I've never been kissed or drank am i a loser?

Listen,
I've done the whole partying, drinking, blah blah, but I've found that after it all, sure it was a good time, but it's just a phase and true friends are hard to find. I used to be the man in high school, not to be coneceited either, but I had the girlfriend, broke up became the bacehlor throwing the best parties at my house, and had a huge top friends on myspace, because of course those were the people in my circle. Then I came to college, I tried to get that going again my first year but when I came back my second year I've felt so isolated, and I've become...well you. and I don't mean loser, i mean everything you've described, and i don't consider that being a loser. That's called maturity. Do you have any hobbies you enjoy? I've isolated myself on purpose and am working on a theory, finished an album, wrote a book, and am finishing up a movie script. I've done a lot with my time instead of wasting it bullshitting with people that are only in your life to use you because they're bored...i suggest going out and trying it, but trust me you're not missing too much/will get over that shit real quick. The best times in my life were with those people, so I can't compeltely say it was bad, just sad to know how much can change in just a year and what you "want" changes. Let me know if this helped kid and please cheer up, you're so priviliged. There's people that don't have food, water, shoes, in other countries, there's bums in the streets iwth no lives. like, just be happy you have your health, beauty, and youth. some guy will come along and make you feel worth the great amount you are worth. I swear, a good girl like you doesn't come along everyday and if you were at my University I would smother you with flowers, hugs, and love! lol not to sound over dramatic, but i just mean i wish there were more girls liek you because it's all turned into lust, that's what this world is now and it's sad. you can't find love, and it's all about status, being better than the next man what not. be happy, things will look up and when you're 21 hit the bars, you'll meet dudes but make sure they're down for your heart not just your pussy

I'm also 19 (a guy in this case) I've only been drunk once, and have only had one girlfriend. So I don't really have much more experience than you. I prefer girls like you, but they are hard to come by. You are NOT a loser, you seem like a great girl with morals, which most people around our age can't say. If you live in Colorado, maybe we should talk. ;-) haha

Seriously, stay away from the alcohol. Don't worry, you will find a girl.

i am the same way i am 18 a freshman in college and i don't drink and havent been kissed. the funny thing was I was a starter on all 3 varsity teams and i have abs which i thought ='d girls but it doesn't lol you just have to find someone that likes the true you. Don't ever change just to try to fit in...if people don't like you for who you are then forget them...i was going through the same thinking process before but I am happy about who I am...

Noo, you are most likely better off than most of teens who would class thselves as cool because they drink and have sex etc. If I could change anything I would probably want to put myself in your shoes because although kissing may not seem a grea deal, its nice to do it with someone you care about, same with sex, I wish I waited with my virginity.

I have never been drunk either, why should young people rely on a liver and brain damaging substance to have a good time? They are the losers if alchol is the only way to have fun.

Are you happy? If you are then that is all that matters, in 10 years time when you have your perfect hubbie and life, they would be the ones waiting for liver transplants, so whoede better off in the long term run??

Its sooo you

I had my first kiss at 19, and I'm currently a 19-year-old college student as well.

I respect you for not drinking at your age, but.. it's my personal choice not to drink until I'm of legal age.
My advice is to chose whether or not drinking is something you want to do or not.

But you are in no way a loser because you want guys to like you for who you are, and because you don't drink. I've met a lot of people who respect me for my choice not to, and for my choice not to jump into bed with the first guy who offers - both were a shock the first time, because they came from someone I never expected. Just, continue being yourself and you'll find someone you can share everything with.

my dear you will find some one so soon if not do not be sad you better be alone than being with some one who do not deserve you if not call me [email protected]

haha! I am a girl, I dont know why he thought you were a lad.
Dont worry about being a "looser" if you dont fancy it dont do it!
Drinking is the worst thing, I swear if it was just found now alcohol would be a class A drug. It causes the most deaths out of all the drug family.
My friend was 21 when she lost her virginity so dont worry about the kissing thing, you probably just havnt found anyone that deserves you yet. I would only caution you about taking risks, they can go wrong but sometimes they can go right! you only learn from mistakes so sometimes just think screw it and take a risk once in a while you never know what may come out of it!

Hi everyone,
This is moonnx under a new username. I'm looking back on all these comments. It seem like so long ago. And if you're wondering I still don't have a boyfriend and I'm 23. I've been to therapy and it turns out I most likely have adhd, social anxiety disorder, inferiority complex, shy etc. And I figured out that I think that no one understands me and refuse to accept that people like me. But it's really that I'm immaturely shy and cant tell ppl my feelings in fear that someone will make fun of me ( like ppl did in hs).

19 is kinda young. It all depends on what you want to do. The drinking age is 21 in most places, so don't worry. If you're 21 and you want to get drunk, but never drank, then there's something wrong with you. If you're 21 and you don't want to drink alcohol by choice, then that's your life and your choice and there's nothing wrong with that.

As for never being kissed, most people get theirs during jr high or high school. 19 is generally too old but not abnormal. I would recommend to try to date (just for the social experience and don't expect too much from it). Don't worry too much about it.

Of course, if you're 52 and never been kissed, then there's a problem there. unless you're a Libertarian, and in that case to be a Libertarian, 52 and never been kissed before perfectly normal, LOL.

to me this sounds like... help me im not an asshole to my parents and everyone else is LOL

My name is Emily and I am 19 and in my first year of college, and I have never been kissed or ever really had a boyfriend before. Not that I am not likeable. I am fun to be around, and I am good-natured and low-maintenance. I play guitar and crack jokes and love to watch the Office. To be honest, I don't know what is wrong with me. I mean of course I have my faults, but I don't understand why guys don't like me. I need advice. Is it just that I am just "a friend type"? Will guys ever start to like me and/or ask me out on a date? I am very morally structured, and I love that about myself. I won't change that about myself. But is that why guys don't like me? Because they know that I am not one of those girls that they can take advantage of? That sucks if that is the reason for guys not asking me out.

I wouldnt say its not "normal" ..... but the things you're missing out on are really enjoyable... you should try some of them before you refuse to do them. I had my first kiss at 14, first drink at 15 and lost my virginity at 16. Age is just a number baby! :P

you are a winner but try to make your life more interesting.believe me alchohol drugs,boys all this are part of fashion nothing else.bad girl image ya know its so funny

Margie, don't listen to anyone who says it's "uncool" to live how you live. You're respecting yourself and that's good. Too many youths rush into sex and alcohol and end up messing up their lives. Just do what feels right to you and don't be sucked in by peer pressure.

im EXACTLY like you with the exception of drinking and makeup lol but yea you are normal. like people say, its probably better that way. im 20 and even though i've never been kissed or had a relationship im not going through all the problems i see my friends going through because of boys

I don't think most ppl drink to be cool cause most of the people I know drink to have fun.

Not to offend,and I'm being 100% serious, could you be a lesbian? Think before you answer

Well I am a male, as my profile name is my creed of life i don't drink smoke never still a virgin. More of a reserved person that waits I share some of your views but not being a loser and your not , and I am around the Boston area where there are plenty of chances so don't listen to anybody follow your heart and have society go to hell.

Don't start drinking, it won't make you feel anymore "cool". What makes someone cool is being able to not bother about what other people think about what's "cool" and what's not. You're you and nothing can change that. Stop hanging around with people who drink and have a different girlfriend for each day of the week. Hang around with proper friends and honest people who aren't snobs and show-offs and you'll soon find a girl.

going against society's dumb standards and expectations is awesome! you're a jewl!

I'm in highschool and I've never been kissed either. I'm shy, especially around guys,and I feel down sometimes ,but there are other times when I wonder what's so bad about it. I've never drank and I don't want to. I've seen the way it makes most people act. As for the kissing thing, I just figure it's bound to happen sometimes.

wow, im supprised at the age of the people commenting on this and their opinions.

You're not a loser, things just happen at different times for different people. Believe it or not with all the loose slutty girls that are glorified by the media you are the pretty, in control of her destiny type of girls the guys will flock to, great guys not the hit and run losers out there.

YOU ARE NOT A LOSER IM 20 I HAVE NEVER BEEN KISSED EITHER I HAVEN'T HAD A BF EITHER I AM PRETTY TOO NOT TO BE CONCEITED BUT I HAVEN'T FOUNF THAT GUY THAT STANDA OUT FROM ALL THE OTHERS AND AS FOR DRINKING I THINK ITS COOL IF YOU DON'T DRINK I ADMIT I HAVE TRIED SOME ALCOHOLIC DRINKS BUT IM NOT A FAN A LOT OF PEOPLE THAT WANT TO BE COOL LIKE DRINKING BUT I DON'T THINK IT IS BECAUSE WHEN YOU GET OLDER YOUR INSIDE WILL BE ALL DAMAGED GROSS!! YOU CAN BE COOL AND NOT DRINK OR SMOKE BUT BE HEALTHY!!! AS FOR DATING I THINK WE WILL FIND SOMEONE SOONER OR LATER (HOPE SOONER) BUT IT WILL COME FOR BOTH OF US!! :)

Yeah. Taking some risks at this point can be good or bad, but your age is the perfect time to experiment. I'm not saying to do anything TOO crazy, but live a little, at least. If you're looking for a good R-rated movie, I'd suggest Watchmen. :)

As for the "never been kissed" thing, well, if you keep your eyes open, someday it will happen. Don't worry about it.

Partying and getting into trouble when you are a teen is a part of life and its something you remember your entire life. I hate parents that keep kids sheltered and never let them do anything you only live once and you only have so often before you have kids and wife and cant go out and just do whatever you want. My mom wasnt too fond of the stuff I did but she was ok with it because she knew that if she let me do it or not I would go out and do it and it was better for me to tell her what I was doing and for her to know where im at then for me to sneak behind her back. My dad was the first person to get me drunk and its just great living life without a care I tell my parents everything they ask(sex,drinking,and doing other illegal stuff) lol Point of all this is go out get laid,drunk have a good time and remember you only live once.

Someone as cute as you never got kissed? I'm quite surprised but that proves you're not some sex-crazed slut. I don't think that and not drinking makes you a loser. At least you're not going around doing stupid shit and killing people while driving.

There's no need to degrade yourself. I actually think you're pretty interesting. You just have social problems and that can be fixed :)

Just be happy about yourself and go get some counciling.

try online dating.
but be honest or the sitiuation might get worse

those things are really fun thats like saying iv never had fun am i boring so yes

That's weird that your parents don't let you watch rated R movies.... you realize that PG-13 movies are for 13 year olds right?? If you're 19 you can do whatever the hell you want you don't have to listen to those overprotective idiots. Go out, have fun, get wasted and have a good time! That's what college life is for sweety you don't have real responsibilites yet so enjoy yourself! Meet friends in classes and hang out with them all the time, believe me, life is wayyyy better and more fun when you share it with other people. If you've never drank before, don't judge it. I have sooo much fun when I go out and drink with my friends, just don't overdo it to the point where you're puking, that means you went too far. For your first time I recommend you drink like 3 beers and see how you feel. If you like the feeling, go for more. And if you have never kissed a guy, I assume you're a virgin too, don't wory it's perfectly normal. You will find someone, don't try to hook up with random guys just because you feel like you're weird, wait for the right one and it'll be much better. I hope this advice helped, it may be a little different for you though because I'm only 15, but I wish you luck girl!