I wish i was deaf

Okay. First, let's settle down a few things.

I'm a quiet person. I rarely speak, and when I do, I don't feel comfortable. I prefer writing.
Most of the time, I find noise either annoying or insignificant. For example, if an object falls, and it doesn't even have to make a really loud noise, I'll startle. Every single time. Also, I find the sound of people yelling horrible (when there's some in movies, I usually lower the volume until it ends.) And as for music, well, I'm not too crazy about it. I could live a few months without (voluntarily) listening to music, and maybe I even all ready did, without noticing. (And anyway, apparently deaf people can still uh... ~feel the vibration and enjoy music or something like that. But the bottom line is that I wouldn't care much if I lost music.)
I'm really interested by deaf culture, I often read about it, and I'd *love* to learn a sign language.

Here all the things that make me want to become deaf.

Of course, there would be some things I would miss. Like hearing the crickets at night, or the cashier when he tells me how much to pay, and so forth... But sometimes, I come to think that in the end, it would be worth it.
(And I could be both a manual AND oral deaf at the same time since I'm not born deaf and thus master pronunciation ! So it would be a slightly "better" condition than the average person-who-is-born-deaf. I guess.)

Now, I know it isn't normal. But is it at least understandable ? Or is it just utterly crazy ?

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  • Yazorin

    obeyus is gonna become this guy's new best freind lol

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  • obeyus

    holy hell man....i am the same!!!!! i was JUST saying the other day to my friend that i was considering deafening myself...peoples screetches...or even some peoples voices are intolerable....i startle with loud bangs EVERY time too...it feels like physical pain...

    and me?...i sleep with ear plugs in EVERY night because i cant block out the hum of the street..I wake up with every slight sound. Are you the same?.... I am a writer....I LOVE writing..do it all the time, its my medium... the way i best express myself (you may be surprised to learn after reading this garble) and i cant write with music on...i cant concentrate with music on ...I cant hear you if you talk to me and the TV is on. I actually had a go at wearing earplugs outside for a whole day the other day...and i loved it. jeez...im weirder that you....am I? I am very sensitive to music...i LOVE it...but repetitive beats and over simplistic beats (like reggae) infuriate me...... perhas we have something wrong with the part of our brain that can tune out the different sights and sounds of existence... aespergic? schitzophrenic? these conditions have difficulty filtering thier senses.....

    let me know if your as messed up on the sleeping front as i am.

    xx
    s

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    • Apollonia

      (I'm the writer of this story but I had to make another account for... some reason... 'can't remember which e-mail address I used... anyway.)

      Thanks for the comments.

      Well, since then I've started to find music that I do enjoy... Turns out I'm just extremely picky. But even then, I could spend months in complete silence.
      obeyus> As for sleeping, I personally don't need earplugs. I'm okay with the usual street humming. But if there's any other sound (ticking clock, neighbour's TV...), I can't sleep. It's just impossible. But I don't rely on earplugs because they're uncomfortable and they would probably keep me from sleeping just as much as the noise, so... when it's noisy, I just don't sleep. It's as stupid as that.
      But maybe the fact that I'm insomniac has something to do with that. Uh.

      As for wearing earplugs all day... gah... that would be fantastic if earplugs didn't bug me. Actually I thought about buying acoustic earmuffs but apparently they don't block everything... You can still hear people talking, or sirens, and so forth. So it may be fine for people working with a pneumatic drill, but not for me.
      Maybe I should try to find better earplugs... lol. I don't think you're any weirder than I am.

      Freestyle786> Yes, I know that I would regret it.
      But hearing the clothes dryer going on and on and on and on world without end until the towels are dry still makes me want to jump out the window.

      Yazorin> 'Seems unlikely since I'm a girl.

      (English is not my mother tongue btw, so sorry for the mistakes. Feel free to correct me. I don't know if "I wish I were deaf" would have been better ?)

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  • garak

    I'm afraid I am quite the same - I really cant stand loud and especially unexpected noisees. Especially burdensome are noises coming into my apartment having noisy neighbours arguing loud or trampling up and down. I cant stand loud cars or motorbikes driving by.
    I cant tolerate children playing and screaming...
    For sleeping I alway use earplugs.

    Now the absolute best solution in my opinion would be some kind of device with which on could regulate the volume of ones accustic input.
    I'm thinking of a procedure where the hearing-nerve gets cut and in between one places a device like an amplifier and depending on the loadness level adjusted you would hear normal or even amplified or (as I would choose in like 90% of the day) you could dampen down the noise level significantly or even to zero.

    ...wouldnt that be great...

    Greets

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  • secretobsessed

    I'm the same. I've been thinking about it a lot. I know I suffer from some mental disorders, so I'm afraid to make any long-term decisions... like deafening myself... But the more ASL I learn; the more I want to never speak or hear again.
    People accept when someone feels like they should become the other gender, why can't it be okay to deafen yourself?

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  • curiouslymute

    I'm mute (I hear but can't speak), and I feel left out! There are people who want to be deaf, people who want to be blind, I've even read somewhere people who want AIDS....
    Nobody wants to be mute! What am I, chopped liver?! ROFLMAO!!

    I'm sorry, I just can't understand your desire to be deaf.
    I love my deaf friends, and I often wish my ears could close like my eyes can (especially when my roommate's cat just will NOT SHUT UP!!)... but I just can't see wanting to trash any of my sense organs. Eyes, Ears, Nose, Tongue, Skin, Mind - I hope to keep them all in working order.

    I can, however, see where you're coming from about noise.
    I suck at filtering sound. EVERY sound pulls my attention. The hum of the computer over there is pulling my attention as hard as the dialog on the TV. I can at least see that aspect of your post. Of course, not being able to filter sound is something already wrong with me - I'm sure there is a name for it. I still can't grasp the idea of wanting to be deaf.

    All I can say is that I would be ticked if you made yourself deaf and then took up resources that should be used by those who had no choice in the matter. If you're holding up a relay call because you CHOSE to be deaf, or If somebody who didn't make the choice to be deaf is short an interpreter because you have him/her, That is NOT COOL!
    I also think it'd be crap to lie about why you're deaf. You really going to tell other deaf people "I did {whatever} to make myself deaf" when they ask how you became deaf? I'll tell you right now, if I met a deaf-by-choice who lied about how, and I found that out - my answer would be "loose my email address and get away from me". It might be different if they were up front and honest.
    How would you even build a friendship starting with a lie?

    So yeah...
    There's my questions for you.
    Are you going to be up front and honest with how you went deaf if you end up doing that to yourself?
    Are you going to use up the resources that non-choice deafs (Wow... I guess I'm using that as a term now. I never thought such clarification would be needed!) need?
    Are you going to make insurance pay for ANYTHING relevant to whatever it is you do to yourself?

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    • Apollonia

      I wrote this thing about three years ago, I've gotten better since. Sound was really just overwhelming and distracting and painful for me sometimes, but it just kind of... got better? Not sure why, but it did. Anyway, trying to deafen myself instead of seeking medical help for sensory overload would have been pretty stupid, I don't know what I was thinking. It was just something I thought about as opposed to something I planned on actually doing. But you're right, it would have been completely wrong, both for myself and for deaf people I'd interact with or that could use resources I wouldn't "really" need and such. I mean, it's actually a really awful idea to have and I don't think I understood half of what that would entail, so anyway, it sucks. It's kind of embarassing that I can't take it down. But, hum, I'm not going to stick pens through my eardrums, let's say.

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  • lmasters35

    Sometimes I sort of wish this, but am just too afraid to ever do anything like that. It's all kind of an embarrassing problem that I have... my neighbors have kids that run and scream outside, there's a bunch of dogs in my neighborhood whose owners are douchebags and don't care about the dogs or their neighbors and just let them bark at anything... and sometimes my next door neighbor (I live in a condominium) comes out his gate at random hours, usually at night, shouting curse words.

    I wear earplugs when I sleep and a lot of the time during the day. Problem is that they seem to irritate my ears and at one point one ear actually got infected, and swelled shut so I couldn't hear out of it at all. Wouldn't recommend this as a solution as I don't really think having bacteria that close to the brain is really a good idea...didn't want to admit to the infection and go to a doctor so I just treated it with white vinegar and switched from rubber to foam earplugs, which helps although they're still kind of painful.

    One thing you can do with some earplugs if they hurt though, is smear Neo-Sporin on them before putting them in - kills the bacteria while making it easier to get them in (less chafing), though it won't do much for pain if your ears are already hurting.

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  • tatertot008

    I've always thought I was the only person who thought this way. I was bullied a lot in school, and always wished there was a way I couldn't hear them. I've always had a fascination with deaf people, the deaf culture, and I've been teaching myself sign language since I was 5. I'm currently in school to become an interpreter and can't tell if I admire or envy the deaf people I meet. I do know one thing though, I will marry a deaf man someday.

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  • BallerinaCass

    You shouldn't want to be deaf because of noise complaints, you should want to be deaf because it's a gift. People in the deaf culture don't consider it as a disability as most people in the hearing world do. But I do know where you're coming from, I'd love to be deaf myself. The language is amazing, you should definitely get an angle on that before you ruin your hearing. And as for making yourself deaf, it can hurt depending on the route you go. Learn the anatomy of the inner ear, with that it's pretty simple as to which part you need to "disable" to go deaf.

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  • sarah327

    I am the SAME too. Wanting to become deaf etc.
    Did anything work for you yet ?
    I'm scared to try some stuff and want to know if worked for ppl before ?
    Hope to talk with you soon

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    • Apollonia

      I didn't try anything, really.
      But I'm consulting and I talked about it with my shrink. It could be attention deficit triggered by depression, sensory processing disorder... We don't know yet, but I don't think I'll try to deafen myself any time soon.

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      • panfasting

        I never thought others may feel the same as me. Have you tried to deafen yourself again? Can you tell me what ways you are thinking of doing it? Please keep everyone updated. I hope you find some peace for yourself too. Update when you can. Thank you!

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  • iheartyou

    It's not normal but I wouldn't think of it as s bad thing.

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  • FreeStyle786

    You may want that now. But you would only regret it later down the road. Think of all the things you could never hear.

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  • ordoabchao

    While I wouldn't say this is normal, it's not at all crazy. I know many people who will sit in silence alone, just to take it all in and they're fine with it, and alot of people hate very loud noises so you're right on.

    However, it's funny that you mentioned music several times, because this I feel is one of the best gifts given to us (good music anyways). And the ability to console a friend is very satisfying but hard to do without words.

    So no you are not crazy in the least bit, however I am a bit surprised that it isn't a battle you've tried to overcome. Practice telling jokes and singing to songs. You might have the best voice out there.

    P.S You can't go wrong learning the language of the deaf like you stated in your last paragraph. Skills are skills and having the option to acquire good friends who are deaf has got to be priceless.

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  • aBiGaIl

    I'm deaf and trust me when I say you don't want to be!

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