If you're happy with what you know..

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..can what you don't know change anything or everything?

What I mean is hypothetically, you're in this great relationship with someone. You're together for a long time. You couldn't be happier. You're totally and completely fulfilled. Then he/she dies and you find out he/she cheated. Does that change what you had together? Does it make it all a lie? Someone asked me this yesterday and I couldn't really answer so it got me curious. Lol.

Yes, it changes everything 28
No, it only matters what I know 12
I don't know..Maybe 20
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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Yes. It would change everything and I would want to know.

    Being happy inside of a lie exacts its own price.

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  • Dazzie
    12 years ago

    I won't pay a lot of attention to their infidelity if they're dead. It'll hurt me, but there would be nothing I could do about it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    You would be upset for the person you thought they were, while being disgusted with the person she/he really is.

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  • soul-man
    12 years ago

    Yes, I think it would, although not very much. No use crying after spilled milk, after all.

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  • dom180
    12 years ago

    I'd be too upset that s/he died to think clearly at the time... I imagine it would make me feel even more sad when I'd come to terms with it all.

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    • Energy
      12 years ago

      Agreed.

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  • wigsplitz
    12 years ago

    I'd think it would make me think back and keep trying to put the pieces together, it would definitely cheapen memories. It would probably consume me. Something I may have thought he did to be nice might really have been something he did to distract me, or get rid of me for a while, so he could carry on the affair. I'd probably get more pissed by the day, and think I wasted a lot of time.

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  • karmasAbich
    12 years ago

    For me it would depend on the circumstances but i would probably feel a mixture of emotions. Angry, sad, and glad that I found out the truth. But ultimately it would be for the best.

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  • ariannel
    12 years ago

    Depends on when he cheated in the marriage and for how long.

    If we were married for 40 years and I found out he cheated one night 25 years ago when he was drunk and stupid, I don't think that'd cancel out all those happy years.

    However, if I found out that he had an affair for YEARS during our marriage then that would be a huge difference and I think that would cancel out a huge chunk of perceived happiness.

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  • taciturn
    12 years ago

    Interesting. At heart this is an "ignorance is bliss" discussion. Should happiness be enjoyed for its own sake, or truth for its own sake? I've never been able to answer that.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Exactly. That's why when my friend asked me a similar question I had a lot to say, but not a solid answer.

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  • cardamom
    12 years ago

    Clever question.

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