I tried to kill my boyfriend when i was drunk

I am not a troll. This is 100% and I don't have anywhere else to turn. I am an extremely depressed person and have been feeling suicidal for the last week.

I felt terrible after getting off of work yesterday. My boyfriend picked me up and wanted to get drinks at a restaurant. I was slightly annoyed because I didn't want to spend a lot of time there, but I decided to go with it and just get myself something to eat.

He spent the whole time drinking and we talked a lot about upsetting subjects. Like my past relationships (he asked) and the kind of girls he's attracted to. The more intoxicated he got the more he spoke of other girls. The whole time I was thinking about how I'd gotten cheated on by my ex. We spent over 2 hours in there so I was pretty angry. In the car I accidentally called him my ex's name and that caused a short argument. It was a complete accident and I lost my temper and started punching the dashboard.

When things calmed down I asked him to take me to the wine store. I bought 2 bottles and was in tears on the whole way to his place. As soon as I got in I grabbed the wine opener and immediately started to down the bottle. I was crying hysterically and couldn't stop thinking about death. He tried to comfort me, then he fell asleep and I was alone.

I first tried to wake him with a blowjob and sex. He woke for the sex and we did that for maybe 10 minutes but then he passed out again and nothing could wake him. (He's an extremely heavy sleeper and the alcohol made it worse).

At one point I'd nearly finished the first bottle of wine and was desperately trying to wake him by cutting off his breathing. I pinched his nose shut and covered his mouth with my other hand. He started to wake to fight my hands off and him waking is what excited me. So I'd just do it again. His attempts at moving my hands were kinda feeble. And then I started to feel him sucking air through my fingers. So I placed a pillow over his mouth and pressed down while still pinching his nose. This time I wouldn't let him move my hands. He started struggling so I used some of my body weight to hold it down and just stayed there. I wanted to stay there until he stopped moving. Then after a while he suddenly shoved me off of him and was having coughing fits then he kept saying over and over again in a daze "you tried to kill me. You tried to kill me. I've never had a girlfriend try to kill me".

For maybe 20 minutes after, I kept begging him to hit me and was using his limp hands to hit me across the face as hard as possible. We both were crying.

I called him this morning and he didn't mention any of it. I don't know what to do but I feel scared.

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Comments ( 23 )
  • Fall_leaves

    Break up with him and get help. This is probably the most disturbing post I've read on this site. Seriously you need help, this is not normal.

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    • I'm scared of breaking up because I fear being alone. I'm scared of getting help.

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      • Fall_leaves

        You would be alone if you succeeded and facing murder charges, so for his safety breakup with him. You know you have a problem and you're the only one that can do something about it. So stop using fear as an excuse to not get the help you need.

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        • After doing some research I realized that there is a very high chance that I have borderline personality disorder. He and I are planning to see a counselor together tomorrow.

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        • I cut myself tonight for the first time in years..

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      • RoseIsabella

        Excuses excuses. Are you afraid of life in prison, the death penalty or Hell?

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  • cocktroll

    next time use a plastic bag

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  • dirtybirdy

    You're bonkers and he needs to run far far away from you asap.

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  • ucipher8

    Let me get this straight... You were having a bad day at work. He came to pick you up and you guys went out to eat. He got drunk, talked too much. You were hungry, but still upset. On the way home you got alcohol for yourself, and drank until he fell asleep. You needed comfort, not the kind you were looking for but - comfort.

    You eventually ended up getting aroused by him nearly suffocating (with a hard on im assuming) or just plain decided that he's just like your ex boyfriend and i kind of feel like there is something about your ex you haven't completely "erased" from your mind.

    We all need help, i dont think that anyone in this reality is truly "stable" or "normal". It sounds like hes more scared of you then upset or mad at you, i mean you guys were dating in the first place right? I wouldn't recommend a day of sex and blowjobs - maybe just a day at an amusement park where the two of you can just hang chill and talk cause - this would otherwise be a very good story to tell on your wedding night.

    Then again, maybe you should've just bitten off his dick or he should've called the cops.

    The internet.

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  • See this is what crazy thinks, I'll act real crazy and slutty and give him mind blowing sex and he'll forget about the craziness.

    If he stays with you he deserves to get his dick chopped off, which you may do one day.

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  • 213

    bitch please

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  • noid

    You both need to not drink anymore, especially together.

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  • Darkoil

    I don't know why I found this extremely funny but seriously you probably should seek professional help.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Call 911, tell them what happened so they can commit you a psychiatric ward where you belong! Also, you need to call your boyfriend, tell him you are deeply sorry then explain that you cannot see him anymore.

    You're most likely a mentally ill alcoholic. I don't care if you're scared, you need to sober up and get the professional help you need. Whatever so called problems you think will come from seeking help will be a tiny fraction of the consequences you'll have if you actually kill this poor boy or anyone else for that matter. Being intoxicated is NEVER an excuse for hurting or killing someone else!

    If you don't hear a word of my response at least dial 911, and tell the operator that you're suicidal.

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  • thegypsysailor

    "If you can't say anything nice about a person, then don't say anything at all."
    I can't think of anything nice to say to you.

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  • kelili

    This will only get worse. I don't mean that you will kill him one day but the relationship will break you. Too much emotions. You seem like you are a really sensitive person and you be with someone who understand your sensitiveness (or sensitivity, idk).

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  • WardieWN1993

    Well, it isn't normal, and I'm likely going to sound insane, but if I were in his shoes I wouldn't be too hard on you for it. Like, I can't help but feel that there would be a sense of excitement and danger if I thought I could die after going to bed.

    In fact, I'd probably ask you to change it up abit, I.E. holding a knife to my throat making me swear I love you with my whole heart, and doing the same whilst you hold a loaded handgun to the side of my head.

    Again, I'm no doubt going to sound insane, but I do think it would be living dangerously, bringing its own adreneline high, to think that my girlfriend could kill me at any point in the night.

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  • Couman

    Maybe stop drinking.

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  • Sounds like a typical situation to me.

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  • Rihyae

    Reminds me of when I almost strangled my friend after a hug the day after we had a fight over fanfics...

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  • Aries

    this is pretty fucked ? I don't use that for many threads but this one deserves it . You should seek some help or try to fix things within yourself while being single . I can tell you this much .. if you tried that psycho shit on me , my moral commitment to people and women would change real quick because if you made an attempt on my life I wouldn't have a problem showing you what the medicine tastes like followed by throwing you to the curb ... literally . I know men can be fuckers some times and so can females but it's no excuse for that nonsense ... if a guy did it , he would be trashed for it to no end and be in jail .

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  • chained_rage

    That's okay, my ex stabbed me by accident one time

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  • Angelmikeal0

    you were drunk get over it, he has, but i suggest you make him happy maybe a whole day of nothing but sex and blowjobs.

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