Is it normal and he is just being my friend?

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Right so, this was a few months back now, but here we go.
I have a partner/boyfriend of 7 years and 2 children. a while ago I became pretty close to a married guy at work, by chatting online alot. i know what most people would think with that already. But bear in mind all my mates are guys so I thought of nothing of this at the time. mostly we just talked films, games. sometimes complaining about work.

But then one night after work he waited with me at a bus stop, we chatted as normal then I went home. then he send me a message saying he wishes he could say what was on his mind etc etc. I asked him what he ment and he came out with that if we were both single he would have held me closer and tighter. when confronted he sad he ment nothing by it. but since then he has come out with other things. like for example,he trusts me with stuff more than his wife and how he loves it when we hug (which i saw as a 'friend hug'). Just wanted to ask if anyone thinks he is genuinely being my friend. or just trying it on without directly saying it.
Also my guy does know about him so it's not a secret in my relationship. but I don't think his wife knows he talked to me like this.
So my question being, like I said, is it normal for a guy to talk like this and only trying to be my friend. Or is he trying for something more?

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  • Sog
    11 years ago

    I don't see why anyone would lie about something like this. It's obvious that he has feelings for you but he's confused and unsure about how to handle them given that he's already married. Unless you're interested in turning both of your lives upside down, you've made the right choice by distancing yourself from him.

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  • plum6
    11 years ago

    I am a guy, but I am in a similar situation, so I guess it is not strange to have these feelings.

    I do not have kids but I have been with my girl for over 4 years how. However, recently I met another woman who is also in a long-term relationship, and we simply seem to have amazing chemistry.

    Even though we never got sexual we do hug intimately and have both admitted to have feelings for eachother.

    I myself am very confused too. This other woman is new and exciting and I think about her a lot. However, my girlfriend is amazing and I cannot really imagine myself leaving her. I am personally hoping that time will decide for me, and that at one point I either get so infatuated with this other woman that I would be willing to end my current relationship, or that I will become bored by her and realize that what I have is what I really need.

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  • starbug747
    11 years ago

    to be honest ive already cut ''things'' off with him. i only talk to him at work now. but i still wonder if he was being honest with me or not. so just wanted others opinion thanks

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  • ygrowup
    11 years ago

    Appears he desires something more

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    It's clear that the guy wants to have a relationship of some other kind with you. If you are living a happy relationship better tell him to calm down.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    It's hard to say not every bloke is the same it could be that he only enjoys your company or it could be that he wants more just proceed with caution.

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