Is it normal after a break up...

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Is it normal after a break up to have a hard time getting that person out of your head. I apologize. This was my first and only relationship and it lasted 2 years. It's been a few weeks and I can't get thoughts of him out of my head.

At first it was just missing him. Now it's anger about the lies he used to manipulate me. He admitted to lying to me over and over again.

is it normal to have a hard time with thinking about him too much a few weeks after a break up? Also, do you have some advice on how I can stop thinking about him, so I can move on? I don't want some kind of rebound. I want to heal and move on though. Advice appreciated.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Yes, it's perfectly normal. Missing, anger and even self recrimination. A time may come when you will think that the whole break up was your fault, even though you know it wasn't. And the temptation to forgive and forget and get back together. You may not be able to listen to certain songs without getting depressed. We all go through these feelings after a break up..
    Absolutely the best thing for you is to go out and enjoy yourself. Sitting home and thinking about a lost love is fruitless. Be with friends, see movies go on walks or whatever you enjoy doing.
    Another will come along who is so much better that this ex, who will fade to a distant memory.

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    • Steve2
      8 years ago

      Geez. That's a lot of drama over no sex. You know what I did when I broke up with my first and only girlfriend in high school? Decided it was time to go to university, make investments and be successful.

      I don't understand why people like you make such a huge deal out of such trivial things like break ups. Am I the only person who enjoys being single and doesn't want a girlfriend/boyfriend in my life?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Thanks so much. This is helpful advice. You're right about going out and having fun with friends

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  • bucho's_butt
    8 years ago

    You guys don't know what the fuck you're talking about. Humans are governed by emotions and instinctual urges. Whether or not they choose to be affected by a breakup has nothing to do with IQ.

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  • bucho's_butt
    8 years ago

    I imagine that it's just not mentioned in the history books about whether or not those great inventors and innovators had attachments.

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  • bucho's_butt
    8 years ago

    Are you above connecting with people emotionally or what?

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  • bucho's_butt
    8 years ago

    And you're trying to imply that you understand life on a profound level? Why are you here then? Because people who involve themselves with social media are doing so based on an instinctual drive to feel like they belong. When people respond to their questions they get a surge of dopamine that reinforces their behavior. You're welcome.

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  • Steve2
    8 years ago

    You know the best thing to do in this situation? Get over it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I'm trying to. I'd like some advice on how to best do that.

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