I wanna meet my mom, should i?

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My mom left me when I was 4, and she's in rehab now. I'm not going to talk about all the crap that went down my whole life with that situation but I can say it messed me up. My dad and step-mom never let me talk about her and any questions I had were shut down. Then recently I contacted my sister who lives around my mom and she told me what really happened with my dad and mom and family in Arizona. So I looked at my dads facebook messages and my mom has messaged him about me several times since I was 8, but he told her no. Family always told me my dad was trying to protect me from her. But Im still in high-school living with my horrible father and I really wanna contact my mother, but I dont know what will happen if I do.....should i?

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  • modernism
    8 years ago

    Ask your sister that lives near her if she thinks it's a good idea. Has she met her? If so, she'll give even better advice.

    There's one aide to it where you could wait until you get out of high school and start your life to meet your mother, but there another side where if this is eating you up, it'd be nice to have some clarity as soon as possible.

    If you can be okay with waiting to meet her, then wait. But if you feel like you absolutely need to meet her now, consult with your sister or someone you trust that knows more about your family life. Keep in mind that meeting her won't necessarily solve your problems - it could even make things worse. Good luck.

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    • Product_ofidiots
      8 years ago

      Thank you. It's really hard sometimes but yeah something bad could really happen if I go and visit her without knowing if she's better first. Thank you and I will talk to my sister and ask if it's a good idea

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      • modernism
        8 years ago

        You're welcome. :) Hopefully it works out for you.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    The man who has been caring for you since you were 4 is a 'horrible father'?
    Did your mom send child support? Did she make any effort to get to see you through legal means? Anybody can say anything, but it's those who do that should be relied on, not those who couldn't find a way or the time.

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    • Product_ofidiots
      8 years ago

      Actually my dad has not been caring for me since I was 4. He left me too with some friends of his till I was 8 and then he met my step-mother and now we have to pretend we're one big happy family. No my mom didn't send anything, and I don't forgive her for anything she did. But at the same time you don't understand how hard it is to nothing about your family, I don't even know what race I am. I'm not reaching out to my mom to forgive her and pretend like nothing happend. I want to know who she is and why she left, and meet my other family members, then from there decide.

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        I had a mom and dad at home for my childhood (the real ones, I assume) but that doesn't mean I know anything about my family. I met my maternal grandmother once and that's it. No family get togethers, no idea if mom or dad had brothers or sisters and though we all shared the same house, I hardly even knew my parents.
        I'd suggest you be a lot less concerned with your family history and more concerned about what you are going to make of your life, as the person you are.

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