Is it normal an employee has a better relationship with my father than me?

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growing up I always tried to make my dad proud. I never felt like i accomplished that goal. Now that i'm older and working for my dad, I've noticed that his employee a year younger than me (21), has the relationship I always wanted with my dad.

I'm not sure if i'm experiencing jealousy or if this kid is so far up his ass it annoys me. They hang out at lunch and have get togethers with their wives. I'm like "wtf?"

I asked my dad why this kid is up his ass and he told me when the guy was 13 his alcoholic father would try making him drink hard liquor and when he didn't, he would get the shit beat out of him. My dad, being friends with his dad, would "intercept" these drinks and sorta look out for the guy.

That's sad and shit, but it's like "what about me, dad?" I don't know. I feel like i'm too old to concern myself with childish shit like this, but it DOES bother me.

The thing is, I don't think highly of my father like I did when I was a kid. So why would I be jealous of that relationship? I think it may have something to do with bringing up childhood memories of people I always considered to be my dad's "favorite".

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  • wigsplitz
    11 years ago

    My dad does this to us too. He keeps friends that are around the age of me and my brother. He's nice to them, he shows concern for them, he'd do anything for them and not yell at them or treat them like crap like he does us.

    The best answer I can come up with is, they don't know my dad like we do, and he never had to live with these guys as kids or deal with any of the negatives. For both sides, all they see is the positive qualities as fathers and sons because they only do the 'fun' and easy stuff as father figure and son figure. These guys hold my dad at a higher level of respect because they only know him as this awesome guy that would do anything for them, and my dad feeds off of the extra and easy respect he gets from his other 'kids'. He's their hero!! And they're his perfect kids he never had!!

    Your dad probably doesn't realize he does this. He probably thinks you were fed, clothed and safe so you had everything you needed and here was another kid who really needed help. Also maybe this kid really is grateful to your dad for helping him so that's why he's up his ass. It seems like your dad very well was a big help and influence for this kid and apparently the kid has a shitty dad....looks like you have to share your dad!

    My dad has also had life long drug and alcohol problems, which is another reason he tends to keep younger friends.

    I know how you feel, and all I can really tell you to help you is what I've said above as a possible explanation for why this is and that you probably can't change the situation but you can change the way it affects you. This used to bother me when I was younger until I think I figured it out. I could be totally wrong, though, but this explanation makes me feel OK about it and allows me to just be all right and not pissy or jealous about it. Hope I helped!!

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