I want to leave my fiancé because he is too messy, is it normal?

Yes it can be a deal breaker. I have had a few relationships and 2 of them with extremely messy female slobs. It was a big contributing factor to the relationships ending/not continuing on to something great.

In the early days I'd visit her at her 1 person house and see the messiest, dirtiest, smelliest kitchen. Huge piles of unwashed dishes. A stinky, dirty bathroom with shit marks on the toilet. Piles of dirty unwashed clothes all over the house.

What was I thinking? Oh yeah. The sex.

Sounds like you are on the brink of cheating on this guy. My second wife had the same problem as you with a guy. This led to an affair with yours truly. She eventually divorced this slob but it took almost two years and a lot of her sneaking around with me before this happened. Wouldn't wish this ordeal on anybody. So I'd say put your foot down. Tell him to clean up his act or it's over. And say it like you mean it! You know it sounds like there is a thread of hope here that your marriage can be saved. My wife and I are both on our second time around and learned a thing or two from that first disaster. Wish the both of you the best. Remember: say it like you mean it! Because you do, honey. You do.

This is why it's always best to live with someone before considering marriage.

Anyway, talk to him. If he doesn't listen or start cleaning up, then end the relationship.

You are broken. The person that you actually saw at the beginning is not there and never was. You are disappointed. Believe me, been there done that and I love the one I have now but it really surprised me she was like that. I am a very organized clean man. My girl is gorgeous and very attractive but that is not to stop from doing what I have to do. Her son is also a bigger mess than her. I don't and no one that is clean and organized have to go thru some be like that.

I used to be just like your partner...I was such a slob when my now husband moved in. I'm embarrassed now when I look back at how messy was...but I just wasn't raised to clean up after myself and I didn't understand the big deal. Thankfully he was patent with me and gave me time to figure out how to be a neater person. I still have a tendency to not put things away or leave my clothes on the floor, but now I actively take out the trash, vacuum, do dishes, dust, etc. on my own accord. I take pride in being clean now.

Tell him how you feel, because it seems to really bother you. Try doing chores together, and make it fun. Turn on some good music, split up responsibilities and maybe go out to a dinner or movie as a reward when you're done. You can make a "reward chart" with a list of chores that need to be done. Every time you complete something on the list, you get a sticker. Once he gets enough stickers, he can have something he really wants. It may seem childish, but being messy is a bad habit and habits are easier to break when it seems fun.

Good luck!

Id talk with him and if hes not eilling to get his act together i would leave him

I think you need to decide if you can live with this mess forever. If you can Yay your all set. If not... time to move on.