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Is it normal that I want a girlfriend who would love me no mater what ... to the point that she would want to keep me for herself?
My boyfriend told me he used to date someone like that. She tried to stab him in a subway when he tried to break up with her. Sometimes fantasy is better than reality, OP.
You would have no space, no other friends, and definitely not any female friends. And when you need space she will think you're upset and drive herself crazy with all kinds of the worst thoughts of why you need space. And if she can't have you, she will try and kill you. But hell, if that is what you want then fine. But it is better as a fantasy than reality. They make shows of past police records based on the whole obsession thing. There is nothing good that comes from obsession, it comes with the worst downsides. Besides, even if they love you, and obsession isn't love, they will constantly think you're cheating. You will have to deal with that on a regular basis too.
So...you have a fantasy that you "could never do wrong", in a woman's eyes and be a source for her personal happiness (insanity)? Yeah it's normal, good luck with that one.
A fling I had with someone before my partner was like that, and like others here have said, the reality is not the same as fantasy.
You're wanting this because you're thinking of it from a safe position, where you can make the decision of yes or no without abuse. I thought I'd want it to until I met it, when the choice goes away and you realize quickly that it's not good.
The girl I had a few flings with got obsessed. If I was out with friends and she seen me she would come up, try be next to me, try to get me to leave with her to have sex, I'd have to try move away to not cause a scene, she would follow. I tried to be friends with her but that didn't work.
We went up to mine one point, I tried to get her to go away on walk home but she wouldn't. Up at mine, she tried kissing me, I pulled away, she kept trying, I said nah I don't want to, and so she slapped me, yelled that iI'm an asshole, then tried even harder to kiss me, and I told her she needs to leave. She then tried to go into a sob story so she could stay, but I told her to leave again. Kept going on for about ten minutes until she left.
She left, went outside mine, then started sobbing. I was freaking out because just imagine what that looks like, what the neighbors must of thought, etc.
Then another night I was out and she came out too. She pretty much done the same but at a house party of a mutual friend. A mutual friend took is to his bedroom so we could all chat. She tried to hurl abuse, saying I'm a psycho, I like abusing women, how I don't feel anything, Yada, Yada. She was trying a powerplay, and luckily the mutual friend seen it.
The mutual friend said if this continues we both would need to leave but if we both make up we can continue the party. I had to tell him that I couldn't, Its happened too many times, and I'll have to leave but that he shouldn't feel bad about it, we are still friends but I'll have to leave, I'm not making up with her.
He knew what was happening, told me to just get back to the party, and he talked to her alone, basically told me that he told her to back off from me, which is appreciated.
Essay there, I know, but point is, it's not romantic, it's not crazy love, it often turns into control and abuse, and they will come after you, your reputation, and everything the second they don't get what they want. Also, you'd have to kiss goodbye to having personal choice.
Ita not good.
My "friend" Is one of the most insufferably annoying, obsessive girl I unfortunately know. Please, take her away from me!! TAKE HER
I wanted exactly the same thing. As a hypersexual, I wanted a nympho that could satisfy my need of having sex 10-20 times a day and to be insane after me. Soon enough, she went crazy, she started swearing me for trying once in a while to meet my friends or do something else apart for spending time with her. Not only that she wasn't having sex enough to satisfy me, but also she wanted to dominate me in everything, she wanted everything in her way, not trying to reach a middle ground. I thought that finally, I'd be happy and satisfied, as most women are afraid of fucking so much, but I definitely wasn't. But maybe you are. I wouldn't have known this if I hadn't had this experience. I think you should try, but avoid the dangerous ones who'd even fucking stab you.
An obsessed girlfriend will play mind games with you constantly, making you feel guilty for not coming home at a certain time. She may even cheat on you to get back at you for some petty bull crap.
My cousin married one of those psychos. At one point she even tried to kill herself to make him feel guilty for wanting to divorce with her. My cousin luckily did divorce her.
It is,but depends I guess. There are some girls that when obsessed to you they satisfy you but still keep a little for themselves, because even if they love you so much they respect themselves as well,which causes them to limit themselves a little bit from their obsession. You should look for that kind of girlfriend. (Though I guess they're extremely hard to find,it's hard for most obsessed people to do things with a little bit moderation)