I want a friends with benifits!!!

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I just got out of a relationship with a real jerk of a guy. He was to "lazy" to hold my hand, kiss me, or even hug me. SO, is it normal to just want someone to do those things, but not want to be in a relationship? I mean, if I really really like the guy I'd want to be in one, but I don't like anyone. I just want affection. Is that wrong :(? Because a part of me feels like it is, but another part wants it.

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  • badboy4u247
    13 years ago

    i don't see anything wrong with it as long as both of you are honest about your situation and needs..it can be alot of fun!..but don't hurt someone that doesn't deserve it..

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I think it's normal. Like sometimes a relationship is like a job and a hassle.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    get a dog

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  • ihopeyoudie
    14 years ago

    you want friends with health insurance and dental care?

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    • StarTeddy
      14 years ago

      I'd love it if some of my friends came with that.

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  • jealouC
    13 years ago

    i want one too! where do you live girl? :D hahaha! i'm a hot, sweet guy ;D

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  • richardbturgid
    9 years ago

    To have sex an dnot have a relationship is like having a relationship and not holding hands. You are trying to create the opposite problem.

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  • sleepygirl101
    12 years ago

    This literally has just happened to me; I'm in the same boat as you. I think that, yes, it's normal to have a friends with benefits relationship, just don't do anything you'll regret and beware that it doesn't always work out the way you want. Good luck and get some love :)

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  • admirer
    12 years ago

    Honey, I'm in an excellent relationship with all the touching & loving in full effect but even I want a secret friend with benefits. Some of us are just insatiable, it's perfectly normal!

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    It's okay. Almost every guy at my school likes me, which is okay but I'm tired of everyone wanting me. You know? I haven't had a relationship for two years. A real relationship anyway.I want someone who I can just do stuff with and not be ashamed of it.

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  • blueruby
    13 years ago

    I think you're normal. I have 5 FWB. And I'm married too. My husband wont leave and wont let me leave without distroying me and the kids, so I got myself a boyfriend, then another. I see 5 different men at different times. They are different, and have different age ranges and professions. the youngest is 39 the oldest 70. I would like one more, young rich guy. I love my life now.

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  • Mechastar
    14 years ago

    lol that is until you get a disease and wish you hadnt huh

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  • HaywoodUSuchmeov
    14 years ago

    Wanna have sex?

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  • Ninjagirl
    14 years ago

    Oh my gosh, I'm the same exact boat. Im tempted to have a physical relationship w. the last guy I dated even though he broke up with me, and didn't treat me that well. Im sure he would be up for it. But I think in the end its a bad idea, since he prob wont be as receptive physically as I'd want and plus he'll think Im desperate for a guy so will prob mistreat me even more, so Im worried. but at the same time I crave the physical affection. in the meantime, I think you shoudn't waste your energy on your ex... join an online site... try to date new men. It will be good to try to move on, while deciding whether its worth pursuing anything physical w your ex

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  • kNACkforit
    14 years ago

    I can relate to an extent--I want to get married just so I can have kids, not because of the love. But I'm still a sophomore in college, so hopefully I'll find love and this will change!

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  • Rouxcamina
    14 years ago

    You're just a cuddler. You sound a lot like me actually. I'm not interested in a relationship right now but I love hugging and cuddling some of my male friends.

    You're normal, no worries. (:

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  • Kat444
    14 years ago

    I don't know if it's wrong, but it's certainly normal. I feel the same way too sometimes, and I know others do as well.

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  • oldmann
    14 years ago

    Desire for a physical relationship is at the top of most everyone's list. Iti s human nature to want to touch and be touched. However, it is more important in the long run to forego the physical part of a relationship until there is a significant emotional bond. Otherwise, it is just sex and that only lasts for a little time and has no lasting value.

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