I've been married for 4 years now....

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We dated for about 3 years before that. He is a wonderful man, but recently something has been missing. He was always a hard worker, but he really lacked some initiative. Basically he was okay with a middle class income/job. But he recently lost that job and we have been lucky enough to be able to still pay the bills and make due, even with a new addition of having a child (10 months).

He seems to be alright with being Mr. Mom. I come from work and there he is in an apron and oven mitts and he doesn't seem to care. To me its emasculating. I wish he would find a job and at least be more proactive that way.

I've recently started flirting (innocently enough) with our neighbor, single bachelor, makes good money. Basically what my husband is not. I don't know what to do, am I going to have an affair? Am I just a stupid woman who belongs in the kitchen? I don't like working at all.

I don't know, am I normal?

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Based on 95 votes (33 yes)

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donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

8 years ago | pl

That's pathetic. You suck.

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- donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
  
  8 years ago
  
  just to add to this if yalls man was off makin bank yalld be bitchin hes not home enough not payin attention to yall & the kid and so forth
  
  nobody can win with someone like yall and yallre gonna wreck this poor bastards life soon enough no matter what he does
  
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  - 53739
    
    8 years ago
    
    women always complain that's the truth
    
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LittleGirlBloodthirstySodomy

8 years ago

Cuckolding is the new equality. Thank Feminism.

Pushing pedophilia the public rejected recently. Gay marriage is now legal.

Cuckolding is the next humiliating anti masculine tripe they will ram down our throats, and keep doing so until they get their androgynous society

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- bucho's_butt
  
  8 years ago
  
  'They' are very persistent. Most people are so distracted by all of the traumatic imagery that the media is poisoning our society with that nobody notices the horrible changes that are going on. We're doomed.
  
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charli.m

8 years ago

Guessing you haven't thought of...I dunno...discussing how you feel about him and you working and seeing if you can come to an agreement that works for both of you?

Nah. Why do something useful and constructive, eh?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Constructive like giving condescending, sarcastic advice on some obscure website.
  
  Why suround yourself with such a bitter wall when you know you've always meant well?
  
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  - charli.m
    
    8 years ago
    
    Well now. You've outed yourself there, cupcake.
    
    I thought I smelled troll but gave you benefit of the doubt, more fool me.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      8 years ago
      
      You know you've always meant well. I know you've always meant well.
      
      Sarcasm and condescending comments don't serve you well.
      
      Unless you feel differently.
      
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      - charli.m
        
        8 years ago
        
        And what the fuck would you know about anything?
        
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        8 years ago
        
        I know EVERYTHING.
        
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luroxy

8 years ago

I think he loves his baby and is enjoying him unlike you not caring about his future I dont mean money wise but having a real family..

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Ellenna

8 years ago

You sound very materialistic: what does the neighbour's work/income have to do with anything?

If you don't like the situation, talk about it and see if you can change it. You not only have 1950's sex role stereotypes in your head, you also have a double standard: you don't like working so you want to stay home but it's not ok for him to stay home?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Its interesting that the 50's were such a nice time of prosperity and the baby boom resulted....now people are miserable.
  
  I guess liberals knew better when it came to traditional gender roles.
  
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  - Ellenna
    
    8 years ago
    
    As an early baby boomer, I remember the 50's well and I can assure you that in spite of post WW2 prosperity the era was not "nice" for everyone, especially women. Domestic violence and rape were denied or covered up and victims blamed; pay rates for women were less than half those of men; no benefits for single mothers who consequently had to give up their babies; women couldn't borrow money without a male guarantor ........... this could be a book, but plenty have been written which you obviously haven't read.
    
    By the way, given they occurred at the same time, the baby boom wasn't caused by post war prosperity or the other way round and the prosperity benefitted guess whom? Wouldn't be white males by any chance, would it?
    
    Do you think the Women's Liberation Movement of the late 60's/early 70's was created out of nothing?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      8 years ago
      
      If you were an early baby boomer than how would you be able to make adult observations during the time you were a child?
      
      Did you conduct your own research, during that time period, into domestic violence and rape being covered up or victims blamed?
      
      If the "books" you are referring to were written by militant feminists, (read man hating women with emotional issues), than no. I would not be interested in reading about how evil I am because of my penis and testicles.
      
      White males founded European civilization and American civilization. It wasn't done for the benefit of other cultures OR to be displaced through immigration of different cultures.
      
      Frankly, I don't understand what sort of logic created the Women's Liberation Movement, nor Affirmative Action for that matter. But we do have them, and that's a fact. The efficacy of them,...well that's another debate.
      
      I blame the breakdown of traditional nuclear families on the "Women's Liberation Movement". That's just my opinion, knowing who you are, I'm sure you will be grossly offended at that.
      
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      - Ellenna
        
        8 years ago
        
        Yaaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwwnnnnnnnnnnnnn
        
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victorygin

8 years ago

Lol...

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thecunt

8 years ago

hopefully while you're at work he's fucking the lady down the street, materialistic cunt.

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JakobWithaK77

8 years ago

Look, if you want to attempt to save the relationship, get him alone and have a talk with him. Tell him that he's lacking in certain areas and if he can't pull it together the relationship will have to end. If he doesn't pull himself out of the dog house within a year or two end it. Don't engage with the neighbor till the end if he doesn't succeed, you don't need to give him any excuse to stop trying. If he sees you with the neighbor he'll fell as if it was useless to keep on. If it doesn't work it will be on him. Best of luck and don't listen to those arses talking shit about you.

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snarkygirl

8 years ago

I actually would find being with a guy who doesn't work very undesirable. Tell him to get a job!

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Wraiven

8 years ago

If you are not happy with your man, for whatever reason, be it because he's not making good money anymore or be it because you simply don't feel it with him anymore, then do him a favor and leave him so he can find a woman who wants him for who and what he is. Otherwise you are wasting his life making him think you still love him when you don't. If I knew about you what you are telling us and you were my woman, it would be me telling you that it's over. I would set you free and find me a woman who appreciates me for who I am. Meanwhile your lust for money will be your own undoing.

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twocupcakes

8 years ago

Please stay loyal ffs.

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