I wanna sleep with a virgin

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I'm in love with this very hot boy, he's extremely cute but he's a virgin. He's also very shy around girls.

I've asked him out many times and we've had ice cream together, and hung out, not dated yet.

He literally turns red when ever I hold his arm or hug him.

I've tried to broach the topic, but he keeps avoiding it.
Should I start with a kiss first or simply drag him onto my bed ?

Is it normal for girls to like innocent boys? Have any of you ever had a crush on shy guy before? how do I handle this?

he's also extremely kind and gentle. He doesn't seem awkward around little girls though, he has a bunch of younger cousins who love him.

We've known each other since 8th grade.

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VinnyB

8 years ago | pl

I think you should respect him rather treat him and talk about him as a sex toy. Don't assume you're doing him some big favor by sleeping with him. Maybe he doesn't want to have sex with you.

If a male posted "there is this girl I know who is a virgin and shy, so should I just drag her onto my bed?" The response he would receive would be outrage.

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- charli.m
  
  8 years ago
  
  This.
  
  That poor guy :(
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Does this still apply if the boy in question is extremely cute, and I love him?
  
  He likes me too, I'm sure. I hug him all the time, I like too see him squirm and turn into a tomato.
  
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  - VinnyB
    
    8 years ago
    
    Why wouldn't it?
    
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  - charli.m
    
    8 years ago
    
    Sounds like you've decided he likes you and that he doesnt get a say in it. Back the fuck off, stop harassing the poor kid.
    
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- Short4Words
  
  8 years ago
  
  But he's not a girl. He's a man. And if he really didn't want anything to do with her he wouldn't hang out with her. He's lucky to have a girl interested him being the way he is.
  
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  - VinnyB
    
    8 years ago
    
    How do you know that? I am not saying that she is, but this guy could find her unattractive or be completely uninterested in her for another reason, but be too shy or scared of hurting her feelings to tell her. Every guy in the world does not want the attention of every girl in the world. I have observed many situations where a girl is coming on very strong to a guy who is not interested, but he doesn't want to be mean or hurt her feelings. In my experience guys are less likely to blow a girl off even if they are not interested, because guys have more experience being rejected and know how it feels.
    
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    - Short4Words
      
      8 years ago
      
      Perhaps he doesn't like her and is too shy. He is not being harmed. This would be a wonderful opportunity for him to grow some balls and reject her, if in fact this is the case. A shy person can avoid someone but it sounds like he's just too shy to be flirtatious or sexual.
      
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      - VinnyB
        
        8 years ago
        
        There is certainly a very good chance this kid could be super happy and excited about this and think it is the luckiest day of his life. But I don't agree that it can't be harmful.
        
        I have had something similar happen to me, and it was one of the most upsetting experiences of my young life. As a teenager, some girl I was siting on a couch with thought she would do me the wonderful favor of jumping on my lap, straddling me, and she started making out with me. I told her to stop and she said "don't worry, I want to do this." Like she was doing me some big ass favor.
        
        I ended up having to forcibly push her off me where gravity caused her to land with a thump on the floor. The feeling from my point of view was terror and violation, and at the same time I felt horrible that I had to physically remove her and hurt her.
        
        So yea, I recommend some type of commination and implied consent before dragging someone on to a bed. Your suggestion below of easing it to it, I think is much better advice.
        
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        Short4Words
        
        8 years ago
        
        I didn't say she should rape the poor boy I just think you're all being too soft on him.
        
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  - charli.m
    
    8 years ago
    
    So it's ok for men to be harrassed? They should enjoy unwanted attention purely because they have a penis?
    
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    - Short4Words
      
      8 years ago
      
      Socially inept men, yes. He's not autistic. He can say no. Or should learn how to. Or he's just going to get stepped on.
      
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      - charli.m
        
        8 years ago
        
        So....because someone is "socially inept"...they deserve to be harrassed and potentially assaulted or raped.
        
        Nice victim blaming. Someone giving signals that they dont want to be treated a certain way but want to be polite are to be shamed whereas the person harrassing them should keep on.
        
        How do you know he's socially inept, anyway? Based on the judgement of the person harassing him who only cares about her own satisfaction? Yeah sounds accurate.
        
        I guess the same doesn't apply to "socially inept women", though?
        
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        Short4Words
        
        8 years ago
        
        All you know is that he's shy. That's it. So for you to throw the word rape around is absolutely ridiculous. This is not a human rights case. This is a guy who can't respond sexually or romantically to a girl because maybe they're both young and he's not matured yet, or he's just bad at it. She said I've asked him out several times. If he's got half a brain and feels like he is being harassed he can say no.
        
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      - daydreamer394
        
        8 years ago
        
        How do you know he's not autistic?
        
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JD777

8 years ago

Are either of you adults??

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dirtybirdy

8 years ago

I bet he's a blanket hog.

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- seekelp
  
  8 years ago
  
  Is that the thing where you bake breading around a hot dog?
  
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    8 years ago
    
    Close enough.
    
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RoseIsabella

8 years ago

Stop talking like a junior rapist, and respect this shy, young man! Why don't you be honest and upfront? Ask this shy young man if you could kiss him. Sure, he might reject you, but so what, guys get rejected all the time.

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Short4Words

8 years ago

Ease him into it.

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JM220

8 years ago

I say Go for it, he obviously like you, but is too shy to say anything.

I'd suggest you start by kissing him first, then ease him into it, like Short4Words said.

btw

are you attracted to him as a person or just because he's a virgin?

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charli.m

8 years ago

Changing your story, huh?

Just makes you look even dodgier.

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- anti-hero
  
  8 years ago
  
  He wants a virgin because he is an African trying to cure his AIDS.
  
  Joseph Smith, don't fuck a baby.
  
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  - charli.m
    
    8 years ago
    
    I'll get rid of your AIDS if you fuck this frog.
    
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    - icameinsidemyself
      
      8 years ago
      
      That says a lot doesn't it?
      
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umph

8 years ago

Go for it.
I was in the same situation. I was very shy and basically waited for the girls to make the first move. I had to wait 7 years until it happended with the 11th girl.

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- daydreamer394
  
  8 years ago
  
  Only 7 years? What was your miracle cure?
  
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Aries

8 years ago

you will probably have to make out 30 times before it gets any easier by the sounds of it .

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NathanScott

8 years ago

Are you sure he likes you back? Because no matter how shy a guy is if the chick is being as blunt as you are about your desire for him believe me he will 'react'.... figuratively and literaly.

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kelili

8 years ago

You want to sleep with this boy or any other virgin?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  This boy.
  
  But idea of it is enticing too.
  
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thegypsysailor

8 years ago

I think you just like embarrassing him and making him uncomfortable. I doubt you'd actually go through with having sex with him, if he ever got the balls to take you on it. But I'm sure that's why you picked him.

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- kelili
  
  8 years ago
  
  That were my thoughts. It seems like OP just want to win this little game.
  
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