Is it normal 20 years old, yet never been in a relationship or anything close?

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I am a 20 year old heterosexual (straight) male, but I have never been in a relationship of any sort with a female, not even on a date. Not only am I still virgin (which i am ok with) but I have never had any kind of intimate act with a female (never even kissed a girl on the lips). Don't get me wrong, I do have kissed (and received kisses from) girls on the cheek but I don't consider that at all intimate because it is done in a friendly manner.

So is it normal for me not to have ever had any sort of relationship with a girl at my age? Comments will be highly appreciated.

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80% Normal
Based on 71 votes (57 yes)
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  • Your.Mom
    12 years ago

    I say it's not normal. At the same time, it's not healthy to live by societies standards and have lost your virginity and fallen in love by a certain age.
    Some people move more slowly in the relationship area and I guess that's you. It is awesome that you don't seem to be super depressed or distressed about this. that means you are somewhat sure of yourself and you are definitely independent. That is SO good! Wayyy too many people are emotionally dependent on partners and can't survive without them. They are weak.
    The best way to put yourself out there is to join an activity and meet new people through that. You know girls already, but you won't move forward with anyone unless you're meeting NEW girls that aren't already in the friend zone with you. Tap into your inner sexuality and how it a little when you meet someone worth it.

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    • BossBozo
      12 years ago

      Unfortunately I live on an Island with a population of about 30k, if you cut out the older people and the younger people from the age range of people I would like to date I would be left with a lot of friends and relatives, and the people whom I don't know yet are usually somehow connected to me, meaning that if I do something stupid, I would most probably bump into the same girl again. Maybe thats my problem after all, being too shy?

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  • ready2rumble
    12 years ago

    You haven't been on a date because you haven't asked anybody out. Girls will not ask you out no matter how hot you are, you are the man so u have to take the first step.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      His name was Ty and it was well known in the neighborhood that he was a male slut, fucking every female in sight. Early last summer I had found out he wasn’t just fucking females…he has been fucking my tight ass at least twice a week since then.

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  • Lola1984
    12 years ago

    I think thats completely normal,connections and relationships take time an the right person.I think society in general focuses alot on the perception you have be in a relationship to be happy an for men its sex unfortunatly ...i think instead of focusing about whats normal or not you should more focus on what is important in your life ,theres always someone for everyone but if we really want it we have to seek it out ,be confident but most importantly stay true to yourself regardless..
    things come with time never forget that

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  • nd521
    12 years ago

    completely normal! dont get upset, alot of other people are in the same boat, it just doesn't seem that way because of what society teaches us. Try not to think about it and just do you! The right person will come along when you least expect it. Don't get yourself down!

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  • Megid
    12 years ago

    This question comes up at least once every the week and the ages slowly creep down.

    The verdict: Normal.

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    • BossBozo
      12 years ago

      I know it is a common question, because I used the search button, but I am not talking just about serious or meaningful relationships, I have never had any kind of relationship, date or any other activity with a girl (unless in a group of friends). I haven't even ever arrived to first base.

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  • 1marcelfilms
    12 years ago

    My dad never had a relation

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  • budman36
    12 years ago

    Yes it is normal. I have had sex, but did not get into a real relationship until I was about 31 years old. You will meet the one, just takes time.

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