I was raped and get really offended when people joke about rape.

Completely normal. I haven't been raped and it still extremely annoys me when people make light of the subject.

Who in the world jokes about rape? They are the abnormal ones and need to be made aware of that.

Yes it is perfectly normal to respond this way, i was raped and i do the exact same thing.

It is very normal for you to feel this way.

You just have to understand that these people who say things like this are immature.

I'm sure if they knew what happened to you, they would watch what they say.

And if some do, and still don't stop, you should probably stop hanging out with them, because those aren't good people to hang out with.

Or you could try saying "Can you please not make jokes like that. They are offending"

I'm sorry that happened to you.

I was raped and I feel the same way and I get exspesal when I her boys jokeing about rapeing girls becas I'm a boy who's was raped by seven girls at once and I have scars they cut me and put salt in my cuts and then got away and left me tyed up I almost died frome infection so yes it is Normal

Even before I was raped this upset me as well. It's obviously normal, just don't try to understand them when they say these things. Keep your head up, know what happened to you was serious, and invest in therapy.

Your reaction is perfectly normal. Nothing funy about rape. However, maybe you should consider getting help so as to learn to deal with it better and to be able to heal completely. Good luck:)

I get what you're saying. Some of my friends know I was raped and still joke about it in front of me. I first told one of my best friends, she doesn't joke about it but she told some else when they wanted to know why I was acting all "Jummpy". Later that day I got a note in my Health book that said "Ha Ha you were raped" I got an out of school sespention because ofter that I was so mad I punched her in the face and broke her nose. She got nothing. To this day I'll Ppunch ar kick anyone who jokes abut it, friend or not.

i think its pretty normal. to be honest i have never thought about how joking around and stuff can affect some people.... i feel kinda insensitive now...

There's nothing funny about rape. Little wonder you are offended and upset. Maybe tell the ignorant, juvenile, asses that it's not funny and walk away. You might not feel less offended but you may educate someone. You are right to feel as you do.

I never joke about rape, I can totally understand why it'll offend people.

I wasn't raped, but I have a friend that was. I don't know everything that happened, but I'm still upset at whoever did it. Even if my friend wasn't raped, id still get offended at these sorts of "jokes".

I can't believe people find it to be funny. There's nothing funny about being violated.

My virginity was taken by a rapist. It has been 11 years and I am still very sensitive about it. My "friend" said that she hoped a football team got raped by the opposing team, she has no idea i was raped but I have never talked to her again. Anyone who thinks rape is comical does not belong in my life. If you ever need to talk I would be glad to chat with you.

To joke about rape is warped, but I have to be honest I never realised the seriousness I just used to think it's only having sex when you do not want to. and then I had a dream that I was raped (yes you read correctly a dream and it was enough to have an impact and made me feel horrible, and I feel so sorry for having my previous thoughts and not realising the seriousness of rape. I have a brilliant sense of humour but for anyone to joke about rape has gone beyond the beyonds and should be ashamed of themselves x

Hah, some of my friends know ive been raped and they still come over and put on movies with graphic rape scenes. If t hasnt happened to you, you have no idea what it feels like. If it has happened you can never forget.

The hardest thing with the jokes is the flashbacks that come with it... And some people are so immature they'll never learn how to be respectful. Fuck those people. Find friends who are supportive and can help you heal. I'm sorry for what happened to you.

Thats normal. You should tell your friends that you were raped and they will shut up

Get help! That said, it is perfectly normal to be sensitive about rape for a long time afterwards. Hell, I was Raped 26 years ago and I still hate hearing people joke about it. But you need to talk to a professional. Your life will go on, but it will go on better if you talk to someone who has the training and the desire to actually help you. Namaste.

who the hell jokes about rape anyway thats horrible sryy that happend sweety me and my gf hate that too

I'd say this is pretty normal. I think you're still pretty upset by what happened, maybe you should get some counselling about it.

It is normal to feel offended.
The people that joke around are immature and they deserve a nice ass kicking.
Rape is nothing to joke around with. My girlfriend has been raped before and i feel so bad but we have to move on.
If they are close friends let them know it hurts and it happened to you. If they keep going on after you told them then just leave them and find better friends.
I'm am really sorry this happened.

yes this is very normal love but u really have to start moving on in your life where u cant get offend i have been though this all my life but which i have learned in my life is to really build a bridge and get over it i sometime find it hard myself to deal with it but really thats life the way i look at it people just go though things in there life some r bad and some r good but no one said it was going to be easy for anyone yeah u r going to get things like the jokes and whatever and yeah u might get someone who looks like the person or even things that will be said in a normal conversation that u may rememeber or someone who even sounds like the person but thats life love u have to get over it one day just think well its the way i would think really EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON this may make u a stronger and better person. trust me love u will have ur bad days but u will also have ur good days u just need to start building ur life and not to live in the past cause that will make u worse just let them silly jokes go past ya it will not do ya any harm i no it hurts and i no its hard i will be the first to tell ya that well good luck anyways and remember live life up and take no shit and always remeber that

How does running away help you. People will joke and laugh about most subjects especially when they in a group. However it does not mean they totally understand or agree with they are saying.
However how does running away help you ? This seems to be something projected by Hollywood that a woman has to run away and cry.
Everyone one in life has to confront their own experiences be they 'good' or 'bad'.
There is no easy path, either an experience can make you weak or an experience can make you strong.
instead of running away and crying go and learn Martial arts.

No means no.
You went through a terrible event.
That said, if you allow that event to define your life, you allow the rapist to win, and continue to violate you.
Come to terms with that, try to understand people say stupid shit, cause they have'nt been there.

I'm a pretty offensive person but I usually draw the line at rape. I say "usually" because I have some really offensive friends who don't mind it.

Most rape jokes don't have the degree of irony that can sometimes make an offensive joke okay.

i didn't think about it much before. I've been dating a girl for two years who was raped before we met and the subject really bothers me now.

Same. I was sexually harassed for years of my childhood and it's never funny. They may think it is. I always say "Rape isn't funny." I say it every time and will continue too. It's not something to joke about. You aren't the only one.

There's nothing funny about rape. Little wonder you are offended and upset.

Maybe tell the ignorant, juvenile, asses that it's not funny and walk away. You might not feel less offended but you may educate someone. You are right to feel as you do.

It's completely normal after what happened to you.
When I was 14, a guy from my school tried to kiss me and rip my clothes off behind the schoolyard. I smashed him on the head with a broken brick until he was knockout and had to get a few dozen stitches. The last thing I knew about him was that he was suspended and had to switch schools a week or so later.
I am also very offended by rape jokes or sexual jokes in general, which makes perfect sense.

I don't find it funny at all. It is normal. I wouldn't call this rape but one time someone forcefully took me and dry humped me. So I kinda get where your coming from.

I was raped too. That is very normal to be pissed. I get pissed at those things too. I think rape jokes are awful and do not EVER try to condition yourself to put up with them because they are not good. I have done research on rape jokes and I found some very interesting proof on why they are bad. I found it on Google. I would post it, but I have to find the link first.

It's normaltoe react this way, you know what happens and that is usually far from what people think rape is. It annoys me to but not to your extreme, i still don't completely know what happens during this horrinle thing but i cant imagine anyone going thorough it would enjoy the process would like it.Iam sincerely sorry about what happened and thatour comments have helped in some way :)

OMG! I feel so bad for what happened to you! :'( (That's the symbol for crying on msn). People are going to say offensive crap wherever you go, you shouldn't take it to heart. If you do, it'll wear you out really fast.

It's just like last week when I was online. Someone had posted a comment that said something like, "You can't spell diabetes without 'die'." It ticked me off so much that I wanted to take my computer and fling it out the window. Almost everyone in my family has diabetes, including me. You can imagine how that felt. The only reasons my computer is still alive is because if I killed it, it wouldn't solve anything. Stupid people would still be out there thinking stupid thoughts. Annnd I couldn't really lift it.....

Anyhow, my point is that you shouldn't let these buttheads that think that way bother you. Focus on healing and becoming stronger. And you'll be a better person for it. :)

Best of luck!

You are are normal and I personaly think it's disgusting to joke about. Rape

this is normal people that have been raped should feel this way since this have had happened to you then you should feel offended people who joke around with those kinda things have never experienced being raped and think its funny to talk about things like this i find it very annoying to they make me upset and want them to stop saying jokes and things like that out loud because it hurts peoples feelings when they say things out loud like that cause people around you could have been experiend with sexual acts that they have not wanted & it pisses people off by asking & joking around with personal words & not thinking before they speak my friend was raped & people ask her personal questions and joke and make fun of her at school she gets really upset & im always there for her to talk 2 so she can settle down im the only one there for her since no one wants to help her with this situation but to all those people who joke around and say mean things & sexual things to girls and guys just think about what you say before you talk because most people have experienced these kinda of things even though they have no clue what happened to them they get upset. so just telling you guys and a reminder 2 think about stuff before you say things out loud.

Some people deal with things in different ways. I need to laugh when I'm really stressed or I slowly self destruct. My close friends know about my history and I don't want them to feel awkward about it like I know they do so I try to make light of the situation. I don't laugh about my situation or any other person's. It's more along the lines of letting them know I'm OK to discuss it with them and I trust them. Rape talk shouldn't be so taboo. I might have told people sooner.

BTW it seems perfectly understandable.

I haven't, and don't know anyone involved with rape in any way. But I used to occasionally fantasise about it. I didn't want to damage anyone in such a cruel way. But I genuinely got off on the thought of it. Sad but true.

They don't know how you feel. They'll have to pass an exp. like that to understand your feelings about it. But, be positive, you aren't the girl that was taken away, raped, tortured with a damn blowtorch and to be free had to flirt with her captor. This happened in 199 I dont know exactly. What I know it's Kurt Cobain(RIP) was affected too much and wrote "Polly" wich appears on Nirvana's Nevermind. True story.

Wow, I got carried away
It's normal.

I was raped 2 times, by the same person.
BUT i have chose to move on from this horrible past.
People are naive about things, they think "oh well this could never happen to me, so i can say whatever i want"
But you just have to think, "Ok it's over with, i got to move on"
It also helps if you join a group with others that have been raped and you can talk about it.

Ha umm idk i was raped and all that and so was some of my pales and i dont joke bout that stuff but some will and i have no proble with it if its ok like if its bad that anit rite if i was or not..but pople with thouts like that just want to no why people go throue,weird but yeah.By the way im sorry this happend to you but evey one reacs diffrently to this stuff.

It's all about being honest here. Many women have rape fantasies. Mind you, in their fantasy they control everything that happens. That is far from what really happens in a rape where in some cases the woman is in fear for her life. What they seem to get off on is being dominated. Why does that stimulate orgasms with some women? Who knows, it just does. Some women also like to be hit, slapped, talked dirty to or choked during sex. More than you would believe. What excites us is a mystery but there is no doubt it works for many women. Part of the joking is the fact that it makes no sense why these things turn us on. Woman are often as baffled as you as to why this happens so they just laugh about it. I am sorry you had a bad experience but my feeling is anything said was not intended to hurt you but to make light of the often contradictory and enigmatic human condition.