I use men like they use women but i want to be with a woman...

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I'm a 29 year old woman and I've never been in a long-term relationship with a man. The longest was only a couple of months. I think I want a relationship with a man but when it comes down to it, I'm not interested at all.

I didn't kiss a man or lose my virginity until I was 23 and before that, even the thought of kissing a man would gross me out - but the idea of kissing a woman felt okay.

I see men as just a bit of fun, I want to be with them, sleep with them and then leave them. One of the guys I was with thought it was weird that I didn't want to cuddle or talk after sex. I just wanted to relax and not really say much. He said in that way, I was like a man.

I think a lot about having a girl best friend, being in a relationship with a girl, living with a girl... etc. I'm also sexually attracted to girls. I find it harder to talk to girls than men because with men, I don't really care if they like me or not - if they don't, I'll move on to someone else but I get nervous with women about if they like me.

What are some opinions on this? I have tried to convince myself that I'm straight so much and for so long. My family are extremely homophobic and they think bisexuals are disgusting sex-hungry out-of-control freaks.

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  • LornaMae
    10 years ago

    Wait, have you only had sex with men? If that's the case, I think you should first try being with a woman and only then think about labeling your sexuality (which I think is not even necessary)...

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    • LindaNsty
      10 years ago

      I agree she should try sex with another female to see if it's what she really wants. I did 5 years ago and I'm so glad I did, I have no regrets. I'm a married bi wife, I've never mentioned anything to my husband. It's something I enjoy and want to keep private. I'd rather have sex with another woman but I do like his penis in me occasionally. But I find being with another female sexually is more satisfying. It's so erotic and you can just let go and be so kinky and nasty if you want too which I prefer doing.

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  • DumBelle
    10 years ago

    Well, with you, this is easy, I've had plenty of friends, stuck in your spot -- it sounds like you're NOT comfortable being 'out'. But in my opinion, it's 99% chance: you're a lesbian. You're gay. (Try saying that outloud!) It's not so easy for everyone. It is obviously taking a while for you to be fully aware of how exactly you feel about women and being in-denial is the worst and last thing you should do. It's almost always a case of not finding a gf and until one does, continue thinking, "I'm straight".. But once you meet a girl that is; your first gf, first love. Your life = changed. For the better. There's so much one misses out on, in denial of their sexuality. A lot of happiness is being missed.. you can enjoy SO much about your romantic partner and genuinely enjoy your life (I always say, if a 'straight' person had a 'normalcy' predisposition and HAD to date their same gender, they'd just not do it/understand) It's not easy coming to terms, but when you do, so much of your true self comes out too.

    I've had a lot of friends say this type of stuff (your post) before coming out to me or before their first gfs. With the indenial type, it always takes a first gf and you're OFF TO THE RACES! :)

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  • Lissisbliss
    10 years ago

    Meh.

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    • RoseIsabella
      10 years ago

      I second that, meh.

      Ugh, a wall of text.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        I third the "meh".

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        • SHAKEStheClown
          10 years ago

          Feel the power of Meh! Hallelujah, praise the gourd!

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  • SillyKitty55
    10 years ago

    hallelujah !
    you have figured out that you are now GAY!

    congratulations !

    Your prize ?

    is that you get to come out of the closet to everyone you know and learn to get some REAL PUSSY !

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  • Hayze
    10 years ago

    I agree with the others above, I think you are gay and that you should explore your feelings by meeting a lady you find attractive and seeing how you feel as your relationship progresses.

    Try not to allow your family and friends to be the reason you live your life unsatisfied and confused.

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