If your partner tells you they are abstinent, what would you do?

At least oral sex. Don't be selfish.

I would stay :) if he does leave you when you tell him, he's really not worth it!

yes i know haw it feels a boy who is attracted to his gf but cannot have sex with her.it's not easy!!!
you should allow him to have oral sex at least!! have you ever had any oral sex?

The guy that DOESN'T leave you is the guy that will share similar morals with you. The two of you will likely be happy and satisfied and it will have been worth it for you I'd bet. If this ideal goes throughout your entire personality I wouldn't be surprised if this type of guy ends up being the kind that is attracted to you in the first place.

I would accept there decision and wait (thats true love)

Fine you can save yourself all you want, but don't expect me too.

Respect is mutual, I respect your decision and expect you to respect mine.

Nothing wrong with that, right.

Atleast oral or GTFO.

I don't find sex an humiliating thing, so I don't find reasons to not do it until marige. You just have to try to know the person other way. Talk to him, hear him, look at him. Think about what he says or does. You can understand what are his intetions.

You know, there are people that don't want to marige, more and more people, so for those people... they will leave you.

Also, there are out there SUCH GOOD PEOPLE!! that are adicted to sex. Liking sex isn't a bad thing, not all are rapers. And sex is not that much a racional thing, is a big part hormonal, so it's hard to control, and if that person have that urge, he will leave you, for how much he likes you.

A person that will accept it, is a person like you, that isn't interested in sex.

Common, why don't you do it? Do you think they will laugh at you after it? Or force you to do things? You just have to pick a nice guy, that is willing to go slowly.
Sex is not a bad thing... is not a thing that you will "offer". It is a good thing for you too. Don't be afraid or some kind of thing.

You probably are afraid of getting pregnant.. If that's it, pick good condoms, of a well known mark.

I personally am adicted to it comparing with other girls. And I use to pick the guys that seem to like it more than the rest of them, so I don't think I would ever be on the situation you talk about.

Let them be abstinent, don't mean I have too.

Is it selfish for them to expect me to join them being abstinent or selfish of me not too?

I think its very selfish to expect or want someone else to change their life to please you.

I would leave them. Abstinence = a whole lot of emotional/cultural baggage.

I'd propose to that person (if social standards would allow a woman to propose to a man ^^). I'd never be in a relationship "just for the sex". So if I already was in a romantic relationship with them, that means I'm serious about the person.

if he leaves you only bcuz of the sex thing, then he cares more about getting his rocks off than he cares about YOU. Hence, he's a piece of [fill in the blank]. it's kind of like a mathematical equation!

If I really liked them I would stay.... my fingers would be getting alot of exercise though

I would run out screaming "NO COOKIE FOR ME!!!"

Why would anyone wait til marriage? Would you buy a new car without a test drive? Same thing. ;)

Id fuck them right then and there

If they have a good bank account, its okay.

You don't have sex with them, they are abstinent.

~Captain Obvious.

If he leaves you because of that, then he's not worth it, simply because if he LOVES you, he'd stay.

Love doesn't have to be about sex, sure, most healthy relationships have a healthy sex life, but that doesn't mean it's vital.

He should be happy just being in your company, snuggling up on the couch watching a movie and whatnot.

Tell him that you're abstinant, and if he leaves, just remember that he's

If we're not having sex, we're just friends.