I've been told, i am pretty, but nobody(guy) has ever loved me?

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I am very much confused about how do I look and whether I am attractive or not! I quiet often receive compliments about being pretty/beautiful (mostly from girls), but I can say there were no guy telling me I am beautiful or loved me ever! I am now 24! and kindaa scared! I dont know what is wrong wid me. Why nobody ever loved me, and if I am not beautiful and pretty what is it that people say to me since I was child! :(.. I dont wanna believe that I am going to be alone, I wanna know if I can correct if something is wrong with me, even if I can do nothing, I prefer to know what is the truth...

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  • Danii(:
    12 years ago

    Love is not about looks :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Could be your personality.

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  • xiaowangzi
    12 years ago

    you totally didn't mention anything about personality. it's not all about being pretty to attract people..

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  • TotalAspie
    12 years ago

    Is it possible you're love-shy? It could also be possible that love-shy men have had a crush on you, but couldn't allow themselves to express their love. (I got love-shyness with my Aspberger's.)

    If you have a look that people go for, you still have plenty of hope in finding someone who loves you... If you still have the look at middle age, then you can embrace in being a cougar. :-D

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    I'd say just relax. The more you worry about it the farther away it will be.

    Besides it's better to get to know someone first, and have them know YOU - not just your face.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    11 years ago

    Pm me a link to your pic and I'll tell you in all honesty.

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  • Death_Rises
    12 years ago

    GUYS ARE JUST AFRAID TO LOVE IK

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    • Caelestis
      12 years ago

      Why? they are afraid from me?

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  • chewy
    12 years ago

    Love is about looks personality and things you like to do.

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  • Noonesperfect
    12 years ago

    Picture

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    • Caelestis
      12 years ago

      I have uploaded one!

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  • Noonesperfect
    12 years ago

    Post a pucture

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  • xxvixenxx
    12 years ago

    You seem to be hung up on the fact that people keep telling you you're beautiful/pretty. I'm sure that you are, but looks aren't everything. Try worrying less about the fact that guys aren't crawling all over you, and check out your personality. Also, don't go looking for love, because usually that ends badly. Check yourself, and let love find you.

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  • bryson_willis
    12 years ago

    people on IIN cant help you that much because they can't see you, I mean you may as well be a one eyed ogre.
    ...named Beatrice.

    Hopefully you have at least one guy friend, beg him to be honest and ask him to put you in one of three categories:
    - above average
    - average
    - below average

    if you are not below average, you can be certain people are not avoiding you for your looks. 90~95% of people fall into average.

    Me and my friend have game we play in Chinese, where we rate women on a scale of 0 to 10, and we'll never agree! This is why I chose categories over a point scale.

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    • Caelestis
      12 years ago

      You can see my picture too, grade me ;)

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      • TotalAspie
        12 years ago

        Oh, you're still here. Cool! I don't suppose you tried dating since we last talked?

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        • Caelestis
          12 years ago

          You don't expect me to change all of a sudden do you? till no guy has approached me...I feel shy to start anything...this is difficult for me! I wish I was enough appealing that they would suggest talking or dating...then I would have done something! it is soooo strange for me that no one has approached me to talk to me or to express their interest or to flirt! I am so hard trying to figure out what is the problem! it baffles me up the more I think about it...:(

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          • TotalAspie
            12 years ago

            It's not that I didn't expect you to change, I just don't really know much about you. I can't really offer much else at this time, but good luck... And hope some guy that suits you notices you.

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      • bryson_willis
        12 years ago

        Hmm... not Eva Longoria, but your actually okay. You are within average, nearly above average to be honest.

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        • Caelestis
          12 years ago

          You mean eva longoria without make up? ever seen her?

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          • bryson_willis
            12 years ago

            I just did a Google Image search right now... thanks for destroying all my wonderful dreams, I WILL NEVER FORGIVE YOU! NEVER!

            :)

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            • Caelestis
              12 years ago

              Probably, you should change your grading criteria :)...One thing you must and I think all males have to work on, is, the ability to distinguish between false beauty and natural one :)...Females are expert in disguising and making the nature's agenda true! I quickly get which of the girls around me are GENES and which are artificial products...and I always appreciate those which hold genes :)...
              But at the same time I feel sad for those who want to be accepted (The averages and below average ones which you mentioned about) but because of the superficial society/ world, they have to cover themselves up in a gift paper and ribbon to advertise what's in them...things get more and more complicated in the superficial world!...Dirty and with 1000 faces...:)

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  • TotalAspie
    12 years ago

    Looks like this thread died out. :-S

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  • Appreciate
    12 years ago

    you look like my teacher :D

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    • Caelestis
      12 years ago

      Umm! Thats a good thing or?...

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    • Appreciate
      12 years ago

      except her eyebrows are drawn on

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  • BenOAFC
    12 years ago

    It saddens me that people like you are made to feel that way... I know plenty of girls that think they're not good looking - and they clearly are. Although, I think it is best to be slightly self-conscious than to be big-headed because it keeps people down to earth.

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    • Caelestis
      12 years ago

      right now, go through the comments they have left for me..ppl are clearly miser and sick...some have said if girls tell me I am beautiful, that means I absolutely ain't...some others have said it, in other ways...I dont know if its me, or its people...but some
      thing is not right...:)

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    • Caelestis
      12 years ago

      People usually develop the sense toward themselves based on what people, convey to them...If you live among misers or mysteriously, no guy falls in love with you...You feel that way...As I am feeling so...

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    • Caelestis
      12 years ago

      :(... Life is sometimes...

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      • TotalAspie
        12 years ago

        Don't be afraid of dating (even online dating). If you don't make any calls, you don't make any sales. And when the "sale" comes, you'll find people in love with you. (And in love with many aspects of you.)

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  • rayst
    12 years ago

    You shouldnt believe everything ppl say to you. If guys tell you you're pretty its probably true, but girls say this to other girls even if they dont mean it. We would need a picture to judge ;) i genuinely hope you will find your first lover really soon!!

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    • Caelestis
      12 years ago

      Really? :(..why would they do so? that's silly...

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      • TotalAspie
        12 years ago

        This is probably more for Rayst to answer, but I'm gonna intervene since I feel strongly about this.

        Some people are just very naturally nice people and say the nicest things no matter how dishonest it may be. I've griped around my grandparents about wanting to lose weight, and my grandmother would keep telling me I'm not fat... Never mind the fact that the average American Male is 5' 9" and 170 lbs., while I'm an inch below the average and like 20 lbs. over the average!

        Rayst also said we'd really need a picture to judge, but mind you, I am no judge of beauty!!

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        • Caelestis
          12 years ago

          I have added my picture. But for a short while! I hope you guys are honest wid me! and will not pass comments which are bitter as well! will remove it soon however.

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          • TotalAspie
            12 years ago

            Yes, I see it now... Oh so totally cutie patootey! I don't know how pretty the others tell you that you are, but you are worthy of the highest praise. (And I'm being honest.)

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  • Tehboss
    12 years ago

    it's not about the pretty it's about who you are... maybe people don't love you because of how they perceive you to be (mentaly) and so they keep their distance and don 't allow themselfs to love you or you yourself make a barrier for them\don't give an opening. try not to look at other peoples looks and look for who they are if you have a hard time doing that then probably you are the one causing this situation. sorry bunnypie but that's how it usually goes.
    but don't worry the simple fact that you are trying to understand what is wrong shows a will to change and that is all that matters :) good luck funnyduck

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  • firefly88
    12 years ago

    If only girls are sayin it then you're obviously not beautiful. Just saying. Maybe you should work on who you are from the inside and maybe a guy will fall in live with you

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  • Treez
    12 years ago

    Who cares

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    • Caelestis
      12 years ago

      LOL..:D...you are funny!

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