I would like this very much. iin?

It's normal. Actually, I think all guys are like this at some point in their lives.

The biggest thing I'd like to say to you is, you're not alone when you're having sex with your girlfriend. Um, don't read that wrong. What it means is that you don't have to work on being a relaxed and more confident lover alone in your own head while the event is unfoldng in front of you.

I recommend two ways to relax. First. Take that point about not being alone, and find your way to connect emotionally with your girl. People have really incredibly different ways. Some use slapping and spanking, some use conversation, some use oral sex, some use arguing, some use tickle fights.

There are so many ways, but the idea is to get to that point where you breathe out, like a sigh, and just feel the release of tension being close to this person. And that's when you feel the confidence to do whatever you want to do.

Forget the performance. Forget the "I have to make her cum". Forget the athletics of pounding sweatily away at her robust little body. Forget porn. Forget other people's ideas of good sex.

When you've made that intimacy, enjoyy the sights and sounds and smells and touches and sensations and everything right there and then at that moment. Get lost in the wow moment of being with that girl you like, and stuff happens good.

The second, is learn to masturbate. Not jerking of to cum. I mean, get a Mantak Chia book, like the Multi-Orgasmic Man, and just explore where your pleasure boundaries are and see how the sensations rise and fall. Learn about your body.

Knowing that you know how your body works gives you a massive amount of confidence. That way, masturbation becomes about being a better lover for your girl.

Um, but anyway. I hope that helps.

Just lick her pussy and both enjoy.