Is it normal - my boyfriend doesn't count chatting as part of the relationship

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So, he and I have spent hundreats of hours in extreemly intelectual and intimate conversations in internet (skype, msn)... that's how we got close, that's how i started liking him... Now we're together, and happy. When we're together in person everything is a fairytale.
But sometimes he's been extreemly rude,mean and even cruel to me in the internet... He sais terrible stuff, almost breaks up with me...and when I start asking '"wtf?!" and make a bit of a drama... he just says i take chats too seriously and that i'm a drama queen.
In the same time he has shared with me ssoooo many personal and serious stuff in chats... And now all of a sudden he tells me that skyping is not part of our relationship, it's just a kind of a game, a theatre, a big joke in wich we don't need to be real.

I am soooo confused... He sais he's unable to understand my "limited" point of view, in wich i get soo offended by the shit he speks to me in chats.
And I cannot understand if his actions are anyhow rational...Is this simply a male thing? Is anyone here on his side and thinks this is normal?...and if yes, please TRY to explain to me the whole reason! Thank you!

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  • pixie_dust
    12 years ago

    this is a red flag. if it were me, I would let him think you were cybersexing with some guy thats sooo hot "supposedly" and once that pisses him off, remind him of the rule HE MADE. about it not counting. although if u do this, u must watch out bcuz it could cause him to go into a rage and it could get ugly. hes a douche and an ass, dont invest anymore feelings.

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  • 4theloveofdez
    12 years ago

    It would make me question what else he does online since to him it's an alternative to reality. If he knows it hurts you and he's continuing to do it, he is not the man 4 you.

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  • legendary27
    13 years ago

    You shouldn't be with someone who has it in them to be mean and cruel to you. It's as simple as that.

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    I'd break up with him. A real man is himself upfront not one way one time and acts a completely different way another time.

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  • icanhascheezburger
    13 years ago

    Seems to me that people tend to let their guard down on the internet and show their true feelings and actions because it's like a barrier, honestly I would confront him and tell him to quit acting so childish or that you're going to leave him. That's bullcrap and you shouldn't put up with him just so he can get his jollies; also there are plenty of guys out there who would treat you like a princess so don't think all guys are pigs just because of this one.

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    • icanhascheezburger
      13 years ago

      Also chatting is a form of communication which is very important in any relationship so his idea that it is not is wrong, also he has no respect for you if he knows it hurts Your feelings and still continues to do it.

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  • Andyailin
    13 years ago

    You know what? You should break up with that guy . He is not normal and he is making you waste your time. He is immature and he needs to grow up. Skype or msn is not a theatre what's wrong wit him

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  • Eucerin
    13 years ago

    HE SOUNDS LIKE A LOSER, DUMP HIM.

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  • rayst
    13 years ago

    What an ass

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  • CountryRoads
    13 years ago

    Weird. Not normal.

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  • Thatguy777
    13 years ago

    I don't like his method. He's great to you in real life, but online he's an asshole to you, yet you sometimes have deep conversations. Then he says he doesn't count it as part of the relationship...what the fuck? Just stop talking to him online. You guys seem to be fine in real life..

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  • candle8
    13 years ago

    But enen if everything online is only a joke... isn't there a drop of truth in every joke?

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    I don't understand his point of view, no. I think you've hit on something that this is a male thing, though. Men often think that women want to be treated badly. And, to be fair, it does sometimes seem that way. But you neither like it nor deserve it. And you don't need to put up with it.

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