I would never want children

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Despite my young age, I have thought about it, and never for one second have I considered it. From my earliest recollections of the topic, it was no children, and no husband lol. But I decided, that I would want a companion later. I remember I thought that it was a 50/50 choice. That half the population of people have any children in any point of their lives. And I never wanted it. I remember some other children in McDonalds talking about what they'd name their children, and I was appalled that they were doing that. I think I was 7. I voiced my concerns to my mother, when I realized that it was not the social norm, but she said that people change their minds. Not in my case. I don't feel ashamed though. There is no reason why I would want one. There are plenty of good arguments to back me up... I just don't like babies and toddlers. Because I'm more conscious of what others think, I often pretend that babies don't elicit a sense of disgust in me. No offense anyone. I love animals though. I find them very cute and just adorable. Human infants will never be able to compare in my eyes. And with that, why would I want to take care of one? I have no problems taking care of my various animals, however. Anyway, I am a bit concerned that if I decide to get married, what if the person wants children? That obviously makes things difficult. Also, why do people pressure women to have children in this society? No one has for me, being my age, but I see it elsewhere. There is mass overpopulation in humans, and people just keep making more babies! And I believe that not everyone should be a parent. And I've actually read people saying that women not having babies is being selfish! I mean, how ridiculous is that? Why formulate something that never existed, and bring it into this cruel world? I mean, it's not like they are denying a person a life. They don't exist yet! So, why would it be selfish? Well, yeah, I'll stop ranting.

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  • Dib
    10 years ago

    Dear lord I can write a novel about this topic, but I'll try not too. I honestly don't get why not having kids is considered selfish. I see having kids just to have kids as being selfish (but that's just my opinion).
    Anyways, I told my parents at a young age that I didn't want kids (I was about 12 years old or so), and they always told me that I will want some when I get older. I'm 21 now and still don't want any. Go figure. But hey, I might change my mind ten years from now. I doubt it though.

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  • GuvnorsOtherWoman
    3 years ago

    I decided at the age of 8 that I didn't want any and have never changed my mind.

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  • YoungerSis
    10 years ago

    Since you are only 15 yrs old it is normal to not want children. I don't want children yet either. Maybe someday but today isn't that day.

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  • IDONTLIKEMYGRANDMA
    10 years ago

    Hey, I jus wanna say in my opinion I think that having kids lightens everything in your life up. But its your choice if you wanto have kids or not. Honestly i want kids but ya like i said its your choice to have kids or not.

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    • GoraIntoDesiGals
      10 years ago

      Calls me a pervert but admits to want children for his/her own selfish pleasure. GTFO

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      • IDONTLIKEMYGRANDMA
        10 years ago

        Its not Selfish its having a life which is something you should try freak!

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        • GoraIntoDesiGals
          10 years ago

          No it's not. You don't even like your grandma so STFU. Psycho

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    I also don't want children because it's not fair to force somebody to be born against their will then be locked up against your will with people you don't choose and who may bully you during your entire youth so you can learn to be a good slave locked up in a building again from 9 to 5 until you retire. Life sux, don't breed lol.

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    • IDONTLIKEMYGRANDMA
      10 years ago

      You sound like a pervert

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      • GoraIntoDesiGals
        10 years ago

        Oh yeah? What about not wanting children because they're almost guaranteed to suffer in this shit world makes me a pervert?

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        • IDONTLIKEMYGRANDMA
          10 years ago

          What eva go suck ur asshole or something cuz im thru with this SHIT say what you want but like i said Its having a life. pretty much what you sick perverted person should have.

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  • Caryopteris
    10 years ago

    I am this way also. I think one reason is that I was never healthy enough to get pregnant, and I just never felt good. Why would I want to spread these genes to children? I certainly didn't have the energy to raise a baby. My family is obsessed with babies, and it annoys me. I avoid them.

    I got married and my husband was okay with not having kids because he wanted all the attention and money anyway. He never had to grow up though, and I got tired of him wasting all the money on himself and finally divorced him.

    Don't try to go to a conservative church, because they will think you are strange if you don't have kids. They are very rigid about everybody getting married and having kids.

    As your female friends get married and have kids, there will be more showers than you will believe. You could go broke and waste all your weekends on this stuff. So you might want to book your weekends with athletic events so you aren't available during the day when most of these things happen. As their lives become all about kids, you won't have anything in common with them anyway. If you try to have guy friends they do tend to expect sex if they are attracted. If they aren't attracted they assume you are.

    So it's not easy being different.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Haha, thanks for the advice. Ugh, I hope that not all my future female friends will be into the baby craze when I'm older. BTW, your theories on attraction between male and female friends are interesting...

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      • Caryopteris
        10 years ago

        I enjoy male friends, and I didn't want the sex thing to be a problem, but it kind of is. For me, it just adds a sparkle to the relationship, but guy's egos get hurt if they don't get what they want. Or they realize there is no sex coming, and they lose interest in the friendship. It's odd and disappointing for me.

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  • Isabella80s
    10 years ago

    May I ask how old you are? I thought I didn't want to until I turned 21 (thereabouts) and bam. Think something just kicked in. Have thought about it everyday for the last few years now. Wish I didn't!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      I am 15... But I remember the moment when I was 3 years old, that I would never want to have children. I know, I was pretty young to be thinking about that.. but my parents never censored any part of life from me. Throughout my childhood to the present, I feel a bit of disgust when I see any infant under the age of 2. It gets better when they get older though. (No offense to anyone. I'm just stating my opinion.) I don't think that I will ever have these baby wanting thoughts, as I might even have a slight phobia of babies. However, I do have a few maternal tendencies to my cats and other vulnerable animals when they are being threatened.

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      • Isabella80s
        10 years ago

        Fair enough, but you are still quite young for those feelings to make themselves known. So keep an open mind that one day, you might get them. When I was 15 (in my day!) I thought maybe I'd have a baby at about 35. Well, now I'm thinking 28 maximum. I'm 25 - so bit scary really! I don't want this to sound patronising at all... but enjoy your teens and don't get too weighed down with trying to decide for sure what you want. Things change and the key is to keep an open mind. I had to learn that lol.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          Yeah, I guess what you are saying makes sense. However, my teenage years are already plagued by other sad things.

          Oh yes, things definitely change from plans made in the past, so I am not too rigid with new prospects(I just don't think the whole baby thing is one of them). If I am going to have a child though, I think I would adopt.

          It would be pretty scary to be planning of having a baby in 3 years, but three years is a long time. I mean, I'm going to be an adult in three years, and frankly, I find that pretty scary. I don't feel at all mature enough to be one, haha.

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          • Isabella80s
            10 years ago

            Ah, well, I hope you can move on from them. I didn't have a great time at about 16, mostly because of a death in the family. Still really upsets me now but I have moved on and it doesn't stop me living life. It was very painful at the time, though. I also found the whole being an adult soon thing hard to get my head around too. But don't worry, it just happens and it's gradual. Don't be pressurised into feeling like you've got to be a 100% responsible adult when you're 18. I reckon most people do a lot of further growing up between 18 and 21, I know I did.

            Adoption is great and honestly, I think people could be a bit more open-minded to the idea. Not sure most people would even consider it.

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