I took a 16 year olds virginity when i was 22, read story before voting pls

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So l looked into the law where I live ( I'll be it after the fact 😁) and although it was complicated it seemed as if everything checked out legally due to the fact of some age range laws.

This was a few years ago now, But it was one of the strangest nights i've ever had. Im not really proud of it either. It's almost unbelievable but I assure you ever part of it is true.

I was driving home from a concert and literally on the side of a free way at the corner of my eye I see a girl at the edge of the darkness and my headlights with her thumb out for a ride as i wiz by. I decided to stop, as i do for lots of hitchhikers, she gets in and too my astonishment, she's actually a really pretty girl with a mild punk rock kind of look but very innocent and sweet looking. turns out she had ran away from some drug rehabilitation facility that she was sent to from out of state.

She just wanted to hang out and said she didn't have anywhere in particular she needed/wanted to be, we talked about a lot of things, eventually with the topic of sex coming up, she said she was virgin and that she had only kissed guys and what not.

I told her we could go to this really cool look out i know of where you can see all the city lights, we got up there and she talked about how i was cute and i said she was cute, ya know yada yada, we started kissing,I looked her in eyes in-between kissing and directly asked her if she wanted to try sex and she said yes, we went to the back seat and fogged up those windows as i took her virginity. We hung out a couple more hours and long story short i got her number and she eventually wanted to be dropped off.

It seemed so insane and unlikely, I was a happy guy but also felt indifferent like maybe i had done something wrong, I mean I'm not an intimidating guy or anything, she did say she wanted to, but I still felt a little at odds with it as i drove home that night or rather morning since it was around 4 am when i got back. And damn was it weird waking up that next day, it felt like a dream....like how in the fuck did that actually just happen, she never responded to my text and i've never heard from her since.

what do you think is it normal? Am i an evil bastard? i mean i wouldn't want to hurt anyone, Im a super emotional type and try to be ethical always, but was I blinded by being horny? was it wrong? what would you have done?

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SmokeEverything

4 years ago

Sounds pretty normal

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Boojum

4 years ago

For what it's worth, I find the story plausible.

You sound like a thoughtful, caring person who possibly over-thinks things.

You found the girl attractive, she found you attractive, and the two of you seem to have formed some sort of connection in the little time you spent together. From what you say, you didn't force yourself on her, and it was all consensual. It might be questionable if her maturity and mental state were such that she was capable of truly understanding the implications of what she agreed to do, but the law where you live says that girls that age can consent to sex, and it sounds like she wasn't so out of her head on booze or drugs that she didn't know what she was doing.

You did the deed, she was comfortable enough with you to hang around for a couple hours after instead of running away into the night, and you were gentleman enough to both take her where she wanted to go, and then try to contact her afterwards.

Since she didn't respond to your message, she clearly didn't want to see you again, but you'd be wise to avoid reading anything into that. Maybe she was embarrassed by what she'd done, or maybe she just saw you as the guy who finally punched her V-card. Maybe she was sensible enough to have decided long before she met you that she'd lose her virginity to an older guy with some experience rather than someone her age, and when she agreed to have sex with you she was sure that was all she'd ever want from you. Or maybe she spent so long processing what had happened that she was back home far away by the time she realised she would have liked to see you again. Speculation about this is pointless.

The important thing is that you behaved honourably in this situation, and there's no need for you to feel guilty. It would have been different if you saw her standing by the road, thought that she looked hot and immediately formed a plan to seduce/rape her, and hauled her off to a secluded place to force yourself on her, but that's not what happened. You got aroused, explicitly asked her if she wanted to have sex, and she agreed. Nothing at all weird about that. She was legally not a minor and girls at 16 are no longer children, so you're definitely not a paedophile by any reasonable definition.

Also consider the fact that she was very lucky to be picked up by you, rather than a guy or guys who would have no qualms about being far less respectful and possibly even violent. There are loads of guys like that around, and her hitchhiking alone in the middle of the night was incredibly risky.

(BTW, you say you felt "indifferent", but I suspect the word you're looking for there is conflicted. Entirely different things.)

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  Hey man thanks for the thoughtful reply! definitely helped to hear your opinion on the manner. I feel a bit less conflicted about it now, ( yes.. not indifferent... thanks for catching that)
  
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brutus

4 years ago

Absolutely normal.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  You think? I guess I always grew up with the idea that anything below 18 makes you a pedo or something. I mean I suppose we were only 6 years apart, but Idk it was at the very least pushing the boundary of whats okay, right?
  
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RoseIsabella

4 years ago

Sounds too opportunistic, and also sounds like a made up story. It sounds like you took advantage of a vulnerable person.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  just curious, do think there us anything i can or should do to make it right? what would your course of action be if you were me ? or what do you think should happen to me?
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    4 years ago
    
    I think that you should just try to let it go, and forgive yourself since the young lady hasn't approached you about the situation. I also think that you should make a point to understand that you shouldn't seek to deflower any virgins that you should meet, especially if the young lady is significantly younger than you, intoxicated, or otherwise vulnerable as a result of some emotional, or mental condition.
    
    I think you should be careful who you go with, never take advantage of a vulnerable person, and always use protection. When you meet a vulnerable young lady always remember that she is someone's daughter, she is someone's sister; treat her with kindness and do no take advantage of her.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      4 years ago
      
      Thank you rose, you are always gold
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        4 years ago
        
        Thanks.
        
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  I assure you every part of it is true, I wouldn't waist my time typing up a bogus story and questioning the morality of it. perhaps because I didn't go into too much detail so it sounds to chunky but All events listed really did happen as unlikely as some of them sound. anyway, thanks for your opinion on it, I not only had mixed feelings about it when it happened, but even now when I look back I feel at odds with it.
  
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Tret4u

4 years ago

I can only speak for myself I have never had an attraction for younger girls and first and foremost and outside of the sex there is really no reason do you have sex with a young girl like that of that age. There is a difference in the thought processes between 16 and 22 as people mature. And if it's just a pure lust thing that's selfish and self-centered if you are really interested in her then you can wait number one till she turns legal age even though there are laws on books permitting such things it isn't a wise decision. Again I'm not judging you I'm just stating what I think.girls that young think they know what they want but in reality they don't.you are supposed to be more mature than her and therefore should act mature. If it's truly meant to be in you truly love her then wait. I've always said a stiff prick has no conscience. I have made some bad decisions in my youth by letting the small head think for the big head it ain't worth it. There are some crazy people out there and some of them can become stalking type or just plain psycho bitch from hell.

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wiccensinner666

4 years ago

i think its normal i would have done the same thing age is just a number after all

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  well it is just a number, but sometimes an important one one would think in some circumstances lol
  
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SKDM007

4 years ago

NONCE

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Carfentanil

4 years ago

It sounds like something out of a dear penthouse forum book, but i think its pretty normal, especially since you know its wrong that she was underage. Some guys wouldn't care enough to ask this question at all

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WeirdDudeFromTheSouth

4 years ago

Pretty normal

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