I told him it was rude to ask if i were a virgin and now he's gone,iin

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He seemed amazing in the way that I thought he was genuine, honest, kind and most of all a gentleman who liked me for me. We were sort of seeing each other a little in between work, or what we could any how. He used to txt everyday asking how I am. One time when we were txting, he asked if he could ask a very personal question, I replied something along the lines of "I'll try to..."
He asked if I were a virgin and said I didn't have to answer it if I didn't want to. I didn't and later he said sorry and I explained how rude and how disappointed I am that he asked that. He said he wasn't trying to be rude at all & said sorry again I'll leave you to enjoy the rest of your night. Ever since that day I haven't heard from him. Its been 2-3 weeks!! Was he not really the nice guy I thought he was or do you think he's feeling bad ?

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  • Crow
    8 years ago

    There's a chance he assumed that *you* didn't want anything more to do with him and just have up on you.

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    • charli.m
      8 years ago

      This, mostly.

      Maybe he was a jerk, but I'd lean towards he was trying to be respectful, given the response.

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  • ThingOne
    8 years ago

    You used bad tact. It would have been much better to say, "I'll tell you when I get to know you better."

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  • mystery7
    8 years ago

    Call me old fashioned but what kind of douche-fart asks a girl if she's a virgin by text msg?

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  • Tealights
    8 years ago

    Why not just tell him the truth, as in: "Yes (or no), but I'm uncomfortable with talking about it, so let's save that from another time"?

    If I were in his shoes, I wouldn't talk to you either, not because I don't know your sexual history, but because you get disappointed so easily.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      What can I say!
      People are full of disapointments, besides this was a very disappointing thing to ask coming from someone like him.

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      • Tealights
        8 years ago

        If he wasn't the kind of guy you can trust sensitive information like that with, then why were you even talking to him in the first place? Let it go, and move on.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          Its got nothing to do with whether I trust him with this information or not, the point is that if he was a decent guy he shouldn't even be asking this. Up until that question I trusted him but this type of question shows where his mind is at and what his intentions are is he probably just wants to have a wam bam thank you ma'am.

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          • Tealights
            8 years ago

            So.... he neither force himself on you, nor did he force information out of you like true scumbags out there. On top of that he immediately apologized once he realized how uncomfortable you are, and apologized more after you chewed him out...

            Basically, he was an okay guy, but your standards are far too high. I wish you luck on finding someone who fits your expectations.

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            • Vile
              8 years ago

              I think the man didn't like something about the response he got and simply walked away. Nothing more, nothing less.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              8 years ago

              My standards are way too high ? I'm sorry that you don't have the same morals as I do in the way that I know when there are red signals flashing. I don't want to be taken advantage of sexually and his question points in that direction indicating thats his main purpose of grooming me!

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  • DannyKanes
    8 years ago

    That's a toughie, I'd dare say he wasn't all you thought he cracked up to be. Maybe leave you alone for maybe a day or so and then apologize again, but 2-3 weeks and not a peep? That's pretty excessive.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Sounds like he's one of those guys who are only interested in taking a girl's virginity. I've little doubt that after he'd taken your virginity (theoretically,) he'd have moved on without even a thank you.
    Good thing he's gone. Good riddance.

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  • teeth30395
    8 years ago

    he wants to be the first if you are tell him and dont give it to him if not tell him if he calls then good if not he wants virgin to marry dont give it up if you are

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  • theseeker
    8 years ago

    If he had a real interest in you I don't know why he would ask you that. It's a stupid question, and one that doesn't really matter in the big picture. It's possible that your reaction caused him to feel uncomfortable because I think that would make things a lot more awkward.

    There's no way to know for sure what he's really thinking. Playing this guessing game probably won't work out that well, in my opinion. It might be better to just move on.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    8 years ago

    Stupidity ... you wear it well.

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