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If you were in a monogamous relationship and your boy/girlfriend cheated on you would you give them a second chance. If you would give them another chance please comment why and if you have some conditions such as only if they were drunk, or if they admitted it.
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No second chance. Either the two of us become swingers, or the two of us break up.
Sure, I'd give him another chance for his face to meet my fist over and over a-mutha-fuckin-gain!
It depends on what they did, how long it continued for, and whether you found out or they confessed. Most of the time I'm willing to give second chances, but if they cheat again, it's completely over.
No.
I have a very deep, mutually loving relationship with my boyfriend, he has been honest with me and told me that he has cheated on previous girlfriends in the past. He said that he did it because he wasn't truly committed to the relationships so in a way saw no reason not to. We had a discussion about infidelity and he told me about when he told his previous girlfriend he had cheated on her - he told her it was a drunken mistake, and she asked him, if you were that drunk, how could you get it up and go through with it? And he said he realised that she was right - in that moment he had known what he was doing and he had made the decision to cheat because he didn't care enough about his girlfriend not to. After that, he cheated again because she forgave him, so again, there was no reason not to.
So that's coming from the mouth of an ex-cheater - there is no excuse for infidelity. In that moment you are deciding you care more about fucking someone else than you do about your partner. Alcohol doesn't excuse it, relationship problems don't excuse it. If you forgive, you're essentially condoning it.
Sometimes I find it hard to trust my boyfriend because of his past, but I remind myself that every person is just responding to circumstance at any given point in their lives. If he was ever unfaithful, we'd both know he was no longer committed to the relationship, and walk away.
I did many, many times. With my wife and even when were engaged and married. It was a mistake. A cheating whore is what she was and remained to be for years.
Personally, no. I would be unable to ever trust them again the way I did before they cheated, and continuing a relationship would be unfair to us both because I'd be constantly questioning their motives and where they were really going whenever they left.
My father cheated on my mom when I was young and my mom has always been such an amazing, caring, compassionate role model to me that it really fucked me up. I have trust issues with guys right off the bat because my dad was my hero and he shattered the image I had of him.
Nope! Give them another chance to cheat on me? I already have enough trust issues, I dont need to keep someone I know has the ability to cheat on me and want to come home to me. Screw that! On that note if someone kicked me to the curb for cheating I would not blame them one bit.
Every situation is different. If I am genuinely in love with the person and it wasn't a spiteful thing, I'll usually hear them out and see how things go. Everyone deserves a second chance because everyone makes mistakes. I know how much it hurts to make such an awful choice and suffer for years because of it. Also helped me to never pull that kind of shit again...
I'm surprised at how many people said yes. My answer is no. Just like I wouldn't expect another chance if I ever cheated on her. There's no excuse and for me that's not something that is contingent on the conditions.
I think it might be tougher to understand the reasons if you haven't truly been in love. People can learn from mistakes, which is why I think a 2nd chance might be appropriate. That's as far as I'd go though. If they don't learn once, then it's highly unlikely they're ever going to.
Not really. My first instinct would be to burn all of their belongings and salt the earth, but I'd be too afraid that I'd throw myself into the flames.
I gave a second chance once before and they did it again. If it was just a kiss or something, I wouldn't be as upset, but sex? Very upset. It's not nice to lie to your SO.
I probably would give another chance, depending on the conditions, especially if they are very honest. There are too many variables to say 100% whether I would or wouldn't, but I don't think cheating is the worst thing that can happen in a relationship... I mean, your SO could slowly poison you or continuously impregnate and abuse you and all your little bebes or maybe even brainwash you, who knows, but instead they slept with someone else....
Cheating is disgraceful, yes, but I think I'd actually be more disappointed to find out something like a long term partner is gay (100% gay) and used me as a front or something because...wtf, that's way more deceptive than a moment of weakness or what have you...
It seems like infidelity is romanticized in a way. I can't say for certain that I've never been cheated on, but it's never came out if so... so idk, maybe it is as bad as people say... I was once in a similarly shitty position and the worst part was not knowing exactly what happened and never getting a clear answer.
I have given a second chance. Why? Love, and because people make mistakes.
I told this chick I was banging (met online) "if you fuck anyone else just tell me otherwise ill never talk to you again" I knew something was wrong at a point with het attitude and didn't fuck her for a month then FINALLY she tells me the shit I already knew. ... I told her unless your sucking my dick we don't have much to talk about. the damage was done.
Yes if the person was hot and they let me watch and/or join in.but I wouldn't love them
the love might still there but the trust isn't or decreases so no. trust is just as important.
Ha! I have a hard time with this one as well. Sometime a hook up is just that a hook up, it might just be sex. Having parents that went trough several ups and downs and as well as went through a couple of cheating incidences, but are still together. I cant tell you to break up with the f***, but your not married to him and don't have a couple of kids under your watch, so in the end it's all the depends on how you feel. But like I said your not married to him and probably don't have 15 years of marriage to under your belt so you can leave this car crash.