I turn down everyone that asks me out

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So before you go and say I'm stuck up or a bitch or a snob save it I've heard it all. Let me explain why before you assume.
So I was over weight from the time I was 7 until I was 15. I was always made fun of and picked on, mostly by guys though girls probably talked about me behind my back. I was called ugly and fat and gross and just resently I saw a picture of myself and someone commented on it saying 'eww' it was 3 years ago when I was 14 but it still hurt the same as it did back then, it brought it all back for me.
I never had many friends (I still don't) or much attention from guys. Other then the bad attention like picking on me or making fun of me. I remember some guys where walking by as I was walking home at lunch time and yelled 'Yuck!' and 'Gross'. It really hurt me, I don't know how to explain the feeling.
So I started dieting, I went from 200lbs to 140lbs I started when I was 13 and lost it all by 15.
I thought it would all change that my out look on myself would be different that people would treat me different. I still see in the mirror that ugly girl and wish to god I didn't, those names they called me imbedded in my brain fat, ugly, gross.
I do get more attention from guys, but it doesn't feel the way I though it would. The people who used to pick on me where asking me out, I turn down all of them.
I want someone who likes me for me not because I am 'good looking'. If I looked the same way I did then no one would take a second glance at me? I guess you could say I'm bitter toward them. Because of it I've been called a snob, bitch, stuck up. When really I'm shy, insecure and a little bitter toward all the jackass's who hurt me.

So the question I'm asking is do I have a right to feel this way??

Oh and sorry if this is really long and confusing, I just needed to get it off me chest.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Payback in its finest form, they make fun of you and then you change and show them what they cant have.

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  • t33h33
    12 years ago

    will you go out with me ?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    they did you a favor. you have suffered which is good adds depth and you are choosy, you have higher standards now. all good, smile its time to shine

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      that's a good way to look at it :)

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  • Carasaysherro
    12 years ago

    Hell no! You are completely normal. I went through that but you're a better person than me. I came back and made them all pay. Hahaha. I wouldn't pick those jerks either. Go and find someone better from another town or something.

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  • Appreciate
    12 years ago

    that's quite an accomplishment losing 60 pounds :)
    you should be proud.

    maybe try putting yourself in other people's shoes.. would you have even taken a second glance at someone who was "ugly, fat, gross"?

    probably not... maybe try giving all those jackass's a chance, cuz you could've been one of them

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      I know even if I was skinny all my life I wouldn't be like them at all. I am not someone to judge people for how they look. I wouldn't pick on someone because of how they looked infact I wouldn't pick on people at all.
      See the thing is that I was overweight and I fixed that, but they will never be able to fix there ugly personality. I won't give them a chance because why would I give someone a chance who hurt me and bullied me?

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      • Appreciate
        12 years ago

        well, you're saying that because you've been through it and you know how it feels. they don't :/

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          12 years ago

          Yes but even if I'd been skinny all my life it wouldn't have changed my personality, I'm a very sympathetic person even when I haven't been through it. I'm not a judgemental person either, I don't judge people on how they look. I was born with this personality and it wouldn't have changed even if I had been skinny all my life.

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          • Appreciate
            12 years ago

            I don't think anyone is born with a personality... its the experiences you go through that dictate how you act and feel about certain things :/

            and you cant really expect everyone to be as
            sympathetic and nonjudgmental as you :/

            I'm not trying to be offensive of anything, i'm just trying to point out that you cant be too harsh on everyone else, though its completely understandable that you turn them down. And i think it's great that you're a sympathetic person, you're doing a favor for the world :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    It's normal, an as a girl to another girl. I would have been your friend.

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  • I_steal_free_bread
    12 years ago

    Suck ma bawlls!

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    That is completely normal. And you shouldn't change for ANYONE that teases you and makes fun of you because they're obviously not worth your time. And it's ridiculous how much people judge. And don't love people for who they are. I'm skinny and get called a stick a lot, even though i'm not that skinny. And I still do reject a lot of guys because I just get told I am "sexy" and that bull shit and I want to be called "gorgeous" and "beautiful".
    And even though I'm not sure what you look like, you're beautiful and gorgeous.
    Everyone is in their own way. For me, I like my eyes. But that's it. Self concious sucks. And is a hard thing especially if you get teased about it.

    Those people are just so fucking retarded it blows my mind.

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  • FASHIONWHORE
    12 years ago

    Keep on being a 'bitch' or 'stuck up'. Those guys aren't worth your time and effort. They didn't like you for you then, why the change now. I advise try building your self esteem and keep on rejecting those guys. Some day you'll find a guy that wants you for you.

    Good luck!! :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Good for you losing the weight! :D I'd be the same. I'm currently still overweight and I had to deal with years of nasty bullying, even if I lose the weight I want someone who loves me for who I am, not because they think I look good. I just wish all bullies get what they deserve, I can't find it in me to forgive my bullies for what they've done to my self-esteem.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    I'm the same way. I'm always like, "No thank you." or "I would rather be friends.". I think you do have a right to feel the way you do, and good for you! I'm sure you're gonna meet someone who will take you as you are, and they'll love it. The people who used to make fun of you, they don't deserve even an acknowledgement from you. You've already seen their true colors.

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  • -WhySoSerious-
    12 years ago

    Always remember that they also were little kids when they said mean things about you. And trust me on this, they do feel bad about picking on you. Everyone remembers and it is going to stick to their brains, some of them will not be able to confront you about it, while others who have the courage will at some point.

    I know it's hard to let things go, but you really should try and forget thoseremarks. Everyone is beautiful in their own way!

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    Of course you have the right to feel this way. Why would you want to go out with these judgemental bullies anyway?

    A lot of people getting new-found attention wouldn't have the strength of character to choose not to accept it, and to wait for someone genuine. You do seem to have that within you. I also think you're displaying a lot of maturity.

    Keep on as you are. You're doing just fine.

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  • ygrowup
    12 years ago

    Yes, maybe you deserve this right to turn them down, but it seems that it comes with the cost of being lonely and alone!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      I'd rather be alone then with those jerks. And who says I'm alone, just because I don't havea boyfriend doesn't mean I'm alone.

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  • AmvEditor
    12 years ago

    Pooping rainbow nyan cat.

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