I've never enjoyed sex.

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I've been around, have had a few partners. I'm not young, and sex has become pretty unimportant to me. In fact, I don't think I've ever enjoyed sex. I was married for a while, I've always just faked it. I mean who cares? I think I'm asexual, as I've never really felt sexual attraction to anyone. I've felt love and romantic feelings, it seemed as tho' sex was an unfortunate side. I simply performed the best I could.

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Based on 138 votes (57 yes)
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  • LarcDrom
    10 years ago

    EDIT: Sorry had to repost message because weird coding showed up in the previous message after I edited it to correct a small mistake.

    I have said "no it is not normal", and I have done that because it isn't normal. In mathematics normal means average, and asexuality is a rare thing. That doesn't mean there is anything wrong with it, just that it doesn't happen often.

    My half brother's uncle, who is in his fourties, is asexual. He went to a therapist because he didn't enjoy sex with anyone at all, even though he has forced himself to do it, and never has and wondered if anything was wrong with him. He is not depressed, physically ill, or anything.

    Turns out he lacks a sexual drive. He actually managed to meet a woman who feels the same way, and they have a really good relationship so far. But finding a partner who can live in a relationship like that might be hard, if you don't search very specific for someone asexual as well.

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  • tripw7
    10 years ago

    Hey, we are all individuals. Obviously you are not turned on like some of us. If you are happy where you are, then that is where you should be.

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  • kinkyace
    10 years ago

    woohoo, welcome to the A-sexy club!! You should come to AVEN.org, where all the A-sexily awesome people hang out, haha :D

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  • green_boogers
    10 years ago

    Gay women are sometimes very asexual.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    10 years ago

    Tanor is bang on. Sex is a waste of energy and aside from that, when sperm enters the vagina the innume system does whatever it can to kill those invaders. I have lupus, so the less over reaction from my immune system, the better.
    This is true for any woman, however. The female body does NOT WANT semen inside of it, and will activate the t-cell response to rid the woman's body of the foreign material.

    Sex is not nessesary for love or intimacy. Sex is for breeding and on a dying planet (NASA studies have concluded mankind has 20 yrs max) having children is a selfish, foolish idea.

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    • jeebley
      10 years ago

      You don't need to find spurious reasons to justify it! If you don't like sex, that's fair enough. More time to do other things.
      It's completely fine to be like that, just as it's completely fine for others to enjoy having sex as well.

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    • green_boogers
      10 years ago

      The OP is burning in hell, but doesn't know it yet.

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    I certainly hope it's not "normal" or it will signal the end of the human race.
    Without sounding condescending, I feel very sorry for you. You have missed one of the few great pleasures life has to offer two people.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    That is unfortunate for you.

    I guess you don't know what you are missing then. So maybe ignorance is bliss in your case?

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      I know what I am missing. An annoying cock invading my body. No thanks.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        With such an experience, I understand why you would have that outlook on sex with a man. It is unfortunate you've never been able to enjoy it because sex is a highly pleasurable experience for most.

        Since you've never felt pleasure from it, it's much easier to have your attitude towards it. It would be different if you did have at least one steamy night of passion with a man who could turn you on and make you cum, and every time after was a disappointment. Sometimes, it takes just one good experience to change a general perception. It's a shame you have never had any good ones. As someone who has had enjoyable sex and boring sex, I feel bad for you that you have missed out on the enjoyable kind.

        It is like going on holiday to another country and visiting only the most miserable parts of it; then forming a general opinion about the country, as a whole, base solely on that experience. It doesn't make the experience invalid, but for those who know the country's best parts, they would feel bad for you that you have only experienced the worst.

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        • [Old Memory]
          10 years ago

          Thank you. This is a very well thought out comment

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    you're smarter then the 99% you should be proud and i'm with you so you'er not alone

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    • Crusades
      10 years ago

      Explain how exactly does not liking sex make you smarter?

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        it leads to more opportunities instead of only caring about when you're going to get laid you're focused on more important things.and maybe smarter was the wrong word lucky sounds better.

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        • biaj
          10 years ago

          i could see how you might come to that conclusion but unless your one of those people that goes out every night looking for someone to have sex with or is always looking for the next person to get laid with your really not missing out on much time.
          sex to an asexual person could be considered a hobby that an asexual person wouldnt enjoy. the likely hood of someone deciding to invent something or get alot smarter because they have an extra 10 minutes are very small. your more likely to just do something else you enjoy doing. unless learning is fun to you.

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  • DominusNLMHammerus
    10 years ago

    then you haven't experienced this beast yet, groar

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  • Gspyder
    10 years ago

    That's unfortunate, and I'm surprised its 41% normal, but I guess sex isn't the same for everybody.

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