If you are not a good person, logically you shouldn't love yourself

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I've asked people over and over again to try and justify loving yourself/telling people to love themselves if there is nothing to justify it, and I've only been disappointed.

Our standards for OTHER people is that they need to be a good person, not carry baggage, and are remarkable in some way. We fail all these categories, yet we allow this double standard to continue.

We get annoyed when other people complain, and tell them to get over it and stop being such a prick, but when we do it, it's just us "venting" and we should "talk to someone accepting."

Being harsh with yourself is essential for making sure that you stay on track and stop fooling around. If you waste your time pampering yourself and locking yourself away in a safe little echo chamber of good feels, you are just going to be a pussy for the rest of your life.
You'll only get love once you've done something to deserve it.

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  • Alichael
    6 years ago

    It's important to have self confidence and love yourself. But you should not be loving yourself for the things you're doing if you know they are things you shouldn't be doing. So in my opinion, no, you should not praise yourself no matter what you do. But you should tell yourself after you've fucked up, "I can do better than this. I got the potential to be a good person again. I can do it". Don't say "I'm a no good piece of shit", or "what's the use now?".

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  • fakeaccount2
    6 years ago

    Agreed. I got diagnosed with depression and that's all i ever heard, "you have to love yourself", so I stopped trying to get help. I do "love" myself anyway, thats why I wanna improve and become a good person not give up and say Im fine like this in the name of "self love". loving yourself is not all there is to this life.

    to be honest though I probably do have way more sympathy than i should for people who are "not good" and have baggage as you say. as long as they are not a totally worthless asshole who cares how unremarkable they are. those people who simplify it to just "stop being a prick" make no sense to me especially when the person is/has been going through some shit. but I guess it's weak and pointless to have sympathy to most people these days.

    i think you have posted something like this before right? a few months ago

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