
    
    I can tell from your posts that you are, in fact, intelligent, but that's a major part of your problem (even though I doubt you think you have any). You think you know everything there is to know about life and relationships and race, but you're only 19! And let me explain something to you, the only reason I referred to you as a "dickhead" is because anyone that is racist and perpetuates racism is a dickhead in my eyes, and you're no exception. And aside from that, you're completely disrespectful. The way I say things online would be something I'd say to someone's face, I wouldn't need to hide behind the internet and anonymity, which it seems that most people do on this website. Everything you say tells me something about you, and trust me, it's not good.
    
    I actually replied to your comment very early this morning, but when I came back on this site earlier, I no longer saw it. I know that people like you ALWAYS have to reply back with something negative regardless of what someone says, which was actually why I wondered why you didn't respond. People like you will always have some comeback whether it makes sense or not. You're on this site to rant because you're miserable and all you can do is take it out on strangers and I actually find that very sad.
    
    Okay, you know I'm black because I've said so, so obviously that comment about white men not wanting to reproduce with black women was a shot at me. Well done. But your story has so many holes in it because there are a lot of white men out in the world that have married and had children with black women. You know--the WORLD--the place where the rest of us live and you should experience more.
    
    Even though I don't judge all EA men by the EA men I've come in contact with, I will say that I've never had a positive experience dealing with EA people in my hometown. And no, I'm not just saying that to take a shot at you, I'm explaining something. I've never had a nice convo with an East Asian man. Usually, they're all condescending and just overall unpleasant. Other than that, I've only experienced racism FROM EA men. All of the East Asians that I know of personally keep to themselves completely. They are very standoffish and totally keep to their own. On top of that, they have a tendency to look at black people as if we disgust them. And even with all of that, I wouldn't say that I hate East Asian men because the very few that I've come in contact with do not represent an entire race. I'm smart enough (doubt you think it) and old enough to realize that.
    
    There's a huge difference between having a PREFERENCE in who you sleep with or are attracted to and RACISM. I have various preferences concerning sexual and overall physical attraction, but the thing I value most in any individual is the quality of their intellect and my emotional connection with them. I can't make myself like someone that I just don't like--NO ONE CAN. Again, I'm old enough to realize something like that. I had a black man who was very into me about 13 years ago and I tried to force myself to like him because of the way he seemed to put me on a pedestal, but I couldn't do it. Aside from EA men, I also don't find light skin black men sexually attractive (though I can admit that some are good looking), even though I can easily find mixed race men sexually attractive. I DON'T KNOW WHY THAT IS!!! Lots of people don't know why they're sexually attracted to one group of people and not another. You're not going to be attracted to everyone; we're just not built that way. Just because a white woman isn't sexually attracted to a black man, I won't assume she's racist, and if a Japanese girl isn't sexually attracted to a mixed race person, I wouldn't automatically assume she's racist either. I'd be typing all day if I broke down the groups of men I was attracted to and why, and others who I weren't attracted to, and Hollywood has never dictated that. I'm my own person and I have my own mind. I realize how East Asians are portrayed in entertainment, but that has nothing to do with my feelings.
    
    From what I've gathered from your response, you are really just a nasty, angry person and I actually feel sorry for you. I also realize that you'll probably break this comment down in sections trying to explain how I'm wrong about this or that, and that's fine. It's all good, but it won't help you. You say that you were referred to as "that Asian kid" and this and that, but there were plenty of other kids that grew up being referred to as "that black kid", "that white kid", "that Indian kid" at their schools or in their towns where they were the minority. I've experienced horrible racism, but in your eyes, it doesn't matter because of the way you are, which in essence, even if you don't think you are, you come across as just another hate-filled racist bastard that wants to pull everyone else down to where you are in life.
    
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  - angellduvall
    
    7 years ago
    
    I'm stupid yet you don't know the definition of racism. You're obviously VERY angry, but your anger doesn't make me any less introspective or less intelligent. I'm also not sexually attracted to all black men, but that doesn't mean I hate them. I'm not attracted to ALL white men either.
    
    If I said that I wasn't attracted to EA men b/c I think they all have small penises or I didn't want my kids to come out with slanted eyes that would be different, and that would make me racist same as what some people say what you said about black women.
    
    You can call me whatever you wish. Disrespect me all you want, but it's not going to change the fact that everything you say I'd completely ignorant. I've experienced real racism by other men before but in your case it's just sad.
    
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SirChazwick

7 years ago

Sticks and stones may break your bones but words should never hurt you.

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  Words do hurt, sure they only have the power that you give them but some things are harder to shake off than others.
  
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Birdprince

7 years ago

most white people are racist fucking cunts and think their superior because they got the skin color of a fucking cracker. honestly you should of caused a scene and stood up for yourself and told them that she was your sister.

white people are the most racist, but fortunately not all of them are like that.

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Are You Normal?

Is it normal being this upset with racism?