If your date was rude to the waiter...

I agree with you. What a bitch! I wouldn't even be rude to a crappy waitperson. It's just common decency.

No second date. How she treats others is a glimpse into how she may treat you later on.

Rare instead of medium is bad. The cook should be gone.

That being said...the waitress didn't cook the steak. She'd never get a second date from me either.

People like who you are describing bother me very much. I highly value respect, and honestly, I would not have been able to sit next to her without saying something if she was acting in that way. Regardless of what the service is like, that is no way to treat another person. I would've straight up told her to show some respect or I would walk away. I would've also apologized to the waitress. I would definitely NOT see her again!

I don't think you were too harsh. Little moments like that are where a person's character shows, and her character was not an appealing one.

Waiters and waitresses are human beings. Low paid human beings, at that. I think it's awful to treat them otherwise. You were right to stand your ground and not call her back. She sounds like an immature, spoiled brat, good looking or not.

Good on you to have the strength of character to dump this "date being good looking, well educated and fun to be around". I would hope I would do as well.
I do believe this is a rarity on IIN (that I have seen), where someone does the right thing ahead of self interest.
You have earned my respect, for what it's worth.

I went on a bowling date at a local casino near my house and noticed that it appeared that my date was not tipping our waitress. I took the waitress aside and asked her if he had been tipping her and she told me that he had not. I apologize for his bad manners and offered to tip her myself but she refused. Later that night I asked him if he had been tipping our waitress and he lied and said he had.

That was the last time I went out with him! He wasn't just a cheapskate but a liar as well, not to mention the drinks were only a $1 after midnight so there's no excuse. Besides, the cocktail waitresses at casinos have to wear skimpy outfits with heels and they work hard!
:-(

I'd be put off, definitely. But, if I really enjoyed being with that person, I might just end up letting it slide.

She saw the waitress as competition. No matter how good or bad the service was, your date was out to claim her territory, at least for the night. I dated a woman for a few months, very beautiful, tanned skin, amazing green eyes..And, a protective, if not sometimes, flat-out aggressive, attitude towards female waitresses or bartenders.

Our first night out, in fact. Went for dinner, great time, then a drink somewhere else afterwards. Not ten minutes in, and she's staring, with a blank, dead-eye stare, at the rather attractive bartender, saying things like "If blondie over there doesn't stop looking at you, she's getting hurt", and "Blondie better take our drink orders and walk away". Part of me thought, ok, she wants me all to herself. And part of me thought..Holy crap, if she's this nutty on the first date, what's the rest going to be like?

I paid the bill, and started to write down my usual, good tip. Looking at the bill as I wrote, my date leaned in, very soft, hands on my shoulders, tapping her long, gold nails to my face, and told me not to tip her, she was awful and hitting on you. Such wasn't the case, and I tipped my usual, good amount. Service was good, the woman was personable and realized we were on a date, and very respectful. I wasn't going to cheat her just b/c woman I was with was jealous.

She could've had a bad day

Depends how hot she is!

I think about it this way. I am paying for food and service so i expect both things to be executed well. If a mistake happens to occur, it doesn't give me a right to "trash talk" or throw a fit over spilled milk. It does however gives me a right to tip less, which is a result of both the food and service (at least for me).

Sometimes ill tip on the food alone, or the service. But never shall i be rude because i know what its like to be on the other side of that curtain. I wouldn't call her back either.

I'd have done the same thing. People tend to be nicer when they meet someone they like, after a while she might start treating you that way if you do something similar that upsets her. I mean it'd b later once you got to know her better but hey, who doesnt act nicer than they really are when they meet new people right?

I would not call her back. It's not the waitress' fault, she didn't cook the steak. I would have paid for the food when it came out (and big tip). Then taken mine to go and left her sitting there.