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I don't mean one day, I mean date around 20 men for a year and see which one is the best because I would need at least a year to tell.
Is it normal?
Reminds me of those bad tv shows where 20 women compete to get one mediocre dude
This is actually hilarious. You mean to tell me you will try to get men to essentially compete against one another for you but you are too chicken shit to be honest about it because those men would prefer other women instead of you if they knew this which would mean you wouldn't be able to compete against other women if they knew?
This is so sad in the most hilarious way.
I think it’s probably a weird dynamic but if they know I suppose it’s ok. Sounds like the bachelor. 😂
Dating several people for like a month, sure. For a year, no.
If you date the same person for a year then it's a relationship and if they find out you're dating others too that's incredibly hurtful and even if none of them finds out about the others it's still pretty much cheating and being a shitty person. You sound extremely selfish and insensitive, and on top of that very insecure and boring. Relationships are a risk, you choose to take that risk for someone because you like them that much and hopefully it was a good idea in the end. That's the risk those guys would take with you because they'd like you that much, only for you to treat them all like garbage. And if you're not so into one of them specifically after only a few weeks of dating then it's probably not love you feel for any of them because if it was it wouldn't take you a year to only want to see one of them. Unless you're incapable of real emotions and pretty much a psychopath which doesn't sound very unlikely to be honest. In the end it's your choice wether you wanna be a shitty person or not though.
Either way though, who's wanting to go around having sex with strangers right now with the huge Corona virus epidemic happening?
I don't think I could be boring if I can get dates. It's more like most men I meet are boring so I figure I can get to know 20 and hope one will be the winner. They wouldn't ever find out so it shouldn't bother them.
Casually dating several people at once is normal but not that many for that long. Firstly how would you find the time for 20 men? Secondly would you expect them all to be ok with being one of 19 for a whole year?
It shouldn’t take you a year to figure out if you want a relationship with someone you’re dating, if you’re not feeling it after a few months then move on.
Uncertainty of what you want seems to be an issue for you so I would recommend sitting down today and working out what you want in a serious partner in terms of where you see yourself living, marriage, children etc. Then once you know what you’re looking for start dating a few guys casually and see if anything grows.
I use your strategy with stocks. I'll buy 20 of them, and sell off the worst performers after a few weeks, buying more shares in the top performers. Finally, I am left with one big kahuna. If you're looking for good chemistry and performance in men, your idea might work. Just make sure you have condoms for each one of the 20 guys.
I have a mate who's a hooker who probably shags less different guys than this, lol. Get them to wear johnnies if you're shagging that many so you don't get diseased and pass it around.
Don't use a condom if you do this. Whoever gets you pregnant first will be the one.
Your idea is all to normal (although perhaps not the number).
However, you are unlikely to land anyone long term if you don't tell people up front that is what you are are doing.
There are plenty of men who will not mind competing for you, or even having an open relationship (and marriage). However, very few men are willing to continue with a relationship once they find out that you have not been honest about your sex life with others.
If you are looking for a man who will be "only you" faithful to you - you will turn them off completely by this tactic on your part. If that is what you want, you need to be at least faithful to only one man at a time - and give each one at least several weeks of personal attention before deciding to move on.
Also, based on my observations over the decades: once you move on from one man to another... There is a very low chance of you reconnecting with a previous "good match."
I suggest that you modify your plans.
I wish you the best,
Haha good luck with the logistics of that one. Also your sloppy loooooose snatch
As long as they're made aware to what you're doing and they're not being led on, it's fine.
Unfortunately I'm not sure if they'd all be interested. I'm already with one but slowly getting involved with three more and when I asked them about it, they laughed and said they wouldn't date me then...so it would have to be a secret
Then its not a good idea then. You might wind up breaking hearts and possibly traumatizing someone.
Unless you are dating men who are much less intelligent than you... Don't you think they are going to find out someday.
Relationships are built on honesty and trust. Once someone knows that you lied to them.. it's hard to recover from that.
I'm going to quote my wife when we were discussing things before marriage (we got married later than many and had many experiences and many friends cry on our shoulders): "I've never seen anyone harmed by sex, and I've seen hundreds of relationships destroyed by lies about sex."
Our wedding vows are 1) Honesty in all things. 2) To work out problems and issues that develop (and no problem or issue cannot be worked out if identified to the other party in a timely manner).
We both know that sometimes people do stupid things or get caught up in situations they have not thought through (including ourselves). The key to any issue is not what happened, but why it happened and how things are expected to progress in the future...
Then we had a list of expectations, which could be changed if needed.
Yes, we have had one very major issue that we spent 6 months in counseling over (ripped our guts out - very painful and stressful), used up all my banked accumulated PTO days, and cost many $thousands. We both emerged as better people and our marriage is much stronger; and the cost was far cheaper than a divorce.
I cannot imagine what kind of relationship you expect if its built on lies...
I wish you the best,
So much negativity.
Do what works for you.
Ive seen virgins hold out for
' the one '
Then seen them single and disillutioned 2 months later.
I've seen easy girls meet the right guy and they are done.
There is no magical answer.
What works for some, isn't right for everyone.
That said, keep your mouth shut about the others.
You are not perfect either.