I want to have sex before i am 20.

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Well, I am 18 at the moment and have never had a boyfriend. I am pretty sure there is nothing wrong with me, I just don't know anyone I am interested in and I am also quite shy with people who I don't know well. Anyway, I have decided I want to have sex before I am 20. In other words, I want to have serious relationship before I turn 20. I want to do this not for anyone else but for me so that I can have that experience. Obviously I don't believe in "no sex before marriage" and I would like to have some experience. Is this normal? I don't mean experience in a slutty way just that I want to know what a serious relationship is like.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    Really immature to set an age limit for your v card. Ridiculously immature.

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    • bronte_91
      13 years ago

      Okay, let's just clear something up. I am not "setting an age limit on my v card". I am just wanting to make a concious effort to meet people and to be more outgoing so that I can hopefully then pursue a relationship. Personally, I dont think it is immature to want to be more social and to want to engage in life's experiences. Also, I want to be clear on the fact that I don't want a one night stand. I don't JUST want sex I actually want to experience ALL of the aspects of a relationship. I don't know about you, but I need to push myself to be more social and outgoing, because normally that isn't in my nature. All I am saying is I want to experience something that doesn't come easily to me but I want to make an effort.

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      • Audacia
        13 years ago

        ''Okay, let's just clear something up. I am not "setting an age limit on my v card". I am just wanting to make a concious effort to meet people and to be more outgoing so that I can hopefully then pursue a relationship. Personally, I dont think it is immature to want to be more social and to want to engage in life's experiences. Also, I want to be clear on the fact that I don't want a one night stand. I don't JUST want sex I actually want to experience ALL of the aspects of a relationship. I don't know about you, but I need to push myself to be more social and outgoing, because normally that isn't in my nature. All I am saying is I want to experience something that doesn't come easily to me but I want to make an effort.''

        Couldn't of said it better myself. It kind of sucks like waiting for the right person, might not come along.

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  • scotty4444
    13 years ago

    You are going to have figure out what sex will include, your expectations, etc. If you dont communicate with your partner about your expectations, you may be let down. If you cant talk with them about it, its the wrong guy

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  • CountessCoolout
    13 years ago

    Are you seriously asking if it's normal to want sex before marriage - you honestly don't know from the zillions of people who have sex before (or without) marriage?

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    • bronte_91
      13 years ago

      I know that many people have sex before and without marriage, that wasn't my question. I was merely saying that I would like to experience a serious relationship. Also, I am aware that you don't need sex for a relationship to be considered serious. But sex is a part of life and something that I want to experience.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I think this is completely normal, I agree with you I was the same before I had ever slept with someone. I was quite, had very little confidence ect. Out of my group of friends I was last too loose my virginity altough some of my friends respected me I still didnt feel any happier about the fact I was the only one who still hadn't had sex. I made the mistake of losing my virginity to someone I had no feelings for though. A mistake I regret. But now 3 years later I feel much better and more confident when meeting new people.

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  • Audacia
    13 years ago

    Yeah I'm 20 and shy. Talking to girls is hard and stuff. Had a couple of girlfriends, main one being online! Lol If I don't loose mine by 21 I'll just really really pursue it some how ane make it happen. It's normal, good to set a time limit on things.

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  • sheyne8203
    13 years ago

    I think that adds a lot of pressure to set a time limit to have sex within a serious relationship. It's okay to want experience, but life isn't planned and trying to force a relationship wouldn't be healthy either. I see your point about wanting experience, but I would relax on the time frame.

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    • bronte_91
      13 years ago

      It's not a dead line per-say. It is just a way for me to motivate myself to be more social with people. As it stands, I don't make much of effort outside of my group of friends. Since there isn't anyone with my circle of friends who I am interested in (or who are interested in me) I have decided to make more of effort to meet new people. I think that my point was a slightly misinterpreted. A lot people say things like "I want to get married before I am 30" or what ever. That doesn't mean they are going to marry someone just because they are 29 and MUST stick to their plan. That would be moronic and I am not a moron. I just want to make an effort to pursue a relationship that's it.

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  • marley56
    13 years ago

    I think, that u can't force a serious relationship to happen by a certain time. If it happens, it happens. If not, then oh well, does it really matter that much if you don't have sex before your 20?

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  • 405060
    13 years ago

    I am you except two years younger. :-(

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  • SillyKitty55
    13 years ago

    guys that go to clubs usually want a one night stand and never talk to you again so don't do that!
    it is normal for you to be like this. i call it "going through our slutty Whorish phase"
    where all i did from age 19 through 21 was sleep around.
    it was fun while it lasted. but make sure you ALWAYS USE PROTECTION and YOUR ON THE PILL!!! or u get an IUD!!!!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Hell yeh its normal! if you're good looking at all just go to a club you can easly find some1 in there i mean, guys are usually going to clubs to find chicks.(self experience)

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  • MarijuAtheist
    13 years ago

    Hire a jiggalo. Or become one of those girls who lives vicariously through the characters on Sex and the City.

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    • bronte_91
      13 years ago

      As much as I love Sex and the City, I don't think that living my life through a FICTIONAL character is the mature and healthy thing to do. Do you? Also, if I am looking for a RELATIONSHIP, why would I want to hire a man-hore?

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