I took him back now he wants to get married after 3 months

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We have been dating for three months and we were moving fast. We were having unprotected sex and he got scared and suggested to get tested and that we took a break. He is an American attending medical school on my island. We ceased conversation for two weeks, and while on the break l saw him out with another girl and got mad and cussed him over text. He did not contact me in ten days.

Then he came back last Wednesday said he was sorry, I am his ideal girl, and he does not need any other girl when he has me, he misses me and really wants to see me. He said he wanted to make sure the results came back negative before moving forward, and he seemed more involved in the relationship. So l gave him another chance, we spent Saturday night together, no sex and he has talked about me marrying him and moving to the states with him, since he will be leaving for good, as this is his last term, and he will be doing clinical then residency.

I told him l am not sure about moving and we need to speak about it more, now he is distant again. We had plans to see each other and he canceled last minute, l missed his night time call, and told him this morning l was asleep. He reads it and answers two hrs later? I don't wanna bother him much cuz l know he has finals next week. But I have been very anxious, l cannot study as I should, l am insecure and l keep crying. What should I really do? I fear he maybe manipulating me, what do you think? Do you think l am paranoid? I haven't been in a relationship or intimate in the last three years. I just need him to be honest with me about our future.

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    Seems like an uneven level of commitment. Don't make any serious investment in this guy, emotional or otherwise. Rushed marriages don't end well.

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  • CDmale4fem
    7 years ago

    First clue - Hes a guy. If nothing else ever remains in your memory- remember this - "Someone can only do to you what you allow them to do".
    You are much more deserving of: someone that will love respect and be good to you. Dump the pinch of shit loser. Just my opinion.

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    He's manipulating you.

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  • Nichole2016
    7 years ago

    His actions already explain it he doesn't want to be with you. He got pleasure knowing you still thought about him when you cussed him out in the text message. He doesn't care about your feelings. Don't marry him or move with him it will take you away from all your family your support. I had the same thing happen to me. Then three months later I came home and all his stuff was gone I had no family to run to to help me. I took him back three months later . I moved again with him and bam! Came home n he was gone again he would call me everyone once in a while saying he missed me and want to see me . But I just started noticing it was because of he missed the sex . Be smart about this he showed u how he already is be strong you deserve better .

    Best of luck to you in Wat ever u decide.

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