I want to know about my gf's sexual past

Is it normal to want to know about my girlfriends sexual past? We've been together for 2 years now and we're inseparable, we like the same things, enjoy the same actives and just generally enjoy being in one another's company. She was my first and she's always told me that she wishes I was hers, I've always been worried if I'm good enough sexually and she tells me I'm more than adequate and that's she's honestly never came before me which feels pretty good you know, who doesn't like being the best at something? Anyway, she's lied to me before about how many people she's slept with and finding that out kinda hurt, I know it shouldn't matter because it's the past but i feel like it matters to me, she lost her virginity at a young age and has slept with some people the first time they met, I'm a proper kind of guy and to me that's a bit slutty. We were at a party one time and she was bragging about where she'd slept with the guy and that made me feel like shit you know, I was right there and at that point we'd never even slept together. I love her to bits but for a while I just couldn't stop thinking about what I knew she'd done and where she'd done it, it made me feel inadequate and just generally shitty. Anyway, is it normal for me to want to know everything that she's done? Even though i know finding out the answers will probably hurt me, I just can't help the urge to know more.

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  • BlackyHancock

    It may be normal to want to know but it's better not to go there. What if she tells you something that makes you feel even more like shit, like some guy she had sex with who was so great because of [fill in the blank]?

    Better not to know.

    The past is the past, best to leave it there.

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  • Tealights

    You're just insecure.

    The motives behind knowing her past is selfish. You should want to know it to learn more about her to understand what she's been through and to cherish her more than those other men, not to compare yourself and sulk. If you don't change your view on this, then eventually this will eat away at you and the relationship will fail due to your insecurity.

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  • thegypsywhaler

    It's absolutely understandable.

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  • Dr_Remulak

    I pulled a tarot card for you asking about who your girl is spiritually and got the three of cups reversed meaning Conclusion, undertaking, rapidity, gossip, overindulgence, gluttony, lust, possible illness, plenty turns to shortage, pleasure turns to pain. It's it possible she was once promiscuous and is not that person anymore now that she's found you? Or is she stuck at the moment and yearning for something more?

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  • KingTermite

    Get out of the relationship. This will never resolve and eventually you'll break up anyway. Better to do it now and move on with your life.

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    • Zephyr-

      To be honest that's what I know in my heart and what I'm scared of, I love her dearly and I want a future with her I just need to get out of this hump.

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      • KingTermite

        Good luck if you decide to stick it out. I suppose there's always a slim chance you can overcome it, but I've watched these things play out many times and it's normally just a snowball, increasing in size as time wears on.

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