I untied my tubes for him and then......

So we were together for four years. I had my tubes tied several years prior as I had two children and my then husband and I were done. So anyway he asks me to untie them because he wanted a child of his own. He was very good to my children, our home was happy, we were engaged. So I did it. He was so happy! I got pregnant right away and we were over the moon. Then, when I'm five months pregnant he leaves me for his new receptionist ( who he'd known for three months ) I begged him to not do this to our family, he told me to get lost! My other children were 15 and 16, all of us were broken. I lost forty pounds through my pregnancy and was medicated because my crying would trigger labour. It's just a sad story all around. Well he's still with that bitch two years later. She told me to just get over it, she was left when she was pregnant so apparently it's no big deal! But I untied my tubes! It was planned, this wasn't the same. Anyway, he has access to the baby. But what I want to know, why does my heart still ache? I don't love him, I don't want him back, I just want the pain to stop. I've read everything I can get my hands on, talked to doctors..... You know the drill. I don't want medication. I know how lucky I am to have a beautiful healthy baby girl..... What I don't know, is how to make the heartache stop. How to understand how someone can be so evil? So, it's been two years, I don't think this should still hurt, but it does and I can't make it stop. I get through days, no one knows I'm in pain, I can't exhaust people with this anymore. I just don't understand. I don't want to hurt anymore but it won't stop. No one seems to understand, do you? Is it PTSD?
Thanks everyone.

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Comments ( 16 )
  • blueangels7

    Get a lawyer!! Justice might just be the best medicine!!!

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  • Some of what you are feeling has to be about the huge injustice done to you. Talk to a lawyer. That SOB can't just walk away without taking some responsibility for at least, for example, child support. And I hope it is a hefty award. I think you are looking for justice. Get of it what you can, turn your back on that bastard, and don't look back.

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  • kdblueeyes

    I agree with ollieo. Men shouldn't have it easy to just leave and the slut he left you for shouldn't be giving you that advice. She doesn't know your life. I wouldn't just sue for child support, I would also go for emotional damage and health risks. He had you untie your tubes being a major medical pr

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  • kdblueeyes

    Didn't finish.... A major medical procedure that you could have died under main because of anesthia. He, I should say tricked, he convinced you to do something you hadn't planned and then left. He should be punished for what he did. No man should get someone pregnant and just leave, but it's worse when he plans to be with you to have his child and then leaves.

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  • eden22553

    Pick up a hobby or sonething that interests you? That asshole...

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  • arabmoney

    Fuck him men r so evil sometimes

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  • hotchickie81

    Wow. I am SO sorry to hear that. What a jerk!!! I hope what goes around comes around, and he gets what he deserves. Not sure what to tell you about the heartache... not an easy fix, for sure. Best of luck to you :)

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  • LovelyLisa

    What a dick!!! Time heals everything, hang in there......

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  • Kayli

    Be grateful that that POS is out of your life! Move on and live your life for your kids, not for your past.

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  • grumpybarbie

    Lord have mercy, there's more than one of those fucktards running around out there? What happened to morals and values?!

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  • emms1981

    the bloke is a jerk. The same thing happened to my aunty she had something done so she couldn't have anymore kids then she met a younger guy and did everything she could to make hime happy, had it reversed and gave him a daughter then the twat left her.

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  • queenZEBRA

    I totally agree. What a total jackass!

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  • lovekills

    guys are fucking asses.

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  • prayerwarrior75

    I'm so sorry. I will pray for you though :-)

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  • x6tence

    yea what the hell those assholes r still out there, empathy much ?
    bout that u still have feelings for him,
    when u think bout him u might remember the good times n like u never will be able to be as happy as u were wit him,
    u know u gonna be the one whos tellin him
    hes gonna get lost haha dont be afraid theres no way u can lose this proceeding

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  • cod4120292

    Wow I can understand your pain. Your life is different now it is time to let go see if you can see a lawyer and see if there is any justice in this. As far as your pain maybe got to church and see if you can forgive we are not here to judge no one we leave that up to the man upstairs but maybe you can find peace within your self so you can move on. Good luck

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