I wanna give and be loved, in a gentle loving way.

I fantasize about a girl kissing me gently in the neck and hugging me. I think the hottest thing is when people show how much they love eachother during sex. Smiling, looking eachother in the eyes, appreciating each other's body. I get the appeal of agressive cold sex, but for me it's way hotter when a girl treats me like she loves me with all her heart, and holds me. I don't get why people are so fixated on 1 person dominating and the other being submissive, It seems so unnatural and forced to me. I like the idea of equal give and take, no effort, or stress about performing, just doing what feels normal and pleasuring eachother, really connecting. I feel like people being dominating/submissive and this focus on 'control' is so messed up.