I want my best friend

I have a boyfriend of a year and a half that I love very much and have been completely faithful to. But the other night I was hanging out with my best friend (who is a guy) and out of no where I started feeling like I wanted to kiss him. Then it progressed to fantasizing about sleeping with him. I don't know where this is coming from because he has been my best friend for over 3 years and I have never once thought of him in this way. I feel bad for having these thoughts when I have a boyfriend, but I can't seem to control it. I don't think this is normal but I don't know if maybe this has happened to someone else.

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  • teen_advisor

    I wouldn't take it any further. I've been in this situation too many times and it always ruins the friendship. You can't look at him without having those strange feelings. Enjoy each other's company and the fact that you two can talk to each other. Sex is easy to find, but friends aren't. Hope that helped.

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  • Barretwallace

    I can honestly said fantasizing about a best friend is normal. I have been friends with someone I consider like a sister to me for 14 years ( I am only twenty) and I used to fantasize about her all the time including dreaming of having intercourse with her. But I convinced my self It would never be because we are too good of friends, although she is exactly what I like in a woman and judge how they look and act by comparing them to her.

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  • kitkat21

    Bestfriends make the best lovers

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  • gabface19

    It probably has something to do with being tied down. People will always want what they don't have. Don't mess up a good thing for a wishy washy thought... HOWEVER let yourself have your thoughts ;)
    I do!!
    ( I have a bf but fantasies are just that, so think away if it pleases you! Just don't let the friend know that can make things awkward or tempting. But sometimes it is nice to picture a different face)
    Be strong!

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  • They are called fantasies. Relax.

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  • NugInTheRug

    It's normal to have sexual thoughts about other people, even if you're in a relationship. It's human nature. However, it is not okay to act on those sexual thoughts. Leave the fantasy to fantasy. If you want your best friend that bad, break up with your boyfriend.

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  • Capthotrocks

    Just go ahead and have sex with him then sought it out afterwards. That way you',, know if yuo really want your boyfriend or your best friend.

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  • Kayli

    Very normal... However, make sure your fantasies don't turn into realities. I would spend less time with your guy best friend just incase you are put into an awkward position. It is very rare that two people of the opposite sex can be close without feelings developing for each other. Good luck!

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  • jhollow

    Absolutly, this is Normal. Well, your boyfriend is a boyfriend... Not a husband. Fuck you best friend. If you're friendship is true, you may enjoy it and do it again. Oh, and keep it between the two of you... be discreet. Just hope it doesn't ruin your friendship with him. Yes, its normal. What are you waiting for? Go for it! Keep us posted.

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  • ruralfrights

    It's perfectly normal but you had better take some action. A little time away from friend, and work on self-control. I found, when I was younger, that sex was irresistable. Just the thought of being with so and so would give me an everlasting bonner.I either had to use it or lose it. I did both. And I did hey infer control as o grew closet to thirty. My values changed and my hormones leveled off. So, give it time

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  • lilmama22ize

    its normal you just need to relax hes just your freind and you know it......or do you lol jk

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  • boomzee

    Totally normal.. he is someone that you have strong feelings for and a deep connection with - and he has a penis. It's inevitable that at some point the thought of boning him is going to cross your mind.... hell if you're like me you can hardly look at a decent-lookin dude without thinking about boning him... haha

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  • Marshall_Mathers

    It's normal. This happens to so many people, But you have a boyfriend that you said you Loved, so stay faithful with him. Don't go doing something you may regret in the future. But then again, if things turn to other way, and your best friend wants you, too. Try to make everything work for the best, and try not to make enimies with anyone. Been there, Done that.
    Hope this helps!
    -Marshall

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