I want to be friends with my ex's girlfriend

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My boyfriend and I got together 2 years ago. We were both in committed relationships but weren't happy with our partners so decided to break it off with them and make our relationship 'official'. Since then I have had this weird feeling about his ex, I have been fascinated with her as she seems really cool. He doesn't want me to have anything to do with her but I can't help but want too. We are now facebook friends and talk quite a bit, she's cool with everything and we get along really really well. I would love to hang out with her. I told my boyfriend we spoke and he was furious, really really angry. He yelled at me and told me he asked me not to contact her. He left her for me and I guess he feels some guilt? I don't know, he wont calm down when I ask him about it.
What do I do? I could really do with a friend like her, she is very similar to me in almost every way.

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    Ask him if there´s a legit reason to why he doesn´t want the two of you to hang out.

    Either way, in my opinion one should NEVER tell their BF/GF who to not hang out with without having an actual reason to why he or she is feeling like this.

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  • snafu
    11 years ago

    Tell him you'll do a threesome problem solved :-)

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  • everlily76
    13 years ago

    It's obvious your bf doesn't feel happy with you talking to her, but if he was friends with your ex and you didn't mind, I don't see why he's so jealous.It's a bit hypocritical of him really.

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  • buttintoit
    13 years ago

    would you mind if he started hanging out with your ex?

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  • silvermonk
    14 years ago

    its obvious u dont care how ur bf feels, so just break up with him.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    You sure don't put much weight on your bf's feelings - go you? It is so obvious how he feels, yet you just disregard it. Why?

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    • isitnormaltodiscussthishere
      14 years ago

      I don't want to disregard his feelings. I just think she is nice and easy to get along with. I wonder why if she is over it and has moved on, why can't he? He doesn't need to feel guilt, she is happy with another guy and apart from this and some general relationship arguments, so are we.
      I just want to be able to make my decision based on what I want too. He was friends with my ex for a while, until my ex moved and became engaged, and I didn't mind at all. To his defense, they had already been friends. I didn't really know his gf at the time, but now I do I find her nice and very friendly.

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