Iin2be terrified at thought of looking after my brother in far future?

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See also: http://isitnormal.com/story/is it normal to-wish-your-brother-would-die-given-the-following-vlongsoz-58735/

A few nights ago, we had a conversation and he said the following "The truth is we aren't very close, but we are fond of each other as we do different things altogether."

I responded with "...if you say so", and I think stuff went downhill from there.

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One thing I am more terrified of than anything else is when my parents are too old to be able to really look after the two of us [We're both in our mid-twenties].
I feel like the burden of taking care of him would be placed on me if he wasn't going to end up in a care home.

I feel like everyone around him is being too soft on him and that he needs tough love and probably even abuse to make him see just how much wrong he is doing.
In some ways he seems intelligent and possibly even perceptive, but in others he seems to me like an incomprehending, mentally retarded robot. I believe he understands a lot less than his vocabulary let on.

Mum reckons he would just live on junk food and be ont he computer all day if she and the staff in his home didn't try and help him become healthier and provide activities for him. I think they should let him just get fat and live like a creepy, socially inept, physcially and mentally ill, smelly recluse because he never even tries to help himself.

I almost want to have to take care of him so I can then neglect him and he will eventually realise he has to help himself instead of being a parasitic wasp.
I'm not too worried about being arrested myself were I to allow neglect to happen; I just want him to suffer.
Then again, I don't want to because of the responsibility and having to keep in line with the law.

I am honestly amazed that he has managed to live as long as he has.

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Someone in the post I made in the link at the top of the page said I should use my knowledge of autism to try and have empathy for him and make the best of what little contact we have.... but I don't know how or where to start when I hate everything he likes and he doesn't know or care about stuff I like; our understandings of the world are radically different and his very existence annoys the fuck out of both me and my mum at the very least.

I honestly do not understand how she can put up with him.

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  • Koda
    12 years ago

    Well, the fact that you wish your brother dead in your other post thoroughly disturbs me. I think it goes without saying, that that is not normal thinking.

    I think you need to re-evaluate your opinion of your brother. In order to do that, you'd probably have to try to understand him better. That will involve really getting to know your brother. Before you'll be able to accept him as he is, you have to know why he acts the way he does. His behaviour could be very logical to him.

    If you have any hope of loving your brother you have to try to see the good in him, and not consider him parasitic or wholly evil. Something made him the way he is, remember, and he's a living, feeling soul. You have to show him compassion, and try to become a positive figure in his life, even if he isn't a positive one in yours. Life isn't always fair...

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  • Seagirl
    7 years ago

    Oh just read more..yeah your an evil bitch...you should be more understanding and loving to all of your family...join a autistic siblings group....why would you cheer when he has no care staff? Selfish little bitch is what you sound like...shame on you!

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  • Seagirl
    7 years ago

    You sound like a self serving selfish bitch to me.Get him a waiver and just make sure others that are paid to care for him are. You hire and fire..get hidden cameras and make sure staff is not abusing him and caring fir him..meds docs etc.....the waiver will pay them...good luck...

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  • BlueAlice
    11 years ago

    My brother's been chucked out of his accommdation for threats towards the care staff. I openly cheered. Mum called me a heartless bitch and told me I should grow up.
    Being chucked out of your accommodation for being evil is enough punishment for him, apparently.

    I know there's no way I would ever be allowed to look after him because of what social services and my parents would say, but HE NEEDS TO BE PUNISHED SOMEHOW.
    I don't know what to do or exactly what's going on right now, but I'll keep everyone posted even if nobody reads these things.

    Sometimes the ether is the only form of conversation you can have

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