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If you loved someone and they became the oppisate sex could you still be with them? Is this a deal breaker? Something they did without confronting you about it first. So you had no idea they were going to do it they just did it one day.
| I love them nomatter what gender | 21 | |
| I am (sexuality) so that kind of does not work for me | 41 | |
| I would be bothered but I would try | 23 | |
| No but I expect my partner to be ok if I do | 7 | |
| other | 5 |
I'd be surprised, probably feel betrayed, I'd wonder why they didn't mention this. The whole sex change part wouldn't be as big of a deal as the dishonesty.
I'm married and if my husband turned into a chick tomorrow I can't say for sure I'd just leave, I honestly don't know WHAT I'd do. The only thing I know for sure is I'd have a million questions to ask him and I guess we'd go from there.
I wouldn't want to be in a newly created homo relationship... Go pack someone else's fudge.
*diarrheas his drawers in disgust**
If she didn't confront me about it - or discuss it with me for even a second - that would be a really big problem. I'd probably break up, but we might be able to stay friends (which is more than I'd want in most other situations).
I'd feel a little insulted that they went and did that without telling me, but besides that I honestly wouldn't care. I'm in love with their personality and that's not what changed.
What the hell? I don't think you can change to the opposite sex or whatever in just a day. I'm going to have to assume that a Genie granted their wish to switch from he to she, or some such thing. For the sake of believability and what not:P.
Anyway, no. There are certain types of change I find difficult to cope with, and this sort of thing is one of them. I'd most likely feel very violently ill. It seems so dramatic, but really small stuff can make me react very badly, because it changes my mental view of someone, and it sort of seems like the end of (my) world for a little while:P. Yes, completely over the top, but I can't help it. So, needless to say, this would freak me out majorly.
But, once I'd adapted and adjusted my view of them, got used to it, etc., I still think it's a no. Firstly, they can't just spring crap like that on you without any warning. That's ridiculous. Also, I just can't love a woman in that way. It would be a deal breaker for me. I just can't deal with that sort of change! If they're changing a ridiculous amount, then it isn't exactly like loving the same person, because they'd be so different to the them of the day before:P.
Ok yes but you can change gender if you want. So like if you are gay and only like same sex and one day they decided to get a sex change without your permission. Would you be upset. That or your straight and same situation. Not sure how long it takes to get a sex change.
It takes years to have a sex change. The actual reassignment surgery is only part of the process, doctors require you live as the other gender for quite some time before doing surgery, among many other requirements. The partners of these people are most definitely part of the process as well.
I think you have to go with nanner's idea of a Genie granting them their wish to change gender!
Why would I change my gender, though:S? This seems awfully complicated and completely unrealistic. It's not normal for someone you're dating to one day be a man, and then the next day be a woman. That doesn't happen, and I'd get out of that relationship. I don't like all these complications!
Um, takes much longer than a day:P. Just stick with the Genie story!
Some people can and some wish to. That is that persons decisions. It is possibly thanks to surgery. I was just asking if your partner became another gender would you be alright or would it upset you? Alright go with the genie story. So your answer is you would not be alright with it?
I know some people want to, but you said that I could change if I wanted to, and I was just saying that it's not for me. I'm happy the way I am, so why would I want to change? <<I don't expect you to actually answer that, just in case you don't get that.
If I were in a very serious relationship, which I'd been in for a long time, then of course that would change things. But, I'm 18 and not extremely serious, so my answer seems fairly typical of someone like me, I think.:) Basically, I'm not nearly mature enough to cope with something like this.
I would be surprised but despite a change in genitals, it would still be the same person I fell in love with. It wouldn't signify the end of our relationship. I would continue to try to work things out while being compassionate and supportive.
That is a HUGE change. Let me make sure we're clear:
I'm a man, so what you're saying is that one day I'm involved in an intimate, heterosexual relationship with a woman and the next day she is a post-op transgender with a penis? First of all, that is a *preposterous* scenario. I don't think I could emphasize that enough so I will say it again: that is PREPOSTEROUS. But I will suspend my disbelief and try to answer the question:
Naturally I wouldn't be able to have the same type of relationship with said person, if any relationship at all. I like to think that I am tolerant, and that love comes in all forms, but realistically I don't know if my relationship with a woman could be salvaged if one day I'm having sex with her and the next day she is suddenly not at all attracted to me, taking testosterone supplements, and has some travesty between her legs (neither a real penis nor a vagina). If I were to "love" this person it would be like loving a completely different person.
At a subconscious level, we all repel from transvestites/transgenders. No matter how "tolerant" or "progressive" some of us claim to be. Its a matter of instinct: when we feel as though we are being deceived, we feel threatened and thus we resent the deceiver.
When a man is masquerading as a woman- or vise versa- I feel deceived. I don't know if I could be friends with a transgender person. Even being friends with a transvestite would be a challenge, at least at first. But I have many gay friends. Needless to say, if a woman I was dating suddenly changed genders, I would feel betrayed. If I were to love he/she/it then I would probably need to feel as though I were meeting a completely new person, and feeling a completely new type of love.
Well you might feel this way I know some people and heard of people who do not care. They would stay with the person before and after the sex change. So I do not believe that is true for everyone. Nor do I feel you are bad for your feelings about the matter.
Yes, I would leave them. I'm straight I wouldn't be with someone of the same sex.
Also I like Wigsplitz comment. I wouldn't want my partner want to all the sudden change without telling me. I would for sure not respect that because it sure would show how much respect he had with our relationship.
I would let them know they will be able to find someone else that would value who they are and that would want to date the same sex (which them of course).
I'm bisexual and have dated men, women, and transgenders. My ex asked me this exact question one day. We were just sitting there and he turns and asks me "if I decided to become a woman would you stay with me?" I was like what the hell. i asked him if that was something he was considering doing. His response " no I was just wondering." Wtf
No, I can't be with a man, might as well mate with a gorilla. If I'd met him as a man and he wasn't attracted to me, we could've hung out.