If someone cheats do they deserve a second chance??
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[Old Memory]
No, why should I forgive someone for cheating on me? FFS, there is such a thing as being faithful and having self control. If you can't do any of those, don't get yourself in a fucking relationship. Also if a girlfriend would ever cheat on me, she could just go get herself killed. That's just how much I'll care about her.
Another thing I like to think. If you cheat, you don't love the person you're with. Don't bother arguing that with me.
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chatter289
AGREED! It's beyond disrespectful and just... Disgusting, you don't like the person you are with, move along and stay single and have fun, don't keep hanging on to your current partner like they are your bloody door knob.
However, what would one constitute as cheating? Yes sex with another person is cheating,,, but is that the ONLY action that would be argued as cheating? Would flirting and texting other women/men saying things you shouldn't be classified as cheating? Cyber sex cheating?
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[Old Memory]
I wouldn't call flirting cheating but it's a little step before it. Not because it's not considered cheating in my book that it would not enrage me. I mean, if I found out my girlfriend has been flirting with a guy, I'd be very mad and I would never forget what she did. I highly doubt I could forgive her too. If I'm able to not flirt with another woman, my partner should be able to not flirt with another guy. I think cyber sex with another person when you're a relationship is cheating. Why would you be writting/showing/doing those things to someone else but the person you love?
I don't know, someone who's going to play immature games like that with me is someone I DO NOT WANT in my life.
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chatter289
Again i agree with you 100%. If one partner resist flirting with another as should the other, i guess it's not saying 'you will do as i do' but it all comes down to respect for each other. I do believe that, how one behaves with others is a reflection on the relaionship.
I honestly do wish that i could have the courage you are potentially displaying about not 'forgiving' your parther if she were to flirt or have cyber sex with another. Yes easily spotted my bf did that... a long time i say, and he has not done it since.. not as far as i know personally. But his loss if he does do it AGAIN and i find out. Karma has a way of brining things around.
As the saying goes first time is 'shame on you' second time is 'same on me' for giving you the possibility of doing it againx
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[Old Memory]
Maybe you're the one who has the courage to forgive and move on. I don't know, on this subject, if someone wants forgiveness, seek religion, not me. See, I just wouldn't trust that person anymore. Even if they truly stoped, how can you be sure? Aren't you paranoid? If I were in your position, I'd always be wondering what he's doing, with who and all of that. I guess in my case, I'd become a poison to the relationship and that's why I just want to end things before they end ugly. I'm not too sure about karma. I rather do my own karma.
I never heard that saying but I'd never let the chance to someone to "same on me" me.
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chatter289
The funny thing is, right from the begining of the relationship i was always suspecious and felt something was going on(which of course was). The thing is, my bf is a very attractive guy and all his life he has always received a lot of attention from women and i guess knowing this always put me in a very suspecious position. Its hard to explain but, he is a very different person from who he was thenand who he is now (and I'm not saying he has changed because i want to believe he has). Put it short, he has grown up, although 25 now, he was a slow developer haha.
It does from time to time run through my mind as to what he could potentially be doing when I'm not around. The point of the matter is, you can NEVER truly know what your other partner is doing. Humans are born liers, we lie from a very early age and its a build in mechanism. In the end only time will tell, until then, we just live our lives with them like everthing is perfect and then shit comes down in the end. Thinking about it its quite depressing because it's like you are living a lie with that person.
But you made me laugh at you'r 'if someone wants forgiveness, seek religion, not me' hahaha i shall def use that next time haha.x
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Runaway
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pem24
No. It's like letting someone have the chance to cheat on you for 2nd time around.
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Energy
Depends on how much you love them, but giving them a second chance might be unhealthy. I gave a 2nd chance to my ex, they ended up cheating 4 more times on me, which I forgave but in the end they left. Learned my lesson!
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katertot
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Aleks85
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stupid_username
when i cheated on my girlfriend , she gave me a 2nd chance. trust me i never did tht sh*t again.
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colourmoon
in genereal i'd ay no, but i couldn't leave my bf even if he'd cheat, because i love him this much.
but i'm not experienced with cheating, so maybe it's just beacuse i wasn't in this situation before.Comment Hidden ( show ) -
Greg1492
Have an open relationship. If you let each other screw around, there is no need to hide the truth from each other. It is a basic instinct in us all.
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DanishGirl
No-I'm female.
The relationship is doomed after the cheating has occurred. You may be able to forgive but you will never forget. It will always be in the back of your mind, and you will always question what your partner is doing. Who wants to live like that? I may sound old fashioned but cheating is never a good thing in any case. It's disrespectful and dangerous, meaning you might catch a STD which is gross. It's also a huge big fat betrayal, a smack in the face.
The cheater might realized what they've lost after said incident but that's their problem, they shouldn't of done it it the first place. If you really care for someone and love them than cheating shouldn't even be on your mind!
For the male or female being cheated on, you might have the urge to forgive and stay with the cheater because you love them and want to make excuses to stay with them but let me ask you this, where was the so called love that they were suppose to have for you when they were cheating on you?Comment Hidden ( show ) -
Shewhispered
Yes-I'm female.
I think yes for a second chance then that's it. Sometimes it's a mistake people make to realise what they have. Btw cheating as in kissing..sex is no mistake.Comment Hidden ( show ) -
Deshara
They do if you think they do. This is really a question only you can answer for yourself on a personal, instance-by-instance manner. It's important to remember that shit happens and people make mistakes. Everybody is one moment of bad judgement away from being permanently marked a criminal, cheater, killer, liar, ect.
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Gothgirl818
No, having someone cheat then taking them back sends the wrong message it tells them that they can get away with it. What's to stop them from cheating again after all you took them back the first time you are just as likely to take them back again.
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[Old Memory]
No is no. If they avert there eyes from you to another once they'll do it again trying to find out how far they can go with you. to see whats your limits are and stay slightly below them. Dont be a fool my mom made the mistake of forgiving my dad many times! first when he left us to go "relax" himself totally cut off all relations to us then cameback and my mother accepted him and forgave him. After that he treated her like shit! and left us in the end and my mom forgave him and decided to leave. but if he came back I know my mom would still accept and forgive him because she loves him. but I heard the asshole remarried. good riddens!!! my mom deserves better cheating is Never acceptable!! If someone can do it once then whats to stop him the next time.
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TareBear20
This really depends.. :/ Initially I would say no, but it all depends on how much you care for that person and the circumstances.
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Gena45
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