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Personally, I wouldn't feel that bad about getting an arranged marriage to someone rather than a love marriage. Not saying that love marriages are a bad idea, but I wouldn't mind the "first comes marriage, then comes love" ones either. Is this normal?
What if marriage come and love never does ? To me, this looks like the most accurate outcome.
Wouldn't you just be miserable though? To me, choice would be a mandatory requirement for any relationship to work. Sure, you might get lucky, but the chances aren't so good.
I see danger in you wanting to be in an arranged marriage: Love is what makes a marriage in my understanding and that seems to be universal understanding: My understanding of an arranged marrieage is that your choices to express your true self may be controlled. Like shut your mouth, a semi slave mentality could exist in an arranged marriage: In saying that I am sure theire are very happy people in an arranged marrriages: I just see that danger as I expressed it
Actually, up until say 300 years ago marriage largely had little to do with falling in love and being with the one you want. It largely had to do with security, class and economics.
Also, I have met people who had arranged marriages. They are both currently happily married.
I love reading, but i don't like being required to read a specific book. Sometimes I turn out liking it. A lot of the time I am just so ticked about being forced into reading it though, that it ruins it for me.
I've heard that Arranged Marriages, surprisingly last a long time and the two grow to love each other. With the exception of when you already love someone or if the bride/groom is a child and marrying an adult, there is nothing wrong with arranged marriages.
I'm not looking to make mistake number three, but at least those were my mistakes, and not my parents mistakes.