I want to marry my second cousin, iin?

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Me and my second cousin have been in a relationship off and on since high school. At first our parents hated it and done everything in their power to keep us apart but eventually they came around. We been together now for about 8 yrs we have a 1 yr old who is perfectly normal despite the fact that people say having a kid with a cousin may cause birth defects. We been together so long and we have a kid now i wanna get married. Is this ok? We have the kid, very much in love and we dont want anybody else but i think we are scared because the fact that we are second cousins. Is marrying him ok?

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  • Unimportant
    12 years ago

    Seriously? It didn't stop you from falling in love with her, it didn't stop you to create a child with her, but marriage is where you draw the line?

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    • AnonymousCanada
      11 years ago

      She's not saying that's where she is drawing the line. She's just asking if it's legally or morally ok. But I kind of agree with you, if they've already done all that shit it's probably not going to be the most controversial thing they've done.

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    • Unimportant
      12 years ago

      With *him, not with *her. My mistake.

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    Every single person on this planet is a cousin of every single other person. Admittedly, some of us are tenth cousins twice removed, but we all share a common ancestor. It's technically impossible to marry someone who isn't your cousin.

    Admittedly, your relationship is with someone closer genetically than most of us, but I think it's seen as acceptable in general.

    On a side note, I think it'd be fascinating if everyone on IIN did those DNA tests which give you a sequence you can match against another person to work out where your common ancestor is, and how related we are. I wonder who is closest to me. Anyone with Welsh ancestry, I suppose. Christ, it's probably Carolann! :O

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  • The_foz
    11 years ago

    One thing you may not have thought of is that sometimes genetic defects take more than one generation to appear. If your kid grows up and gets involved with someone that they're even remotely related to, the result WILL show up if they have a child.
    I happen to know a few couples whose parents on one side were second cousins and most of their grand kids have immune problems and/or physical problems.

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  • AnonymousCanada
    11 years ago

    Ignore everything any haters have said. This is normal, it doesn't matter who you love as long as you love. About the baby, it IS your second cousin so chances are there's probably nothing wrong with it, but you can't tell if there's mental defects if it's only one year old. Don't go jumping to conclusions, there is still a good chance something could go wrong. However, if you love your second cousin I say get married, whether or not the baby has any mental defects is something you can deal with when the problem arises, but right now you have a wedding to plan.

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    • Pooh82
      11 years ago

      My son is fine. He is healthy, happy and one of the smartest kids ive ever met. Thanks for the advise.

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      • AnonymousCanada
        11 years ago

        I hope it was helpful.

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      • Pooh82
        11 years ago

        Advice

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  • ymii
    12 years ago

    of course its normal. if you are in love with someone (and its mutual) then go for it, dont let bullshit get in the way. trust me, you'll regret it

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  • Oinkyy100&9
    12 years ago

    Just do it its normal.

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  • paulsharon44
    12 years ago

    It's not only legal it's ok. 2nd cousins are so distantly related it doesn't matter.

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