I told my friend i like her

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after telling my friend i like her, she didn't say much of anything. it was okay with her and i can only assume she feels differently about me. the thing is, she's one of my only friends. it's very difficult for me to get to know people because i'm shy and only open up after i feel a real connection. i feel panicked after telling her, but she hasn't changed at all. i'm definitely standoffish now and although i feel bad about it, i can't really help myself. i feel selfish and this has really taken a toll on my already low self esteem. while i already know this isn't exactly normal, i also know that a lot of people give good advice on this website (and, to my delight, it's anonymous). can any of you tell me how you've found ways to move on from people when you don't have much confidence? thank you in advance xoxo

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  • SKDM007
    4 years ago

    liking doesnt mean youve caught feelings yet so i think this will pass

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  • Ellenna
    4 years ago

    What do you mean by "liking" her? Presumably you like her or she wouldn't be a friend, it't totally normal to like friends and even to love them.

    If you meant being sexually attracted to her, that's another matter entirely.

    Either way, if she hasn't changed towards you, isn't that a good thing? Don't withdraw from her now: you took a risk and got a good result, congratulations! Maybe you need to find some professional help for your low self esteem?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      thank you for the response! i apologize for not being clear enough, i did mean that i like her in a romantic manner. i'm seeking help for my problems and hope to soon change. i agree with what you said, i just wasn't expecting the response i got from her and wasn't sure if there was an extra step i should take such as apologizing to her in some way.

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      • Ellenna
        4 years ago

        I do hope you're not seeing your attraction to your friend as a problem you can change with help and that you mean help with your low self esteem?

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