Iamconfused

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I have a question? im a married man, been married for 20 years. I love my wife very much. We have an awesome sex life, and always have. My problem is i masturbate almost daily, and when i do i imagine her with another man. Thats where the story starts. Now when im with her i think of another man with us both. I have imagined giving and receiving oral sex from him and her and i sharing him. this started many years ago. My wife is very understanding so i told her these things just the other day. We have talked in depth, i have been completly honest and told her everything.. I havent had any sexual contact with a man, but have looked at men and imagined what it would be like. Now the question is am i gay?? she and i are confused..

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  • babaG
    12 years ago

    Just bicurious.

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  • CuriousMatt
    12 years ago

    Most people, both men and women, are naturally bicurious. Are you gay? I'd say no, not unless you get turned on by men alone, and not by women. But labels aside, rememeber that sexual pleasure is sexual pleasure, no matter who its from and where you get it.

    Are you normal? Definitely. It is normal for people to fantasize about sexual experiences that are outside of their normal routines. Think about it this way - if you have steak and nothing but steak for 20 years, would it be wrong for you to fantasize and crave a pasta or rice dish every once in a while? Maybe a nice vegetarian chilli, or even a plateful of pancakes topped with syrup, cream and strawberries?

    It's no need for concern - not unless you find yourself preferring the fantasies over your wife.

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  • chra
    12 years ago

    its imagination, first where are you living? because 20 years period for a marriage in western region its too much and very curious u r still with her. is it minority? i honestly saying to you take care of yourself and your wife, just forget your bad imagination...

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