Iin2be suspicious of my friend's boyfriend, given the following?

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They met the night after my birthday [in mid-September] and have been on 4-6 dates since the 4th October.

I have only met they guy that once and was too busy dancing to speak to him, but he and my friend seemed to get on quite well and swapped numbers.

His Facebook status is currently still single (Not abnormal, I don't think: My boyfriend and I were together for 2 months before coming out as a couple).

Had a snoop on his Facebook profile with mate's permission and he seems like an OK person, even though he has his Info hidden and seems a bit chavvy-looking to me. Then again, it's not me dating him, so it doesn't matter.

I haven't heard anything negative from the friend, although the the only good points I've heard are about his looks, how much she and/or they enjoyed their dates and how intense it feels when they kiss/touch (Nothing more - I would know by now if anything had happened).

I hate to be acting like a girl, but I have a small suspicion in the back of my mind that he might not be 'being faithful' to her - Whatever her definition of that is - and could well have been having fun with other people during the holiday he came back from yesterday at time of writing (23.11.2011).

He was on holiday for a week. Friend suggested they meet this weekend, but he said he'd put on weight and wanted to get his eating habits back to normal before seeing her.

She said that she thought it was cute but didn't care what he looked like, and has mentioned how he complimented her on her curves.

So am I being normal or bahving like the average girl that I was unfortunately born as?

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  • chadams
    12 years ago

    Why don't you want your friend to be happy? Leave it be. It is not your business if he is or isn't cheating. If you value your friendship you should back off. If I were your friend I'd be pissed off that you are so determined to find something wrong with my guy.

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    • BlueAlice
      12 years ago

      Don't be silly!

      I don't wish her any ill fortune whatsoever and I'm not about to be an asshole and say "Your boyfriend's telling porkies about where he was!"/"He'll never be faithful, all men are dogs!", or smirk and say "Told you so" IF it does turn out he *has* played away... even if it turns out he's lying.

      I don't believe there is such a thing as cheating in my book, but I know other people have tighter boundaries than I do and there's always the possibility he's overstepped her boundaries.

      It's unfair of me to assume anything, so I'll see what she says about him over the next couple of weeks or so.

      I have said nothing bad about him to her - or indeed anyone else other than you lot, and *that* is just going by what my friend has said - and I obviously wish neither of them any harm.

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      • Britton
        12 years ago

        Don't believe in cheating? So if your man of 3 years decides he wants to fuck some hussy on the side you won't get upset?

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        • BlueAlice
          12 years ago

          No offense, but you're making assumptions here.

          In fact, I would say that **I** am more likely to want to fuck somebody on the side. My boyfriend is a Christian and, of course, has been bullied into being uncomfortable with anything vaguely sexual.

          He is often uncomfortable enough with US TWO having vanilla sex, and has had his boundaries disrespected by previous girlfriends ["Has been cheated on", to put it in a language most people use].

          In my case, I've always had looser boundaries than people I've been involved with and would like nothing more than to have an open relationship.

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          • Britton
            12 years ago

            I wasn't trying to assume anything, I'm sorry. I was just merely using him as an example....does he know that you have or would possibly cheat on him? And to me, it sounds a little like you're unhappy with some parts of the relationship...sucks to hear that because compatibility is essential and especially in the bedroom....sucks to hear that you're in that situation....sounds rather boring :(

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            • BlueAlice
              12 years ago

              Sorry for getting arsey with you. It's fair enough that you said it. *offers hand to shake*

              What he knows is that I had a one-night stand while in a previous relationship and I regret it. [Truth is, I do and don't...]

              I don't know if he knows I might do in the future, or indeed may well have done.

              If there's somebody in a club who shows interest, I back down not because I'm not interested in them (Necessarily), but mostly because I'm sure friends would consider me a skank. Of course STI/pregnancy potential [read: lack of protectionis a factor as on me] is a factor as well.

              Plus, I still don't know for sure what he considers acceptable/unacceptable if I meet somebody in a club below that and I wouldn't know whether to tell him or not if anything below sex happened on a night out.

              Eh, maybe I don't need to say anything... I'd just like to know one way or another. In fact, the last time I had a pass made at me, I considered the question of asking his permission beforehand, but I didn't think there'd be a good way to go about it. Above all,it was a friend's birthday at the time.

              What's more frustrating is that - in many ways - we're practically made for each other and balance each other out very well most of the time.

              Apologies for the rant there; do tell me to shut up if I'm being an emo little bitch!

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  • Ono
    12 years ago

    So you just think he's been unfaithful for no real reason? You sound incredibly jealous to me.

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    • BlueAlice
      12 years ago

      Here's the kicker: I'm in a relationship myself, and have been for almost three years!

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  • helpmeonly
    9 years ago

    sounds like my ex who always trys to make me or my gf break up so she have me

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