Is it normal aversion to couples and pregnant/breastfeeding moms?

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Female, single, childless, biological clock ticking, long-standing 'mommy issues' and attachment issues.

I have an aversion to pregnant and breastfeeding women, and kissing/touching romantic couples of any sex combination. Their very presence makes me feel upset and full of a visceral sort of hatred that I don't feel about anything else in the world. Especially breastfeeding moms if they are breastfeeding in the same vicinity as me, and lovingly cooing over their darlings. If I can help it, I try not to be in the same room as them. It makes me feel so much pain.

Is this normal?

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Based on 11 votes (3 yes)
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  • Aethylfritha
    3 years ago

    Its not normal but its not uncommon. In many countries its not sexualized.
    I breastfed my kid in public but i just covered with a blanket or towel.
    You should ask yourself whats so bad about it? Or is it just a problem with your perception of it?

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  • litelander8
    3 years ago

    Nope. Not every time a woman breast feeds her baby is she “cooing” them. In fact she’s simply FEEDING it. Many people have attractions to pregnant women. It’s a sign of fertility and we are animals.

    You need to see a professional and discuss wtf is wrong with you.

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    • RoseIsabella
      3 years ago

      I think breastfeeding is beautiful!

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        3 years ago

        It is if you get to do it. 😢

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        • RoseIsabella
          3 years ago

          I'm sorry that you were not breastfed as a baby. Have you ever talked to a therapist about this?

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  • SkullsNRoses
    3 years ago

    Not wanting kids is ok but being unable to look at pregnant women or mothers is unhealthy. You should see a therapist about the issues you have had with your own mother.

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  • mouldiwarp
    3 years ago

    It isn’t like these women can wait until later, babies have high metabolisms, a growing body, and no patience.

    Breasts are not reproductive organs and aren’t sexual unless you treat them that way. Their primary purpose is to feed a child, that’s it. Breastfeeding provides very important nutrients for the development of a baby’s brain and immune system that they can’t get from artificial formula, the act of breast feeding also strengthens the emotional bond between both people involved and helps the child to learn they can trust their mother as someone who cares about them and can be depended upon.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      It isn't like I can wait until later, either...
      Having kids is a privilege but society treats it like a right, and woe betide anyone who disagrees.

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      • Aethylfritha
        3 years ago

        Tbh i think certain child abusers shouldnt be allowed to have kids.

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      • mouldiwarp
        3 years ago

        How is it not a right? Anyone is allowed to have kids, you want to take that freedom away from people? For what reason, your own personal feeling that it's icky or whatever to breastfeed? Don't take your anger out on other people, figure out how to work through your issues without making everyone around you feel bad too. Nobody deserves that.

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      • RoseIsabella
        3 years ago

        How does this point of view serve you? You are powerless over other people, places and things. I think you should seek to detach from these things, detach from these negative feelings.

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago

    Yuck! I don't have any kids, but I think breastfeeding is awesome, it's like a mommy superpower! My mom breastfed me til I was two years old, and it was good!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      My mom said I refused to be breastfed. Apparently it was traumatic. I get upset when I see breastfeeding women to this day 😢.

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      • RoseIsabella
        3 years ago

        So are you upset when you see breastfeeding women, because you were not breastfed? Breastfeeding isn't always perfect, but it's the best thing, especially for newborn babies. Maybe your mother didn't have anyone to help her learn to breastfeed you? La Leche League is an organization that helps new mothers learn about breastfeeding.

        When you say that you upset when you see breastfeeding women to this day, what do you mean. Can you define upset for me? What sort of painful feelings do you get?

        I believe that this doesn't have to be a lifelong affliction, this doesn't have to define you.

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        • Bazinga
          3 years ago

          I agree with you about the beauty, but have a slight objection here. My wife bottle fed kid #1 and kid #2. As they grew up, she kicked them into line and they became responsible ambitious team players. But she breast fed kid #3 because it was her last chance. As kid #3 grew up, he could use just the right tone of voice and she couldn't say no. Now he's 39 years old. He can't shut up to take a bit of shit to get the job done. He's an asshole to authority, and impulsively tells people to fuck off. Military service is not an option for him.

          AND YES, it goes back to breast feeding which can turn certain good women into objects of manipulation. Strong attachment has its drawbacks, and the results are not fucking cute. End_of_rant.

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  • my_life_my_way
    3 years ago

    You’re just bitter that you don’t have kids or a man

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    • RoseIsabella
      3 years ago

      How framing your opinion in this way help OP with his, or her resentments?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      You're right there. But that evaluation only scratches the surface of where this pain is coming from.

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      • RoseIsabella
        3 years ago

        So then what is beneath the surface, from where does the pain come?

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